To not give her a lift?

She wasn't allowed to sit in the front so was kicking the seat in a bratty protest by the sound of it

How is you car configured that the child sat in the front and kicked the back of your chair? And yes the mother is a CF.

Your response: "Excellent. It sounds like you'll be happy to take over the taxi service for the child. I'm glad to hear it's sorted."

Oh my, they obviously don't understand that "it takes a village" means that everyone does their bit 🙄

For what it's worth, I'd explain to the teacher that you can't take her - make something up if you need to, e.g. not going straight home today.

If it's a proper organised thing, then they should/will have emergency contact details and so they need to use them if the child is left.

I'm afraid a bit of upset and shame might be the only solution here, and the other people on the chat seem to be giving in to her demands.

Just say you don’t appreciate not being asked , it’s rude . They shouldn’t expect it . They need to ask and if and when you can do it that’s up to you .
Say how you feel , blow what the others may say or think !
Feel for the child but their attitude doesn’t sound great , no surprise there .

I agree completely. OP has no idea whether the parent actually told the child to get a ride with OP. It could have been the child's own idea. Children have been known to lie about what parents said. OP could find the police at her door, accusing her of kidnapping a child. I definitely wouldn't risk it.

I’d reply quite bluntly…

’I’ve tried to politely decline but honestly, your daughter was very rude yesterday. She pushed my daughter and demanded to sit in the front and after I politely asked her to take her seat in the back she proceeded to kick the back of my seat on the journey home. It’s not a favour I’m going to repeat unfortunately so please make other arrangements’!

This is so out of order I can’t believe it.
Sorry if I’ve missed this but why can’t the mum collect herself?

Fuck me, what a cheeky mare she is!

Just say you will not be giving lifts, end of, if it takes a lift then why can one of the others not give them a lift?
i certainly would not gift an ill mannered child a lift or an entitled parent help.
DO NOT DO IT.
Every week they will expect it.
every week there will be an excuse.
ignore the others.
remember the brass neck of this mother.
if she does not collect her child thats on her. They will contact her or social services.
not your problem. She left her child there, on her own.
she assumed you would take her home without speaking to you. There is something very wrong.

Don't put it in the public chat - private message - I am sorry I cannot take your child. I am sure you will find an alternative.

Message the parent directly and say “Unfortunately I am unable to provide transport for Sally. I feel I’ve been rather put on the spot here which is extremely embarrassing for us both. I’m sure if you communicate with the group leaders/other parents you will be able to find a suitable solution.

I don't make it sound like anything. I'm just surprised that it happened in that way, with no obvious parental consent or agreement from the club organisers.
I don't doubt that her intentions were fine. That was not my point.
Also, the "Jeez" bit?. I'm not attacking women. I'm trying to understand the situation.
No attacking women. Whatsoever.

yes you're right!!! I've been deleted. bloody hell I didn't realise it would look like i was troll hunting, never mind, I'll choose my words more carefully next time.

Or... OP was put on the spot and, in the moment, reluctantly agreed to do a nice thing and take the child home rather than leave her stranded. She shouldn't have been put in that position, and it was arguably unwise to comply, but in the moment she chose to help. Jeez, women really can't win with some people, can they?

These people all know each other. You make it sound like they're random strangers.

Just put your child in the car and leave. You not agreed to take the other child back. Not your circus of monkeys to deal with. I'd also remove myself off the what'sapp or silent it.

Yes, that's what I was wondering. I don't know what the club's organisers are doing, really. They surely understand safeguarding?

It takes a village?

I'd tell them that every village has an idiot and it's not you!

I would contact the activity and let them know what has happened including you not knowing they expected a lift and even address and parent not in. I would say to the parent and the WhatsApp group that last week put you in a very difficult position and you have been advised not to give lifts to this child.

I don't understand. You took a child, with no obvious parental permission, put them in your car and drove them to an address they told you, then left them with someone who wasn't a parent?
What were you thinking?.

Your mistake was giving a reason.
“I am not going to be giving any lifts”
End of, no excuses cos CF will always find a reason for you still do to what they want you to.
I would send the above message. And don’t be drawn into any other messages.

No. Quite rightly, she isn't willing to share the driving, because of her DD's needs and how the other mum's child behaved in her car. She owes this CF less than nothing.

You need to answer back firmly - I am unable to give lifts home from this activity.

What age are these girls ? You should have messaged the Mum after last week’s lift and said you were surprised when the girl asked you for a lift home and you obliged on that occasion, but will not be doing so again. As an aside, your daughter was badly behaved in the car.

No excuses of grocery shopping. Just a simple No. No messaging into group chats, contact parents directly.

This is one of those posts that I’m almost hoping is a wind up as it’s made me so angry! I want to go round this woman’s house and give her a bollocking!

Tell the parent that these two other ladies are happy to share the lift duties and she should contact them to make arrangements. Honestly what a bunch of arseholes they all seem.