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Woman shouted at me for parking in a disabled spot

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AusMumhere · 12/02/2025 09:03

I parked in a disabled spot at the supermarket today. A woman about four cars away shouted at me and said 'that's a wheelie spot'. I shouted back 'I have a permit'. She then yelled 'where's ya walker?'. I said 'not all disabilities are visible'. I hate confrontation of any kind.
Should I have walked away or should I have responded? I'm still in shock that I shouted.

OP posts:
Bodenne · 12/02/2025 16:20

Lol at wheelie. Where on earth do you live?

HeyMuggie · 12/02/2025 16:20

I get the same. I just say I'm registered blind 🤷🏻‍♀️

Coffeeishot · 12/02/2025 16:19

I can't even be arsed to comment on the concert space scenario I mean how dare somebody have an evening out.

Coffeeishot · 12/02/2025 16:17

Rosscameasdoody · 12/02/2025 15:22

I think for many disabled people a ‘good’ day doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t need to use a disabled space though. If the disability is permanent, there’s a limit to how ‘good’ it gets. Hence the need for the badge.

This, I have better days than others it doesn't mean I'm skipping about cured usually just means I'm in less pain I'm still going to use a disabled spot (or the lift) to maintain the better day.

TigerRag · 12/02/2025 16:17

BoundaryGirl3939 · 12/02/2025 16:14

Unfortunately they are given out like sweets by some doctors.
My brother has a wheelchair bay outside his house. He lives a 20 min walk from a well known concert venue. Whenever a concert is due to take place, you can guarantee a chancer with a badge will try take it if he's not at home.
Anyone who can walk 20 mins to a concert venue, enjoy the concert, and make the walk back to the car hours later is taking the piss. They shouldn't be taking the space from someone who is actually disabled.

I think you need to look up the criteria. I can walk 20 metres. I can't do it safely without the help of another person due to dual sensory loss

BoundaryGirl3939 · 12/02/2025 16:14

BoredZelda · 12/02/2025 16:10

Some disabilities aren’t visible which is correct, and some people have disabilities that good days and bad days, just because you “can” doesn’t mean you “should”

We shouldn't get in to disability top trumps. If the organisation who provides the badges decide that a person is disabled enough to need one, then they should have one, and they should use the spaces provided for them. They aren't given out like sweeties, you do have to have a specific reason for requiring the spaces. Not every disabled person is eligible for a badge.

Unfortunately they are given out like sweets by some doctors.
My brother has a wheelchair bay outside his house. He lives a 20 min walk from a well known concert venue. Whenever a concert is due to take place, you can guarantee a chancer with a badge will try take it if he's not at home.
Anyone who can walk 20 mins to a concert venue, enjoy the concert, and make the walk back to the car hours later is taking the piss. They shouldn't be taking the space from someone who is actually disabled.

BoredZelda · 12/02/2025 16:13

"Good days and bad days" - yes because disability comes and goes like the wind......one day you can just start skipping and running around.

To be fair, there are some disabilities where this can be the case. My friend has lupus. On her good days she can run for miles. On her bad days, she can't get out of bed.

TigerRag · 12/02/2025 16:11

BoundaryGirl3939 · 12/02/2025 16:04

They are handing those Wheelchair cards out like smarties. A lazy and overweight neighbour of mine is trying to get one. My brother, who is in a wheelchair, frequently can't park in wheelchair spots because they are taken by people who have can walk without any issue. The system is being abused.

Only people in wheelchairs, or people are have significant difficulties, walking should get them. It's turning into a joke.

What's a wheelchair card?

BoredZelda · 12/02/2025 16:10

Some disabilities aren’t visible which is correct, and some people have disabilities that good days and bad days, just because you “can” doesn’t mean you “should”

We shouldn't get in to disability top trumps. If the organisation who provides the badges decide that a person is disabled enough to need one, then they should have one, and they should use the spaces provided for them. They aren't given out like sweeties, you do have to have a specific reason for requiring the spaces. Not every disabled person is eligible for a badge.

XenoBitch · 12/02/2025 16:09

BoundaryGirl3939 · 12/02/2025 16:04

They are handing those Wheelchair cards out like smarties. A lazy and overweight neighbour of mine is trying to get one. My brother, who is in a wheelchair, frequently can't park in wheelchair spots because they are taken by people who have can walk without any issue. The system is being abused.

Only people in wheelchairs, or people are have significant difficulties, walking should get them. It's turning into a joke.

My friend can physically walk without any issue, except she can't see when it is daylight (has photophobia). She was issued a Blue Badge despite not being on PIP, because she can't see where she is going, and has to have someone guide her.
She has to submit a lot of evidence whenever her BB needs renewing. She gets one, so is entitled.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 12/02/2025 16:04

They are handing those Wheelchair cards out like smarties. A lazy and overweight neighbour of mine is trying to get one. My brother, who is in a wheelchair, frequently can't park in wheelchair spots because they are taken by people who have can walk without any issue. The system is being abused.

Only people in wheelchairs, or people are have significant difficulties, walking should get them. It's turning into a joke.

BashfulClam · 12/02/2025 16:00

jellyfishperiwinkle · 12/02/2025 10:15

I'm applying for a Blue Badge for my mum, who relies on me to give her lifts everywhere. If they see me bounce out of the car first to go round and open the door for mum, people could draw the wrong conclusions.

Just wanted to note also, as well as not all disabilities being visible, that the driver may not be the one with the mobility problem.

I had a man accost me for that once as I walked round to open the boot ‘you’re not disabled!’ I said ‘well your glasses work as that’s true I’m not but he is!’ I pointed past him to where my mother was pushing my Dad in his wheelchair to the car. As he deflated a lot due to not catching someone out I said ‘now if you have quite finished making a tit of yourself you will need to excuse me as I have to help transfer my father!’

imtheholidayarmadillo · 12/02/2025 15:59

LadyKenya · 12/02/2025 10:55

Or you could just ignore them, and not get into a public spectacle. Just a thought.

Why should she? These people need telling. What's so terrible about a 'public spectacle'?

crankytoes · 12/02/2025 15:59

OP: I have a blue badge

Lots of annoying posters: do you have a blue badge?

JoyousGreyOrca · 12/02/2025 15:49

Auburngal · 12/02/2025 15:38

Think elderly are jealous that they don't have a BB. If that was the case, 1 in 6 people would have one!

No they are just likely to be carers or have been carers for elderly people with a Blue Badge and struggled to get a space, because they are filled with people who do not have a Blue Badge.

vikingnorthutsiresouthutsire · 12/02/2025 15:41

@Rosscameasdoody I've used similar, but substituted "cunt" for twat. I have very little patience with these people.

vikingnorthutsiresouthutsire · 12/02/2025 15:40

@SaltyPig I've told people to fuck off too, and it's almost always been pensioners. I am now in my 60s, but have years of experience of twats and disabled parking spaces, it was certainly worse when I was younger. See also disabled toilets.

Auburngal · 12/02/2025 15:38

Think elderly are jealous that they don't have a BB. If that was the case, 1 in 6 people would have one!

Auburngal · 12/02/2025 15:35

Rosscameasdoody · 12/02/2025 15:10

Parent and child spaces aren’t protected by law, so technically anyone can park in them. I’ve only ever done it on the few occasions when I can’t find a disabled space to get the wheelchair out, because l can appreciate that parents have the same difficulty with prams and baby paraphernalia as I have with the chair. But it’s amazing how many people don’t realise that P&C spaces are only a concession, unlike disabled spaces which are legally enforceable.

We were told that there is no laws about PnC spaces as they are optional. Anyway, you hardly see PnC spaces in council or private car parks. Only ones to shops, leisure parks etc.

LadyKenya · 12/02/2025 15:27

PrivateCosts · 12/02/2025 15:23

When issuing blue badges, they need to also send a list of scathing retorts for recipients to use when idiots abuse disabled drivers.

It blows my mind that people are essentially envying a disability.

They don't envy the disability, that they won't necessarily have a clue as to what it is. They either want the space for themselves, or believe that they are doing a good thing by calling people out, who they feel should not be parking there. Either way, nobody is required to explain themselves, or give these people the time of day.

twoshedsjackson · 12/02/2025 15:26

I have a blue badge, use a walker, but not a wheelchair; I can walk for a few steps, enough to retrieve my walker from the back of the car.
I drive an ordinary car, not a specially adapted vehicle.
If this self-appointed blue badge monitor had seen me getting out of my car, from her vantage point four cars away, I guess her perception would have been that I was an able-bodied person parking an ordinary car, but I was awarded the badge after serious investigations and medical evidence. If she came close enough to berate you, she was close enough to see the badge.
She needs to become better-informed, and not to jump to conclusions.

Cherrysoup · 12/02/2025 15:25

Rosscameasdoody · 12/02/2025 15:22

I think for many disabled people a ‘good’ day doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t need to use a disabled space though. If the disability is permanent, there’s a limit to how ‘good’ it gets. Hence the need for the badge.

For sure, my issue will likely never resolve. One of the original issues was being unable to get in/out of the car without fully opening the door (knee just wouldn't co-operate) which is surprisingly difficult in some car parks. I could park at a far end, but sometimes, there just isn't space.

PrivateCosts · 12/02/2025 15:23

When issuing blue badges, they need to also send a list of scathing retorts for recipients to use when idiots abuse disabled drivers.

It blows my mind that people are essentially envying a disability.

Cherrysoup · 12/02/2025 15:23

XenoBitch · 12/02/2025 14:58

If someone demands to see your Blue Badge, then demand to see their parking attendant/traffic warden/police ID.

Some people do get silly when it comes to BB spaces. I was walking past the security station in a supermarket and man there was telling the security guard "they have a Blue Badge, but it is not the sort of car a disabled person would be driving". So only certain types of cars can park there now? You can tell who is disabled by the car they have?
My friend has a BB, and she has a 2 seater sporty car.

Can't remember if it was my DH who dealt with it or I read it on here about a disabled woman driving a Porsche and somebody claiming she couldn't possibly be disabled. There was almost a punch up!

Rosscameasdoody · 12/02/2025 15:22

Cherrysoup · 12/02/2025 15:18

I'm missing a big chunk of leg post accident, my patella was stood on by a 650kg horse, then she slid down my leg, slicing it off for some distance. Normally and especially since I've lost a lot of weight, I'm better, but walking on pavements and going at any speed above a gentle stroll immediately makes me extremely lame. At my worst, I'm on crutches, other days I appear to walk normally (or so I thought, my DH tells me I walk incredibly badly) so yes, good and bad days and I can fake it reasonably well over a very short distance. Obviously some blue badge holders don't have 'good' days.

I think for many disabled people a ‘good’ day doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t need to use a disabled space though. If the disability is permanent, there’s a limit to how ‘good’ it gets. Hence the need for the badge.