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Did I handle this situation wrongly? Man at train station

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Allthewayinbatterycity · 12/02/2025 08:57

I was in the waiting room at a busy station and a lad who looked to be in his early 20s was standing at the door with his hands down the front of his trousers. I looked to make sure it wasn't pockets but it definitely wasn't.

I am just a bit fed up of what I've seen recently from predominantly men on public transport. Loud sniffing/snorting every 2 seconds, farting, burping, spitting. Most are not like this but it's hard to take the train these days without any of the above.

Anyway I said to the man quietly, why do you have your hands down your trousers in a public area, that's disgusting.
With hindsight I should've just reported him to the train staff. He started shouting at me and I just walked off. But as I say I maybe should've just reported it.

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Elderflower14 · 12/02/2025 09:00

You def should have reported him to train staff. I had a drunk man get his penis out in front of me on a train a few years ago. I regret not reporting it now.

Valid8me · 12/02/2025 09:00

Reported him for what exactly? It seems to be a thing these days, young men often stand with their hands down their trousers. Assuming they aren't doing anything else then they aren't technically doing anythng wrong.

Toddlerteaplease · 12/02/2025 09:00

Allthewayinbatterycity · 12/02/2025 08:58

Also the intimidation from football fans. Not saying people shouldn't have fun or should be silent but it's bellowing football chants out at top note, shouting and shrieking and just disturbing other passengers.

If it's a match day it's par for the cause. I don't see the problem.

Allthewayinbatterycity · 12/02/2025 09:00

Whyherewego · 12/02/2025 08:59

It's not technically illegal to have a hand down your trousers not sure what you would be reporting him for. So all you can do is make a comment which you did

Really? I wasn't aware tbh I thought it would come under some sort of indecency. I guess he wasn't directly exposing anything, but I have seen this a few times now and it's just revolting.

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H0P · 12/02/2025 09:00

It's gross isn't it. Why aren't they embarrassed to be fiddling with their penises in public?!

Well done for saying something, what did he shout back?

I usually just look at them ina disgusted sort of way

Toddlerteaplease · 12/02/2025 08:59

I'd have asked him if he was checking it was still there.

Whyherewego · 12/02/2025 08:59

It's not technically illegal to have a hand down your trousers not sure what you would be reporting him for. So all you can do is make a comment which you did

Allthewayinbatterycity · 12/02/2025 08:58

Also the intimidation from football fans. Not saying people shouldn't have fun or should be silent but it's bellowing football chants out at top note, shouting and shrieking and just disturbing other passengers.

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