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Village Gala Day Drama

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Bronniel · 11/02/2025 22:28

I live in a small Scottish Village, every year there is a Gala Day, I imagine it is similar to a Village Fete in England, but basically It is a lot of local businesses, food vans, live music and some little rides for the kids in the local park, with a parade around the village and a fancy dress competition, it is fairly popular. Also a lot of other events in the village on the weekend surrounding it and competitions for the kids.
Every year there is a Gala Queen, plus some other big roles like crown bearer, maids etc. Basically the Queen gets crowned to kick the day off and prior to that leads the parade in a horse and carriage. It's all very much set in tradition but still popular and the kids enjoy it.
Traditionally the Gala Queen and the rest of the Gala party has been selected by the primary school in the village, and consists of P7s, the head teacher picks them and they are chosen based on behaviour/attainment etc. throughout the year. My own kids viewed it as quite a bit accolade to be chosen and it seems like a big deal to the kids. This method though has had its controversies as obviously not every child in the Village attends the village school with some going to other schools for various reasons and others going to say the catholic school or occasionally the odd who does the 30+ minute commute to a private school, it also excludes any kids who attend the schools for additional needs as these aren't in the village. However it has always been the primary schools pick.
I am on the Gala Committee and this year there is a push to change the allocation method, basically to some sort of system where any Primary 7 aged child who lives in the village or surrounding farms/one hamlet where all the kids also go to the local school, would be able to enter. The top ideas right now are some sort of essay writing competition or a competition where kids submit "evidence of excellence" be it a video of a dance they have learnt, art they have done, sports awards etc. The essay seems to be the popular choice but some fear that it will mean just the smartest kids get the chance to be part of it. It's said that either the committee would pick or we could get some locals to pick (so a panel of maybe the head teacher, the minister at the local church etc). The idea for the essay writing competition is they would write an essay on the history of the village or something similar.

However the issue is, this same year one of the most vocal members of the Gala Committee has a grandchild who is in Primary 7, but at a private school, so wouldn't be eligible under the historical system as despite living in the village, doesn't attend the local school. About half of the committee are against any changes as it is set in tradition and they feel the change is purely to benefit this members grandchild and future grandchildren. They also feel that it is unfair to ask the children of the local state school, many from lower income backgrounds to compete against private school kids on either the essay front or the hobby front. Others feel it is a necessary change as the days of all the kids going to the local school are over, and lots of the kids at the local school aren't from the village now.

It is creating quite the divide and a lot of upset so I'm looking to see what others think as we seem to be in a deadlock.

So
YABU - The traditional method should stay
YANBU - Time to update so all the kids in the village can be involved

(I know this seems trivial but it is the source of many a head ache for me right now and it is the height of village drama for our sleepy little place).

OP posts:
TinkerSailer · 13/02/2025 08:12

Why is picking a name out the hat the fairest? We don’t pick our leaders this way. Healthy competition is good for us as a society - it encourages us to strive, it improves resilience and the winner feels proud of their accomplishments.

I think an essay is a good idea. If you are not good at writing an essay you won’t win, like if you arent good at running you won’t win the race. It’s life I’m afraid.

Children need to understand they don’t always win. It’s an important life school and by ‘picking lots’ we are doing children a disservice.

Tauranga · 13/02/2025 08:11

Bluesclues1 · 13/02/2025 08:02

All sounds awfully old fashioned

Itbis old fashioned, or to phrase it another way, ' traditional'.
These events are amazing and create a fabulous community.

farmlife2 · 13/02/2025 08:10

What about choosing based on who has contributed something valuable to the community? It could be community spirit or something, so that not just those who are capable to attaining high grades can be selected.

Ceramiq · 13/02/2025 08:10

It's very hard to judge from afar but being deeply embedded in the social fabric of the village probably ought to be a strong criterion. Probably a bit unfair to exclude children who don't attend the village school but children who do attend the village school probably get extra points for being embedded in the social fabric?

I don't think essay writing or academic excellence are great criteria. It should be much more about being a positive force for good in the village, beyond school.

CerealPosterHere · 13/02/2025 08:08

fiorentina · 13/02/2025 08:06

I think if they want to be considered then enter a ballot. Not everyone wants to be I’m sure but then it’s fair. And make sure it’s fully independently chosen in front of others to avoid favouritism arguments!

Like this idea actually.

ThatCraftyHazelQuoter · 13/02/2025 08:07

What if the local headteacher nominates 3 girls and 2 boys as usual. Then for any p7 children who do not attend the local school but live within catchment, they can apply to be part of the gala as long as they can provide a positive reference from their head teacher.

All eligible children are put in a draw and 3 girls are selected and 2 boys are selected. If no 'non-local primary' children apply, then the current tradition stands and the headteacher's decision is final.

AngelinaFibres · 13/02/2025 08:07

Mischance · 12/02/2025 08:23

I am an "older woman in a village" 😀and I would favour names in a hat .... and I know all my friends would be of the same mind.

I'm am older woman in an English village. We do just about everything using the names in a hat method.

CerealPosterHere · 13/02/2025 08:07

Should be open to all kids and they should have to write a statement saying why it should be them. Pick the best statement. on passion of the statement rather than academic standard. Even picking someone who has done something "worthy" like litter picking might discriminate against a kid who wasn't able bodied?

fiorentina · 13/02/2025 08:06

I think if they want to be considered then enter a ballot. Not everyone wants to be I’m sure but then it’s fair. And make sure it’s fully independently chosen in front of others to avoid favouritism arguments!

Bluesclues1 · 13/02/2025 08:02

All sounds awfully old fashioned

zeibesaffron · 13/02/2025 08:02

@TickingAlongNicely nails it!

Gardenbird123 · 13/02/2025 08:01

What about choosing children who have done something for the village - litter pick or something?

Fraaances · 13/02/2025 08:00

Maybe family members of committee members should be ineligible to enter.... That happens with lots of competitions.

Serencwtch · 13/02/2025 07:59

I'd go for changing the criteria to include all the children - but make sure the criteria is more inclusive so not just academic ability, sports etc

Put emphasis on things like making effort - so a child with a disability or chronic illness that has achieved above the odds, a young carer of a disabled parent or sibling etc, doing things to help others - supporting others, standing up to bullying etc

I wouldn't award it on the basis of an essay writing competition, grade 8 violin or national sports champion etc.

You will need some Gin to get you through this either way OP. Good luck Gin

AiryFairyLights · 13/02/2025 07:58

Bronniel · 11/02/2025 22:37

Names in a hat would really go down like a lead balloon in my village. Those who donate/contribute to the Gala Day would become quite resentful if the kids who go about vandalising, and general have terrible behaviour and are known for causing trouble got a role and to be honest the families of these kids really don't contribute at all to the day.
I'm not against it but I know for a fact the committee wouldn't accept it, so it as a no go.

Have an entry system..... Each child that wants to participate fill in an entry form..... To include answers to say three questions
... What's your favourite thing about the village
.... Name something nice you did for somebody
etc etc.
Successful entries are put into a draw with a grand reveal/result etc.

Wolfpa · 13/02/2025 07:56

For the amount of children in different schools who are affected I wouldn’t bother to change the selection. Each school will come with its own privileges and this is the privilege of that particular school.

Tauranga · 13/02/2025 07:56

I'm in a similar place in Scotland and it was extended to include the next hamlet as the kids all came to town for school. I don't think the Private school kids are included as they would have to organise time off for the practice and so on.
Our lot hand in an application form, filled out by them, explaining why they should be the Queen and maids etc.
Last year the Queen had a disability. One year one maid had made it on to junior bake-off. One year the Queen was a super dancer....
Most of the time, the ancient families do influence the outcome....but "it's ay been!"

LizzieSiddal · 13/02/2025 07:54

Bronniel · 11/02/2025 23:14

So there are 5 roles. It would be impossible to say school gets to pick 3 of these, SEN school 1, private school 1. As some years no kids in the village go to the SEN School or the Private School, plus the catholic schools and kids at random other schools.

I don't think we can logistically involve other schools, it's too unpredictable as to which schools have village kids each year.

This year we know for sure there is one child at private school and one at the catholic school, but this is only as members of the committee know these children.

I’m utterly shocked to read that you exclude the Catholic school. Why is this happening? You do realise the whole committee is breaking the law by excluding a state school because of its religion?

I lived near Glasgow as a teenager in the 1980s and the bigotry against Catholic people was off the scale in lots of areas. I thought things would have moved on by now but obviously not.

SnoozingFox · 13/02/2025 07:54

I am in Scotland too and completely understand the sort of event you are talking about - it's a big deal! Names out of a hat is totally the wrong approach, you are looking for people to represent the village and who are well-behaved enough to sit on the back of a float, smile and wave and generally be a good kid.

I see the argument that it should be open to all parish children or village children which is probably how it was originally intended as all the children in the parish woulsd have gone to the local school. I think it probably is time to change the rules, but it is galling that this person's child will benefit.

Gottogetoutofthisplace · 13/02/2025 07:53

Tricky one. This ‘excellence’ idea will basically be a competition of how creative/supportive the parents are, not the child. Any way of deciding it is going to exclude someone though - even if you decided to make it a mass pageant that included every child in the village in a themed costume or something, some kids would still be left out as their parents couldn’t afford a costume/couldn’t be arsed to get them to rehearsals etc.

TickingAlongNicely · 13/02/2025 07:53

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 13/02/2025 07:51

This sounds rather like the rationale in an episode of Midsummer Murders. 🤔

I'm getting Hot Fuzz vibes.

The Greater Gooodddd....

Mummytotheboy · 13/02/2025 07:52

So the village I grew up in had a carnival. The carnival had a queen and her 4 attendants who led the parade of floats around the village onto the green for the carnival to start. The attendents where aged 7 to 11 and the queen 12-16. This time of year the committee who I was on as an adult held a disco in the village hall called the carnival queen disco. The years previous attendents would each draw a name for the new attendents and then the queen would choose and crown the next queen. The only stipulation for entering yourself forward was you had to have your parents permission and live in the village or attend the local primary school. The queen had to live in the village as all the high-schools where out of location or had to have previously attended the local primary school as we schooled the children from the hamlet a couple of miles away as this hamlet and no amenities. I feel this is a fair choice..I was lucky enough to be an attendent and the queen and if it had been a choice system I would never have had the opportunity because my mum wouldn't have allowed it as she was the chairperson of the committee so it screams fix. I think it is the only fair equal system. I'm.all for tradition but also these are children and need to be treated equally. It is clear that this person wants their grandchild to be involved. If it is a fair ballot then they have fair odds against everyone else.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 13/02/2025 07:51

This sounds rather like the rationale in an episode of Midsummer Murders. 🤔

AliceMcK · 13/02/2025 07:49

Nrtft

The current system is definitely unfair if not all of the children attend the village school. But agree essay writing only benefits the clever kids. It’s probably too late but what about a ballot of sorts, children are put forward on their merits by their HT or teachers, churches, community groups and then of the names put forward one is chosen?

We have similar were we live accept its church focused. Traditionally the event started with the churches in the community gathering to show a solidarity regardless of religion. Each church has its own Queen, ring barer and retinue. Most of the churches have a school attached so it’s quite often a child from the school who gets the role but not always. My DDs attend one of the catholic schools, the requirement for being picked is done on children who are doing their first communion that year, they are picked in church so the child must be present at Sunday mass. This means it’s a child from the church community, most just happen to attend the school. The children (or parents) decide if they want to be put forward, if they do their name is put in an hat and drawn. Other churches have different criteria. These days the event is massive with each school walking and other groups like cubs, brownies, they all choose their representatives differently.

CheekyRaven · 13/02/2025 07:45

Try it for one year and see how it goes.