Friend didn’t show up

Sounds like someone I know. Life changing question here and I'm waiting for a text back and she ignores it! It's infuriating!! And don't you just hate it when they txt days later with a half assed excuse? 🙄

That person is not your friend. They don't really want to see you and you are very low priority for them. Sorry, but it's plainly the case. They are rude and completely inconsiderate of your time and your feelings.

Do yourself a favour and forget about them. I doubt you will hear from them again if you do not contact them first. It's not the first time they've done this, but make sure it is the last time.

Unless so extremely unconsciously poorly in hospital, it really isn’t an excuse to not message at the time and cancel. It shows a complete lack of respect for you and I wouldn’t make any further plans with them.

Ditch them. No excuse for it unless they’re dead.

I don’t care how unwell I am I would make sure I let a friend know that I couldn’t make it as early as possible.

It’s straight up rude to leave you on read knowing you were heading there.

I actually had this happen to me last week OP and am currently debating whether to continue the friendship or not.

In fact, reading your post and the comments, I'm probably not going to as it is a really shit way to treat someone that you are supposed to be friends with.

I've had this happen to me. Not by a close friend though, if that makes any difference. Result was I didn't arrange any more coffee meets. Yes sometimes there are genuine emergencies but in general people can be so self entitled and fair weathered.

I'd be done with them then. There's no respect or consideration for you, that's not a friendship. You deserve better than that, so don't put yourself in the position that allows them to treat you so poorly again.

Unwell, my arse. They could have let you know yesterday before you were sitting there waiting for them. Staggeringly rude. Have some self respect and don't give them the chance to crap on you again.

People are weird! I was having an impromptu gathering & invited 2 potential new friends. Both said "yes", asked what time, what could they bring etc. Anyway, both just ended up not showing up! Next time I saw them, nothing was said about it, like "sorry we missed your event".

It might be a culture thing. Where I'm from, I'd never dream of agreeing to something only to not show up. I'd send a message or something to let the person know I wasnt coming. It's uber rude imo to just not show up. I don't understand why people do it, but it's very common where I live.

They were hardly that unwell that they could not type the words sorry I cannot make it.

Honestly I would probably and have done dropped people like this.

That's awful. How well do you know them?

If they were an acquaintance I would totally distance myself.

If they were an old, good friend and it was very out of character I would be worried about them

Friendship ended.
You deserve so much better OP

I wouldn't respond to anything less than an apology from them. That's so incredibly rude to not show up. To be honest though, even if they apologise I'm not sure I'd be able to get past the fact they saw your message and didn't even bother to let you know.

This isn't a friend sorry op :(

My guess is they aren't that bothered anyway the friend that didn't turn up that is.

No true friend does that?

If a friend didn’t show up to meet me I’d call them.

Or if they read the message and didn’t respond I’d call them to ask what’s up. Again, emergency understandable but another flakey excuse I’d hang up go home and block them.

Another perspective - if it was me I’d worry my friend has just had an emergency or something was going on and would give them a call. Yes it would of been nice to have had a “this has just happened can’t meet”

It might be unlikely and if your friend has just flaked on you then ditch her… but if a friend called me later on to explain her child just fell over and broke their arm and she was in a panic I would let it slide.

I would guess they either don’t have any respect for you or they were too scared to tell you they couldn’t make it so just ignored it. It’s really rude and I’d tell how upset I was and how disrespectful they were and I’d not arrange to meet again.

YANBU I fucking hate this too.
I was due to meet a friend, and after 30 mins of waiting, I text her. She replied with "sorry, I am not coming". It took me an hour to get where we were due to meet. Fucking rude.

Have you heard from this friend since?

I wouldn't be friends with someone who did that. I'd be pretty annoyed if they cancelled last minute (emergencies aside) but to leave you waiting is a deal breaker for me

Super bad form.

A casual acquaintance, I would move on with my day and probably let that ‘friend’ship slide.

A close friend, I would message and say “is everything ok? any reason why you couldnt let me know you werent turning up today?” and their response would dictate my next move.

Bestie, would get an absolute bollocking from me.

That is so rude and flaky. Did they reply.