Friend didn’t show up

I have questions too. Lol

Why did you keep him on social media?

Are you friends with his wife?

Has he reached out since not on social media?

Same here hate users. I think if its genuine thats fine. I got so tired of flakes I dont re arrange things now.. people are flaky

I tell you what is equally insulting - is when a friend bails out on you - and then a mutual friend/contact who doesn't know the situation then posts pictures of the flaky friend at events after they cry off with 'illness'. I am trying to find the dark humour in these discoveries...

I had a friend who would call up and cancel, sometimes when I was on the way to meet the and the last time when I was sitting in a cafe waiting for them.
Always with the same excuse that her children had been up all night throwing up.

The last time I replied along the lines of

Really sorry xxx is ill again. Should they see a doctor or may be you should look at exactly what they eat and how the food is prepared because to spend so many nights throwing up suggests something is going very wrong

TBH I think she was one of those friends who was out for what she could get and as soon a she got it dropped me like a stone

mumtobabyhavoc - She's met me before. They know I love my husband, as I post pictures on social media, referencing him. In a weird way, I would rather this 'friend' be honest and say he can't make it then string me along. She's got nothing to be threatened about as neither of us have tried it on with each other.

Ring her and ask what happened

I wouldn't bother making plans with someone who doesn't let me know they are unwell beforehand. Sounds like she has no respect whatsoever.

I had a friend like this, she was always cancelling or ghosting me and then getting back in touch when it suited her.

Anyway, I went to a prestigious event via work & she constantly pestered me for a plus 1 invitation. I dropped her like a hot potato & blocked her on everything; I can't stand users.

I was only useful to her for this particular event which would have given her brilliant networking contacts. Not on my watch love, jog on.

Do you think perhaps his wife found it weird her husband wanted to show up for you, another woman; that he didn't know how to tell you; and that he still follows you because he still cares, but can't rock the boat with his wife? (I'm too invested here. I know.) 😭

flaky shit. Never meet again

In future I would only meet up with them as part of a group and then if they flake out you won't have wasted your time.

Nope. She could have told you earlier. She has done this twice now and disrespected your time.

I would be finished.

I am having flashbacks here. My “really good friend” from uni stood me up once and ignored all calls, texts, etc.
No contact until 2 YEARS later when another mutual friend was in town and she wanted us to all meet up together. I felt used, and said so, and we agreed to meet up separately to build bridges. She never got back to my suggested times and then unfriended me on Facebook.
Sorry this is not mega helpful except to say some people aren’t worth your time, and it’s not your fault.

Can relate to this. Sorry to sound blunt - but I would put them in the category of casual acquaintance. Have got a university 'friend' who stood me up twice after saying they could make events I organised. I received a prestigious award and he said that him and his wife would love to come. However, he never showed on my special day. Never got an email from him. I emailed HIM and he said that he forgot, he was supporting someone through a bereavement, and that he was 'really sorry'. Never replied back from him as it was such an insulting excuse when I emailed him the invite (providing a digital record of the day). Still on my social media accounts liking my activity including the award ceremony in my honour which is weird. Don't let this 'friend' mistreat you like this again. If they don't respect your time or consideration then they have burnt their bridges. All the best.

That's rude. She could hardly be so unwell and couldn't let you know beforehand. So inconsiderate and disrespectful. I wouldn't make plans again with them.

I'd say don't bother with that "friend" again but then I'm a petty biatch so I'd be tempted for one last meet up before ending the friendship. And then don't go. Bonus points if it's somewhere that the friend wouldn't like to be sitting waiting alone and couldn't enjoy it on her own so would have to traipse off home to wonder where you are.

> Why do people do this?
Because in their world there are two groups of 'things'
a) Them (important things)
and
b) Literally everything else (unimportant things)

Excise this festering waste of space from your life

They were unwell, knew they had to meet you, knew you were in your way and let you go anyway?
wtf.
Bin them

I dropped a friend like that - she was, I think, autistic and a liar, but not my problem. After so many times of waiting for her and her not turning up and not picking up the phone, and lying several days later about 'emergencies', I just dropped her.

Unless they were at death's door they could send text to say - sorry feel ill will need to re arrange.

Because I (and friends) have form for forgetting plans made well in advance one of us tends to text and say are we still on for tomorrow at x time.
If someone didn't turn up and let me know I wouldn't be arranging to see them again.
I have a friend who was often late or would push the time back on the day - half an hour and then another half an hour and then be late. The third time she tried to do it I said lets leave it I can't be arsed now. She was apologetic but I didn't go - she hasn't done it since.

I was the no show friend once. It happened because I had mistakenly added the date into my calendar for the following week. It was a genuine mistake but she clearly did not believe me as she has never spoken to me again. Bit harsh as I am not flakey at all (I had certainly never cancelled on her before and I did not mean to let her down. Hey ho.

This isn't a friend. I wouldn't contact them again. Not that I'd blank them or anything, but I wouldn't be the one getting in touch. And I wouldn't arrange to meet them again

That would be it for me op. I wouldn't bother again. If they were that unwell they couldn't respond they would not have been able to read the message either They have told you who they are and that they do not consider your feelings

Inexcusable in my opinion
It takes seconds to send a text to keep you informed
I wouldn't agree to meet again without an apology

I'd sack them off. Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me.