In not making child do homework

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I've worked I'm primary schools for years across all year groups and you can see the huge difference in the children that read snd do homework at home and the ones that don't, unfortunately those children that don't tend to be at a huge disadvantage and do not progress as well

Children can still do well without homework in primary school as long as they are read to at home which OP says is happening.

This!

This is why all these Labour initiatives on education are silly when this is the typical attitude of many parents.

People will say my children do well due to privilege, how about I can actually be arsed to do some reading and spellings with them?!

My DC’s school only does things where there is evidence that it is beneficial and has links a top university for educational research. The research shows that homework makes no difference to overall attainment and so our school does not set any. We are encourage to read to and with our kids often as research shows this is beneficial.

As someone who has been teaching and leading in primary schools for years, I would say read, read , read which by the sound of it you already do. I think times-table practise can be beneficial . I rarely see any correlation between those that do spellings homework and those that spell word correctly in extended writing pieces. The best spellers are usually the children who read lots!

You are allowed to opt out of homework.
i know a primary school teacher who wrote to her children’s school and requested to opt out of homework. She doesn’t believe in homework for primary age. Waited until secondary. Both are straight A students.

Totally. What happened to showing respect to the school and teachers? Parents shouldn’t pick and choose what homework their children do. No wonder kids don’t have any respect for their teachers nowadays.

I was at school 1990 to 2002, definitely had primary school homework, including during the summer holidays.

We encouraged them to read and do some of the work, take to the library, museums, etc. We also had a battle when they were little, they were tired from school; if they are not in the mood to learn there is not point. They are in secondary school now and quite responsible.

My child went to a school where loads was given in reception. Trying to be a good parent I made them do it. It was so stressful. Then we ended up changing schools hardly any homework in comparison! I look back and think why did I bother? Reading book and one piece of h/w. No one struggled and it’s a good school.

Well, good luck when they get to secondary and have fuck all work ethic to study for exams is all I while say..!

In the 80s and 90s we never had homework until secondary school. It's nonsense.

Children are at school 6 hours a day for how many days a year?

If you read to your child on a frequent basis, take them out for enriching experineces and teach them life skills, interact with them outside of the daily humdrum; then there is NO reason why you as a parent should have to do the work of consolidation that the teacher should be doing.

PS if evenings are busy do the HW in the morning e.g. get them to come spell the words to you while you get dressed etc.

I would cut the homework down rather than not do it at all. The reading book is irrelevant if you are reading together anyway (ie both reading some of it, not just your child being read to). However, to do one day of spellings and one day the maths piece (I assume that is what the other homework is) is very manageable. If your child is getting stressed trying to spell the words, just have them practice writing them. In school, we draw a squiggle pattern and get them to fill each of the sqiggle areas with one of the spelling words in a coloured felt tip. The overall pattern is lovely. You could also play hang-man with the words - anything to get them interacting with the words. It need not be a battle.

Time spent instilling good habits now although a chore will pay off when you have teenagers who just get on and do their homework without thinking about it because for as long as they can remember mum has said it is not negotiable and backed the school up (regardless of her own preferences).

You don't want to be trying force a 6ft 16 year old boy to get on and do his maths equations or a 16 year old girl on her period whose bf has just dumped her to revise her irregular French verbs.

You want them not to realise there is any option not to do it.

YABU. It's a small amount of homework and it's your responsibility at that age. Age 13, fine, leave them to it. But not helping a year 3 is just laziness.

Our school does a lot more homework. My year 3 has about 15 minutes homework a day, plus spellings (10 words per week) and reading (we do own books).
They work up so that in year 6 they have about 45 minutes homework per day.
It really pays off once they are in secondary. My oldest - with significant SENDs (adhd, autism, dyslexia) - is flying in secondary as he didn’t have to learn work ethic and independent work at home. Its been an incredibly smooth transition, even with him being the only child from his primary at his secondary.
The difference to other children, especially with SENDs, is incredible.

Ah yes...encourage your child that they don't have to do anything they don't want to do in life...

We don’t read the school books as DS finds that boring!
However, I’ve figured out that if I make the spellings into a bit of a spelling bee competition, with everyone involved (including DH, who gets it wrong on purpose!) it makes it a bit more fun and less pressured

I think that sounds like a lot for that age. Our school scrapped homework completely for key stage 1 as they felt it wasn’t suitable, so I’m expecting year 3 to be a little bit relaxed with it. The kids are encouraged to read as much as possible but it’s not enforced.

I chose my battles. Convincing DD2 that it was normal to do some work at home (hence the name) when as far as she was concerned it was schoolwork invading home, was a battle I just wasn't going to win. The bloody Oxford Reading Tree didn't help matters - she had no interest in it at all - and the screeching at the suggestion of doing any writing that didn't involve a Sharpie or marker pen when the sound and feeling of using a pencil went right through her for the 75th time after a long day at work made me decide 'sod it'.

She'd been shopping with her own lists with little cartoon sketches, then sketches with numbers and mathematical operators from when she was very little and nobody meaning her or her father noticed how they gradually evolved to include text, prices, totals, calculating how many packets she'd need, what would be left over and how much change there would be for her to spend on something of her choice. It kept her occupied rather than trapped and didn't involve any tantrums for a crappy plastic toy or matchbox car like some of her classmates had learned, as it was 'her' money.

DD2 also didn't realise that refusing to do fractions meant she'd get to make pizza or cut a cake and refusing to acknowledge the very existence of algebra was pointless when she'd already learned the concept in the form of grapes, cherry tomatoes and strawberries instead of x, y and z.

The other thing I did was encourage her to make posters for holiday projects. Why spend all that time shouting about writing when sorting information into short phrases that got to the point and making a decent collage, a working model or sticking clear and concisely written labels on a painted tree or map was far more tolerable than me typing it all out for her like most of the parents?

I was finally found out when she came home demanding to know why she knew Pythagoras before the teacher started teaching it. All I'd done is teach her how to work out how much we needed to cut off the new carpet. I just got a muttered 'you stitched me up again, didn't you?' when trigonometry appeared in secondary.

In fairness, though, she was eventually (as no school thought there was anything worth looking into, she was just a dream child and then a difficult teenager in their opinion) diagnosed AuDHD aged 21.

I don't think I was lazy, I just didn't see the benefit to anybody of my having to deal with the screaming abdabs every evening when I could sneak it past her in a way that didn't mean she grew to hate school.

If they can spell then they don’t need to do the homework, don’t listen to the bully’s on here telling you you’re a bad parent.

I don't do homework with my 7yo.
It always caused problems and it's just not worth it as far as I'm concerned. Also awaiting assessment so maybe a link there. It's definitely not a quick 15 mins per night for some children.