To be honest when I resign

Sorry, should say 'rein her in a bit'.

Does she have a partner? I would email them both if you know the partner's email. Someone needs to resign her in a bit. It's not fair on the child to go through loads of nannies and literally no one will put up with that treatment.

don’t put yourself through having to explain to someone like that who is very likely going to get dismissive and defensive - just hand in your notice. poor kid too..

STop taking the DC anywhere that requires you to pay for transport. Just stop. Tell her why if she asks.

And resign. She's taking the piss.

Two things:
-her telling you which groups to go to is not being unreasonable. You are her nanny not a childminder so she can tell you what to do.
-if you can’t go to the library then you are not well enough to work. If you are sick, stay at home.

but
you should get paid expenses and be paid on time of course. Why are you not invoicing your expenses and have a penalty for late payment?

You could tell her but she doesn’t care about being a good employer or she would pay you on time and pay your travel costs.

Don’t waste your energy, and let other childminders know about the wages and not covering travel costs. Also ensure that a payment schedule and costs are
covered in a contract

She is treating you like a servant. Fuck that!

I would probably do an email saying it isn't working out for you, wish her the best and forget it. Good childcare is like gold dust; you can have your pick. If she asks, you could elaborate, but she'll probably blame you so what's the point. It's only been six weeks.

I always ask - are you paid enough? I have different clients - some clients pay me insane amounts of money and I shall take any sort of rubbish from them, because of the pay and if they cancel, they pay, and they pay for every move I make. Other clients are stingy and pay the bare minimum they can get away with - and with them my attitude is you might expect, I do the bare minimum.

How late are your current wages?

Next time she says "go here" I'd say "I can't, you've not paid me"

Awful woman! Definitely tell her!

It's not really clear from your posts so far - gave you been paid at all for the work you've done? And do you have a proper contract?

I ask because, if she sees you as free labour - soon to be replaced with another one - there's little point in staying a racking up more money owed, but hopefully you mean she's paid you in the end?

And to answer your question I see no point in saying why you're leaving; if she was capable of taking it on board she wouldn't be behaving like this in the first place

Typo

I'm finding it hard to believe that you are a professional Nanny. If you were, you would have agreed and both signed a set contract of employment before starting. That would state the pay and the contractual hours of work as well as what household duties you are to do (i.e. child laundry). It would also outline the procedure for reimbursement of expenses and costs incurred in looking after your charge. You would also have had a conversation about key areas of parenting, including the types of activities you are to take the little one to and the approximate daily routine.

This...she sounds arrogant and won't think anyone else's opinion matters so I don't think it will make any difference I'd say that I've had a change in circumstances

This 👆

YANBU, but I would keep it neutral by saying it’s just not working for you.

Draw up a list of all the times you got the bus and the cost add it up and invoice her for it
when you next get paid ( bus fare as well ) tell her you are leaving

Are you the same nanny who posted about having to walk to groups or the library every day in the rain?

I would definitely blame her late payment and not paying travel expenses.

Next time make sure they are covered in your contract.

Make sure you get you last wage and then tell her you are leaving and why in an email. Then leave it at that.

She sounds dreadful, stingy, controlling and entitled. People like that rarely accept that they need to change their behaviour...

I would bring words like ACAS and employment solicitor into the conversation. A contract of employment works 2 ways. It tells you when you get paid and it's her obligation to pay you.

Be honest with constructive feedback. No insults. Be factual.

she will be majorly pissed off with the upheaval of trying to find another nanny but thats her problem 🤷🏻‍♀️

She sounds horrendous.

Do you deal with the father at all?

It’s great if you can make your revenge work for you. Back in the 90’s, I had a work mobile phone, paid my personal calls each month identified by the bill. Cue some clever little cost saving pillock trying to make a name for himself. “Oh you don’t need that now you are based at xxxx” Gave it him back. Next question from pillock was “how do we contact you in an emergency?” 😈 “You can’t, I don’t have a landline, and my mobile is private”🤣🤣 I never had to do call outs again🥳 Get in there! 🤣🤣

Christ that’s so tedious. To my shame I have forgotten to pay my nanny 3 times in 18 months - when she text me I’ve transferred it INSTANTLY and apologised. I felt mortified.

I bet she’s not ok if her work just don’t pay her when expected.

She should absolutely cover all travel and entrance costs etc.