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My child wants to move to a worse secondary school to be with friends.

28 replies

Wieralmostthere · 11/02/2025 09:40

Hi. I have a child in Y8, who has decided over the last 5 months that she wants to move to the secondary school that some of her primary school friends go to. Which is in our catchment area. She wasn’t close to any of them when she went up to secondary school, and was even enjoying her new school. The school she goes to is a very good school and her older sister goes there. The school she asks every day to move to is not. I feel awful when she’s begging every morning to move, but I know that educationally it would be the wrong move. She sees her friends after school and weekends, but that is obviously not enough. How do I explain to her that I do care if she’s happy.. or is that the reason she should move?

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Comedycook · 11/02/2025 09:43

Does she have friends at her current school?

Bells3032 · 11/02/2025 09:43

Is there something going on at her new school? Does she have friends at the school. does she have playdates with them to to build up her friendship with them outside of school.

Honestly i wouldn't move my child for that. friendships at this age are so fluid and if she ends up at school with them and they fall out etc then what?

RubyRedBow · 11/02/2025 09:42

I wouldn’t move her.
My secondary school child floats in and out of friendship groups constantly as well as having her solid group. If you changed school for friends you’d be forever moving.