Friend kissed my baby, feeling upset

This is insane. Start kissing your baby op.
Let others sometimes kiss them aswell.

Get a grip

I get cold sores so I've never kissed my kids on the mouth, I've always kissed them on the face though (I haven't had an active cold sore for years) and I wouldn't be bothered at all if someone kissed my baby on the cheek. It's a lovely show of affection.

Chinese people usually do not want their babies to be kissed by visitors - so guess what? When their babies are born, they don't have visitors for a few months, and don't show them to anyone. Simple.

I wondered if it was a piss take - is it half term?

Get a grip. Seriously.

The world has gone bloody bonkers. OP I hope you learn to chill or your baby might learn to behave like you. Which is a bit extreme imho.

Yes I have but this thread makes me think twice. Not because I am worried about the babies health but because so many parents now seem to have an issue with it. Their baby so their rules so fair enough

I feel like that about every other post seemingly at the minute

I think the problem with watching these sorts of videos is that it just terrifies parents (usually mothers.) They then see anyone with a cold sore as an actual death threat to their child creating such anxiety. The truth is it extremely, extremely rare for the hpv virus to cause death, even in newborns. Even more unlikely in a 4 month old. Your baby is more at risk every time you walk down the street then she was from your friend kissing her. I really think the amount of knowledge we have now is actually not beneficial for our mental health.

This is so sad. I’d constantly kiss my newborns little head, cheek etc. Your baby is 4 months old and never been kissed?
The only hygiene issue I’d ever heard is not to kiss newborn babies on the lips. This is crazy.

How do you think babies build their immune systems?

Let your baby be squidged and loved!

I honestly think new mums can be bloody ridiculous these days.

Thought this was going to be friend kissed your baby on the lips, that I wouldn't be happy about due to virus' etc ! But the cheek cmon

God knows but it's absolutely ridiculous.

Stop getting your health advice from doctors on Instagram, you silly goose

she hasn't kissed her own baby. for 16 weeks...

This is crazy!
Please get some help, this is not normal!

I do get cold sores too occasionally and no I wasn’t kissing my baby when I actively had them, that’s understandable. But not to kiss them ever?
My child is now 4 so by some logic I shouldn’t kiss him ever just because I get occasional cold sores?

You don’t kiss your own baby???? How dreadful. I have baby kittens mine get kissed repeatedly.

I was very funny about people kissing my baby when she was born during the pandemic. I had a work friend doing repeated kisses on my baby like "mwah mwah mwah" and I just said "please can you stop kissing her I feel a bit anxious about illnesses etc," I text her after to explain (I had a real fear of cold sores) and she totally understood and said she had never had one and it was all sorted. So unlike other PP I do totally understand your fear, it may look irrational from the outside but the heart drop feeling is very real.

Personally I would try set this aside, maybe message her and explain how you feel, she likely just did it out of habit and didn't really mean to.

yes, often. Close friends and family, absolutely definitely yes. Nobody has insisted I autoclave myself on entry to the house either. But then I'm half-Foreign (EU) and we are well known for being extremely child-friendly.

OP I don't want to worry you, but you do know that 16 weeks ago, this gorgeous baby came out of your foof? Did you sterilise that?

Well if there is a ‘huge generational gap’ going on, you’ve got to wonder why in the old days very few kids had allergies etc. Wrapping them up in cotton wool does them no favours at all. When I had my lot (over 20 years ago now) they’d get passed around like pass the parcel for friends/family to kiss/cuddle, even random old ladies in the street would stroke their face. Can you imagine mothers letting that happen now? The anti-bac spray would be out quicker than the old lady could say hello 😆

Such a depressing and worrying OP post. People truly have lost their minds over imagined contamination/germs/personal space. Not to mention this odd attitude that nobody should touch, talk to or even look at their babies and young children. It seems mad to me. I'm sure the rest of Europe watches us with a mixture of horror and hilarity.

OP, and anyone else suffering similar derangement that someone might TOUCH their baby! - babies thrive on close physical contact with their nearby humans. That doesn't have to be confined to immediate family. Good friends are part of their universe and it's great for them to get to know people outside their household. It's essential for their cognitive and social development and it's good for their health too. They are developing their immune systems. Your baby isn't going to get a notifiable disease because a good friend of yours gave her a non-sloppy kiss on her adorable little cheek! BUT a little bit of normal contact with the outside world will help her immune system to develop NORMALLY. Babies didn't evolve to live in sterile bubbles and it's not good for them to be isolated to this extent.

I'm genuinely shocked and saddened that you haven't kissed your own baby. You do know this isn't normal, right? I honestly think you need to speak to a GP, or self-refer to an NHS counselling service, for your germaphobe anxieties.

I get it OP and I’m sorry you’re feeling upset (which is a valid reaction given you’re anxious). I used to get upset about people coming near the baby without washing their hands (having been on public transport). However, most people wouldn’t think this stuff is a problem and it’s hard to imagine how protective you are / were / would be when you haven’t got a tiny baby in your lap and all the swirling hormones going around.

She didnt kiss the baby on the mouth though just the face, which isnt much different to the head.

Honestly OP I think you're massively overreacting, your baby is not a newborn, babies and kids get sick and hurt themselves its part of life and something you cant really protect them from and for the most part you shouldnt either.

I can understand you being a little annoyed she kissed your baby on the face but is this cause she did it before you did? At 4m she probably didnt think and did it on instinct. I dont kiss other peoples babies but if you trust this person enough to leave baby with them then I certainly wouldnt make an issue out of a lil kiss, your baby is loved.

Also and I mean this nicely but i think you should speak to someone or get counselling because it's a massive overreaction to not have kissed your own 4m old child yet and to not allow immediate family to do this either. It's very OTT. Being overly clean and never exposed to any dirt or germs is actually not good for our immune systems at all and some evidence suggests can actually lead to autoimmune conditions if children are raised in very sterile environments.

The most important thing as well is not to limit your child's experiences because of your own fears.

OMG, when my now 8yo DS was a baby he was showered with kisses by me, my husband, MIL, FIL, DM, DF.....