Not sure if this is the right place for this, I really just wanted a rant. I would be surprised if you didn't agree with me but equally open to hearing all views
My brother and his wife constantly took money off my parents. They were the first to have kids and were always "skint" so my mum and dad bank rolled them for everything- holidays, kids swimming and sports lessons, clothes. Everything! My brother and his wife have 4 children aged 4 to 16
The thing is they only keep in touch with people that have a use to them. So people willing to give money to them, or babysit for them or whatever it may be. No use no contact, hence why my parents gave them so much money.
Their kids are the only children on his wife's side of the family. She has both parents desperate to spend time with their 4 kids well as aunties that dote on their kids as they were unable to have kids (and so no grandkids) themselves. In essende their kids have 4 lots of grandparents. All willing to do whatever they wanted them to do to keep access.
So as of today, my dad is no longer alive and my mum has dementia. Her concept of money is zero.(she thinks her house is worth £125). Yet he still asks her for money!
She is paying for their holiday. We've stopped her driving so he has asked her for car. He wants money to pay for his daughters driving lessons. Oh and he earns £80k a year!!
I have POA so this weekend I'm going to tell him he can't ask for money off someone who doesn't a) have that much and b) doesn't have the ability to know what she is agreeing to.
So... here goes me being frozen out and no longer seeing them or more importantly their kids. Or my kids getting to see their cousins or aunt/uncle. And possibly my mum also being frozen out too (hoping he will continue to help care for her but who knows)
Not sure if that makes sense, just wanted to brain dump as feeling rather upset about it .