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To understand why people do Only fans etc

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Tuppenceabagforlife · 10/02/2025 21:47

There is just not enough money to live a nice, fairly average life now on good jobs. Really what is the point? Just working to survive until we retire, probably in our 70’s, if we’re lucky to make it that long..it’s crap! It isn’t a life and isnt the way it should be.

Have been watching the programmes with Olivia Attwood (think that’s her name) and all these people earning thousands a month with the aim of working a few years to earn a few million and be done. A lot of them seem to have captured niche markets, work from home, work for themselves…I don’t know, how much longer to go out every day to work, to slog my guts out just to get by.

I don’t blame them for doing it

OP posts:
Electricfeels · 11/02/2025 20:04

Heelworkhero · 11/02/2025 16:26

I have a page on the site.

I don’t do anything pornographic, or even approaching….. I offer unique photos and videos though.

They aren’t sexualised, other than the slant men may take on them.
I’ll happily show anyone interested/curious.

I make around £300-400 per month in the cooler months. Can make over £1,000 a month in the warmer weather where there’s more opportunities for pictures. So not an income, but a nice top-up that helps me to work part time in my main job.

I don’t take any time out of my day really to take the shots other than 20 minutes or so - it’s all things/placez I do/go for fun in my leisure time anyway.
Don’t even put any make up on before the pics!!
I have a strong following on X which drives traffic to my page.

But it’s certainly rare to have non-porn content making money, for sure.

This is really interesting, what would you say your “niche” is then?

Briannaco · 11/02/2025 18:59

HauntedBungalow · 11/02/2025 18:48

God love her but Kerry Katona is hardly an example of a happy life lived to even half its potential.

I think she did very well considering what a shit upbringing she had.

She had an abusive drug addict mum and an absent dad and she went on to be a popstar

I had an abusive mum and an absent dad , and I haven't become a pop star!

I mean it's admirable - what she achieved, after overcoming a crap childhood.

HauntedBungalow · 11/02/2025 18:48

God love her but Kerry Katona is hardly an example of a happy life lived to even half its potential.

Briannaco · 11/02/2025 17:22

I think a lot of online sex work is fine.

As long as it's not violent or abusive content, who is it hurting?

Kerry ketona is on only fans. She said that she's made millions just from topless pics.

That's not hurting anyone

Happyinarcon · 11/02/2025 17:20

Teamcullen23 · 10/02/2025 22:35

It's unfair to say that anyone who does this is thick as mince. Also daft to suggest that they are all selling their souls and will psychologically damaged later on in life. Yes for some the benefits of a quick buck won't be worth it. Their families or employers may find out and they will regret that they did it.

Others won't care. It won't affect them. It won't traumatise them or have any negative effects. They will do it for as long as they like then move on and probably rarely think of it again.

Everyone is different. It wouldn't be for me but fair play to those who can make money from it if that's what they want to do.

I don’t believe that anyone would come out unscathed in one way or another, but it’s worth considering the emotional impact on children who find out their mum did this kind of work. The media tries to push the sex positive line but no one falls for it, especially not kids in the playground

myrtleleech · 11/02/2025 17:09

Janelle84 · 11/02/2025 16:16

I saw this earlier on a link on facebook. Hes on OFs and has this sideline…

https://metro.co.uk/2025/02/09/farts-make-20-000-a-year-im-blown-away-demand-22508605/?

people are weird 😂

Edited

I think I've found my niche, my farts are legendary! Big bucks here I come 😂

Youcanttakeanelephantonthebus · 11/02/2025 17:03

Beyond the tawdry nature of it I would be worried about people being able to track me down and come to my house. Photos have locations embedded in them, IP address etc. You would have to be very up on VPNs etc to make sure you weren't tracked.

Briannaco · 11/02/2025 16:58

Reetpetitenot · 11/02/2025 16:48

'However I know if there was a female teacher here, and she was found out to have been a stripper in the past, she probably would be fired.'

You can't possibly know that.

Audiences for male and female strippers are really not the same. Anyhoo, the thread is about OF.

It STARTED as being about only fans.

Threads evolve. And talk about other things.

Me and another poster were discussing strippers.

Reetpetitenot · 11/02/2025 16:48

'However I know if there was a female teacher here, and she was found out to have been a stripper in the past, she probably would be fired.'

You can't possibly know that.

Audiences for male and female strippers are really not the same. Anyhoo, the thread is about OF.

Briannaco · 11/02/2025 16:38

Reetpetitenot · 11/02/2025 16:07

The thread is about Of. The poster you're referring to sounds as if the situation with the female stripper being fired perhaps occurred in the US - maybe they would have fired a male stripper too. However you look at it, a male stripper at a hen do is very unlike some of the online Of content, which can be incredibly extreme porn/fetish. A big difference between male and female strippers is also largely their audience, and the audience reaction.

"A big difference between male and female strippers are the audience".

The audience for male and female strippers are exactly the same. They are people paying to see someone naked.

Society has total double standards.

A male teacher in my school used to be a stripper. I know that the headteacher knows about it , as the male teacher told everyone. No one cares. They just had a bit of a laugh about it.

However I know if there was a female teacher here, and she was found out to have been a stripper in the past, she probably would be fired.

FiveWhatByFiveWhat · 11/02/2025 16:28

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 10/02/2025 22:23

Well that has surprised me I'm not going to lie. I'd have thought dainty feet would be the get off ones, just shows you...
I joke about selling feet pics but mine are apparently too average then, need a new plan for early retirement.
OP, I get what you're saying though these people that brag about how much they make on OF must be posting quite a lot of content and most likely of a niche nature.

Same, me and a colleague joke about it all the time the week before payday - she has massive feet and mine are tiny so we often make ludicrous plans to see who gets more clicks, get some extra cash for Christmas etc. But we both know we'd never be able to actually go through with it. I couldn't rest for worrying I'd be "spotted" somehow!

Heelworkhero · 11/02/2025 16:26

I have a page on the site.

I don’t do anything pornographic, or even approaching….. I offer unique photos and videos though.

They aren’t sexualised, other than the slant men may take on them.
I’ll happily show anyone interested/curious.

I make around £300-400 per month in the cooler months. Can make over £1,000 a month in the warmer weather where there’s more opportunities for pictures. So not an income, but a nice top-up that helps me to work part time in my main job.

I don’t take any time out of my day really to take the shots other than 20 minutes or so - it’s all things/placez I do/go for fun in my leisure time anyway.
Don’t even put any make up on before the pics!!
I have a strong following on X which drives traffic to my page.

But it’s certainly rare to have non-porn content making money, for sure.

RedHelenB · 11/02/2025 16:17

Hasn't that always been life though for most people?

icelolly12 · 11/02/2025 16:14

Doubt it's that easy to make enough money to retire on.

For celebrities with followings then yes it's easy for them to make easy money- men will pay to see their tits or whatever.

For the average Jo on the street, not so much. That's why you're seeing more extreme behaviour such as claiming to have sex with 1000 men in one day as this gets publicity to drive men to their site.

HauntedBungalow · 11/02/2025 16:13

Tuppenceabagforlife · 10/02/2025 22:10

Ive never looked at an Only fans page/site

Then why do you have such clear views about it? If you don't even know what it looks like?

RWEnough · 11/02/2025 16:09

Screamingabdabz · 10/02/2025 22:06

They all have one thing in common though - they are as dumb as mince and have no self respect. If that’s you, go for it!

This is a fabulously shit take.

www.wired.com/story/this-high-tech-handlebar-is-coming-with-help-from-onlyfans/

Reetpetitenot · 11/02/2025 16:07

The thread is about Of. The poster you're referring to sounds as if the situation with the female stripper being fired perhaps occurred in the US - maybe they would have fired a male stripper too. However you look at it, a male stripper at a hen do is very unlike some of the online Of content, which can be incredibly extreme porn/fetish. A big difference between male and female strippers is also largely their audience, and the audience reaction.

Briannaco · 11/02/2025 15:54

Reetpetitenot · 11/02/2025 15:50

There is a world of difference between a Chippendales knock off and the extreme stuff on Of. Performing at hen dos isn't the same as having your uninhibited sexual kinks and fetishes all over t'internet.

Read the thread please. That's not what we were comparing.

We weren't comparing male strippers to female only fans content creators.

We were comparing male strippers to female strippers on this page

A poster wrote that his colleague was fired , when his boss found out that she was also a stripper on the side.

I wrote that I work in a school and one of the male teachers told me that he used to be a stripper when he was young

Female strippers are seen as disgusting sex workers by society and employers.

Male strippers are seen as a bit of fun, and employers think that it's totally fine.

Why? It's a double standard.

Reetpetitenot · 11/02/2025 15:50

Briannaco · 11/02/2025 15:39

That's mad. Because I was just talking to someone about something similiar.

I'm literally working at a school right now as a language assistant.

One of the male teachers told me that when he was younger he used to be a stripper.

He told me that he went round to do hen parties and birthdays.

It's seen as a bit of fun. It definitely didn't stop him from getting teaching jobs.

Why is it seen as ok for men to strip but it's not acceptable for women to strip.

There is a world of difference between a Chippendales knock off and the extreme stuff on Of. Performing at hen dos isn't the same as having your uninhibited sexual kinks and fetishes all over t'internet.

Briannaco · 11/02/2025 15:39

Matthew54 · 11/02/2025 15:08

Literally knew someone who fired a secretary for stripping on the side to pay for grad school because she brought the office into “ill repute”. It’s been happening for years.

That's mad. Because I was just talking to someone about something similiar.

I'm literally working at a school right now as a language assistant.

One of the male teachers told me that when he was younger he used to be a stripper.

He told me that he went round to do hen parties and birthdays.

It's seen as a bit of fun. It definitely didn't stop him from getting teaching jobs.

Why is it seen as ok for men to strip but it's not acceptable for women to strip.

ItGhoul · 11/02/2025 15:32

Screamingabdabz · 10/02/2025 22:06

They all have one thing in common though - they are as dumb as mince and have no self respect. If that’s you, go for it!

Always amuses me when there's a thread condemning porn for encouraging misogyny, and about three-quarters of the people doing them condemning are massively misogynistic.

Condemn porn all you want, but don't make judgements about the women appearing in it. You know nothing about them, their choices or how they feel about what they do and it's utterly hateful to talk about other women in this way.

Honestly, it's as if half of Mumsnet hates women more than the average porn-using man does.

ItGhoul · 11/02/2025 15:21

Meecrowahvey · 10/02/2025 22:03

Have you ever actually looked at OF or cam sites to see the reality of what these women actually do to themselves for money? Men don't pay for ordinary stuff they can get on pornhub.

LOL. You'll see far, far more extreme material for free on PornHub than the kind of things you'd get on the vast majority of OnlyFans pages.

People pay for OnlyFans for many reasons, but seeing more extreme acts than they'd see on PornHub isn't one of them.

Matthew54 · 11/02/2025 15:08

Briannaco · 11/02/2025 14:43

I don't think that admin jobs care about people doing onlyfans.

Literally knew someone who fired a secretary for stripping on the side to pay for grad school because she brought the office into “ill repute”. It’s been happening for years.

DreamyB · 11/02/2025 14:56

I think you really have to be extremely good at self promotion, find a niche and a following to make anything like this worthwhile. For every account that succeeds in making money there’s thousands upon thousands of woman posting photos of themselves (which can and will be screen shotted and shared no matter how good the tech on these sites becomes). It’s a very big risk to expose yourself like that with no guarantee you’ll actually make money, but will absolutely impact your future career prospects / relationships / self image. I would think very long and hard about it. X

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