Do you divide up the cost per person or per rooom?

You not paying for the accommodation, you're paying for quality time with friends regardless of the accommodation.

You shouldn't be asking is the room worth it, but will the experience be worth it.

Whatever you decide, tell the party organiser now if DH is coming or not so that there are no surprises with costs.

But in a hotel you are more likely to end up in a double bedroom with an on suite bathroom.
Villas have different sized rooms, often only 1 or 2 with on suite and the rest a shared bathroom.

I therefore villa holiday pp unless you want to price up the different types of rooms which overcomplicated things.

Isn't this just a risk you take when you go on one of these kinds of holidays? It's not a hotel, the rooms will all be different, someone will have to end up in the slightly less nice one.

As the person who is usually the organiser of these sorts of trips, it annoys me when people pipe up with suggestions like this to make organising even more complicated. Where would you even start with pricing things up proportionate to the type of room? The master suite might have a bigger bed, but less windows than the twin room down the hall, or be further away from the bathroom. Where does it end?

Definitely per person, otherwise people attending on their own are paying double what a couple is, it’s only ever couples who suggest the per room split despite it then being massively unfair on people attending solo.

It doesn’t matter what would happen in a hotel, that’s irrelevant, this isn’t a hotel.

I think per person is probably fairest given you’ll all be using the living spaces and outside spaces equally no matter if you are single or in a couple. Some people will do slightly better out of the room situation than others but the alternative of splitting by room seems less fair.

I think it should be per room, but with room prices set to reflect room size and facilities. Otherwise you could have one person paying half the cost and nabbing the king size with ensuite to themselves, while a couple are given the pull out sofa-bed at double cost.

You should obviously pay less per person for a shared room than you would for a whole room to yourself, but equally the ensuite king shouldn't be priced the same as a small single or a standard twin.

Won't you be using any of the other rooms?

If it's a rental it's per person not per room. I've got a 4 b/r villa rented and we're 6 people - 2 couples and 2 singletons so divide the rental by 6.

If your DH turns up for one night then he should pay for food that day or something similar rather than full price. Seems crazy that he'd go just for one night though.

I figure this kind of comes out in the wash as a singleton. I get my own room on an Air BnB holiday (sometimes, sometimes bunk with a friend) but get stung on hotels. But the hotel is just life unless there's someone else who wants to share. It is a pain though!

In this situation it feels a bit unfair to charge the husband extra for one night, he's not causing a bigger place to be rented so I'd say free or low cost. This sort of thing is such a pain to do fairly though!

Don't be that person - if your DH can only make it for one night, he can't make it. Just go on your own, makes life easier for everyone involved.

I think it would be unusual for your friend to have found a house which sleeps 14 people in 8/9 rooms where all of those rooms are of equal size and standing. We go a lot of group trips in big houses and it’s pretty much an eventuality that there will be a couple of reasonably shit rooms with bunkbeds or whatever, which the single people will graciously take. Ask to see the villa listing and then it might immediately become apparent that there’s a more equitable way to divvy things up than everyone paying an identical price.

I do one of these kind of holidays with a big group of friends every year- its always split pp regardless of who is sharing a room with who, its the fairest and easiest way. There are always single people, or people who come alone as their partner can't make it, or people who get the master suite because they get there first, or people who get the bunk beds because they turned up later etc.

Per person, as it’s not fair on the singletons to pay twice as much as the people in a couple.

They are, as there are two of them paying for that room. OP will have paid half and still had her own room.

YABU @NatureNatur

Couples are often really selfish about this sort of thing and oblivious to the space they take up because “Oh we’re sharing a bedroom”. But there are still two people using the kitchen, the bathroom, the sitting room and so on.

To be honest I'd expect a bit of a mix.

If its a house not a hotel, everyone is using the shared facilities so a flat rate per room regardless of how many share is not fair.

However, singles each getting a room to themselves isn't fair unless there are (for eg) single & double rooms.

In an ideal world the maths is worked based on a rate per room with a supplement for an additional person in the room

A hotel would do it by room although they might charge less for a single room a double room doesn't normally cost twice as much as a single. As it's a house I don't know.
But I do think it's fair for you to say your husband won't be able to come

Yes it should be per person.

Yeah but this isn't a hotel.

But surely if your DH comes the cost per person goes down?

13 people at £400pp = £5200
So with an extra person it goes down to £370 each?

The couples always take the better and en-suite bedrooms so should pay more.

Per person. You’re friends not a hotel operator.

To be honest,a hotel would probably be a less contentious option, let someone else decide the pricing!