Do you divide up the cost per person or per rooom?

It has to be per person, really. Just because some of those people are sharing a room is irrelevant - they are still being provided with all the facilities of the rental, same as everyone else.

Splitting it per room is hugely unfair on people who can't or don't want to share.

That said, I don't think someone coming for just one night should pay the same as everyone else.

When we book a cottage we divide the cost by nights. Then the nights be how many are sleeping... Sometimes dd joins for only 3 nights.. Those 3 nights she pays same as we pay per night making those nights cheaper for the rest. Dc aren't included in costs except food expenses which me and dh cover.. All paying adults pay the same regardless of room status.. We take turns who gets en suite every year..

I think split per person (if all adults). In my experience couples/families are always given the nicer/larger rooms with en suites etc. anyway. Also, for those saying the single people could share just like the couples do to keep costs down, this really isn’t the same. I’m no where near as relaxed if sharing with another person in the group as I would be sharing with my husband, especially if the rooms only have double beds rather than a twin. Xxx

What on earth is degrading about 'singletons'?

I think it depends on the bedroom situation.
Do all couples/singles get their own room or are the singles expected to share? Is anyone being allocated to the sofa etc?

I'd presume per person unless 1) the singles get a double room each 2) someone is having to sleep on a pull out.

We have a similar situation with an extended family rental this summer.
We have gone for per person excluding DCs sleeping in their DPs room.

This means that Dnephew and niece have the huge en suite master with the gorgeous en suite bathroom because of their two young DCs, whilst we have a tiny double with shared bathroom. I am not wildly convinced everyone will cough up their share in the end, but am leaving it up to DH to sort out. I am planning to maybe not go for the full week, but will still count as a full share as it's not like anyone else can share the double room with DH.

There's no 100% fair way of doing it, but I think you're right to say that DH will bow out and can costs be rejigged accordingly.

Per person

This!!

Although i'd never spend £400 on a birthday trip for anyone anyway....

We really need to know how many bedrooms there are and how many are sleeping in each one.

The problem is when the singles want a room to themselves at half the cost that the couples are paying for the same room.

Paying per person and everyone sharing 2 to a room= fine

Paying per room and people choose to share or not = fine

Some people paying the same for a room to themselves as others are for half a shared room = not fine (unless there is an obvious discrepancy in rooms e.g. master ensuite v small single).

Ah ok!

It's obscene to expect people to come to your birtday party but paying for it. A high cost as well.

Am I the only person that would have an issue with sending £400 to a friend to stay in accommodation that I hadn’t even seen? Maybe I’m just tight lol.

Maybe also untrusting as I’d also like to know the actual total cost of it!

I don't understand?

B-girl is obscene imo. CF is an euphemism.

This is not a hotel but a villa rented privately. So I guess the person just wants the cost to be divided btw the persons attending. I think it's cheeky to suggest a birthday party where guests are supposed to pay. Personally I would decline. I would never expect people to fork up money to pay for a villa I rented for my birthday, how entitled is that? One thing if it's just people going on vacation together. And ofcourse you need to buy a birthday present as well.

I would say sorry, we can't make it and then go on a week-end break with DH and children to a place YOU choose.

Is the villa really £5,200 for four nights?? Is it fully catered? That's an obscene cost

Just to add id want to see the villa first, if you hate it then i wouldn't go. Also what if some beds are singles and some are doubles? Sofa beds! I'd totally resent being asked to split it evenly if I'm shafted with a sofa bed and anyone else got a massive king bed and paid the same as me. If it had a sofa bed I'd probably say "ooh I can see a sofa bed, to make sure no one's stuck on that all week we'll have to take it in turns" put it out there from the get go.

I think somewhere in the middle is fair as the payment isn’t just for a room but the use of the whole villa.

Well either way you'd be paying double surely? Because if you split it per room then the singletons, which i presume would share rooms would go half each on the room to share?

I'd not be paying anything til I saw the house details - what if she's decided sofa beds are proper beds? Nope.

Single people and people without children always end up with the shit rooms. Single people are often expected to shared a bed with other single people or go on a sofa bed. It's so rubbish. If you care about your friends and you want everyone to be there then paying per head is the fairest way to do it. And it's just kind to have picked somewhere where the Single people get their own bed and room for a change!

I had one holiday where we split the villa equally, despite our friends having an extra bedroom for their 4 year old, which I wasn't bothered about. We took the room downstairs off the living room so the two sets of parents could have upstairs with easiest access to bathroom/ensuite.

The only thing that really bothered me about having the rubbish room off the living room was said 4 year old would be awake and down there at 6am every morning of the holiday playing loudly, knocking on our door and asking when we'd come out.

We didn't get any peace. Probably should have guessed that a holiday with a 4 year and a baby wouldn't be the most relaxing but in hindsight, we should have had a nice room at the top of the house so we wouldn't be disturbed. (Oh and yes, it was me who found the whole place, booked it, organized everything).

If it's per person, I assume the couple are entitled to 2 rooms if they'd prefer not to share, or if they feel they could use two rooms?

It swings both ways. If it's per person, couples are subsidising singles, unless all singles are sharing 2 to a room or having a small single room.

If it's per room, everyone sharing a room pays the same, people (single or otherwise) can choose to pay more if they want the luxury of a room to themselves without sharing with someone else.

But per person, the single person is paying half the price for a whole room to themselves thsnca couple is for a shared room.

so if there's a mix of single and double rooms, and the same charge per room, the single guests have as much entitlement to a large king size double?