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Why would she think this is ok?

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GanderingGoose · 10/02/2025 19:10

DD (20 months) and I are stood at the bus stop waiting for bus home after work and nursery pick up. It's pretty chilly here today in the lower single digits but DD is wearing a few layers with a full snow suit over the top and her hat/mittens. DD is jabbering away quite happily when an older lady further down the queue says 'excuse me, just put the hood up on your pram to keep your little one warm'. I agree that it is rather chilly today but my DD is quite snug because she's wearing her layers/snow suit /hat etc. The lady tutted and said that what was I thinking taking her out at this time of day anyway. I mean , what am I supposed to do? Just hibernate away from 4pm each winter? Is this lady just a bit bat shit or was it generally considered more welcome to offer 'advice' to strangers in previous generations.

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MajorCarolDanvers · 10/02/2025 19:30

saveforthat · 10/02/2025 19:28

Great, another ageist thread.

Yep. Ageism is rampant on here.

saveforthat · 10/02/2025 19:28

Great, another ageist thread.

Silvertulips · 10/02/2025 19:27

My parents generation wrapped up babies and left them outside for hours down the bottom of the garden!!

OldTinHat · 10/02/2025 19:26

You smile and wave, smile and wave...

Princesspollyyy · 10/02/2025 19:25

BigSharkey · 10/02/2025 19:20

Get use to it, once you have kids this will happen quite a bit!

Eh? Who are you referring to?

ColinOfficeTrolley · 10/02/2025 19:25

Is this lady just a bit bat shit or was it generally considered more welcome to offer 'advice' to strangers in previous generations

Well I'm assuming she's always been a bit of a twat.

People don't become pensioners and then all of a sudden turn into twats. Despite what people on Mumsnet try to portray all elderly people as.

I couldn't imagine my 78 year old mum dreaming of saying this to someone.

she was an interfering old bat

You sound delightful.

Ketzele · 10/02/2025 19:24

People love giving advice. Just look at Mumsnet!

NovemberMorn · 10/02/2025 19:20

I recall being in the Dr's waiting room with my 3 year old son who was playing with the toys. An elderly lady gave him a big wrapped boiled sweet, I took it off him, gave it her back, and said he wouldn't be able to eat that yet, it was too big.

She was really affronted and said 'well, he will never learn will he'?'

BigSharkey · 10/02/2025 19:20

Get use to it, once you have kids this will happen quite a bit!

GermanBite · 10/02/2025 19:18

Just be glad she isn't your MIL.

nellythe · 10/02/2025 19:14

You’ll encounter this sort occasionally. I remember a lady making a big song and dance that my daughter didn’t have a coat on in a shop one evening as it was a bit chilly. I offered to go to the car with her and she could try and wrestle my very over tired child into her coat if she felt necessary. She didn’t take me up on it.

NovemberMorn · 10/02/2025 19:12

Your baby was warm and happy....she was an interfering old bat.

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