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To think being single should be celebrated more than getting married?

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BeChicMember · 10/02/2025 16:26

Marriage gets all the glory, but choosing to focus on yourself or remain single is just as valid, if not braver.

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KilkennyCats · 10/02/2025 16:35

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 10/02/2025 16:34

I think I'd love a single mother celebration campaign run by one of those companies trying to sell bath products, like dove

It would say 'a single parent family isn't a broken family'

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To what purpose? What would it add to your life?

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 10/02/2025 16:34

Iwishiwasapolarbear · 10/02/2025 16:32

Celebrated in what way? It’s nice to have a celebratory meal or something if you’ve achieved something but it’s not something I’d expect for being a mum. Unless it’s something nice from my kids on Mother’s Day

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I think I'd love a single mother celebration campaign run by one of those companies trying to sell bath products, like dove

It would say 'a single parent family isn't a broken family'

Ponderingwindow · 10/02/2025 16:34

The people celebrating their milestones tend to be the ones throwing the party, even if officially someone else stands in as host. People can throw a party to celebrate a promotion or mastering a new skill just as easily, they just have to decide to spend the time and money.

Rainplops · 10/02/2025 16:33

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 10/02/2025 16:29

I'm gonna get some comments but I think that single mums should be celebrated - not pitied and looked down on but genuinely celebrated

As should single women who achieve things

Edit - like at valentines day, single people should be celebrated

And you could throw a 'I'm not having a baby' party a la Samantha Jones, or an I'm not getting married party - could be fun

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Yes! My lovely neighbour of nearly 70 asked me last week if we could each get each other a valentine's day card. I think I'll add a little bunch of flowers too, bless her.

Iwishiwasapolarbear · 10/02/2025 16:32

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 10/02/2025 16:29

I'm gonna get some comments but I think that single mums should be celebrated - not pitied and looked down on but genuinely celebrated

As should single women who achieve things

Edit - like at valentines day, single people should be celebrated

And you could throw a 'I'm not having a baby' party a la Samantha Jones, or an I'm not getting married party - could be fun

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Celebrated in what way? It’s nice to have a celebratory meal or something if you’ve achieved something but it’s not something I’d expect for being a mum. Unless it’s something nice from my kids on Mother’s Day

KilkennyCats · 10/02/2025 16:32

Getting married is an event.
Not getting married is a non event.

Glowingworms · 10/02/2025 16:32

For me, accepting someone into my life was braver than remaining single

Earwiggoearwiggoearwiggo · 10/02/2025 16:32

Nothing wrong with being single, and many people prefer it. But I'm not sure how I feel about people celebrating "choosing to focus on themselves". Most people choose to focus on themselves, let's be honest.

Celebrate independence, for sure, and people achieving things by themselves.

skippy67 · 10/02/2025 16:31

Loveduppenguin · 10/02/2025 16:28

throw a party then…

This.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 10/02/2025 16:29

I'm gonna get some comments but I think that single mums should be celebrated - not pitied and looked down on but genuinely celebrated

As should single women who achieve things

Edit - like at valentines day, single people should be celebrated

And you could throw a 'I'm not having a baby' party a la Samantha Jones, or an I'm not getting married party - could be fun

Loveduppenguin · 10/02/2025 16:28

throw a party then…

LoveWine123 · 10/02/2025 16:28

People getting married throw themselves parties to celebrate. Nothing is stopping single people to throw similar parties and celebrate?

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