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I wasn't invited to my coworker's house warming party

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user1471867483 · 10/02/2025 09:27

Everyone in my office was invited except me. I live 30 miles away so really I couldn't have made it, but I would've bought him a house warming gift. He said he'd invite me, but I only knew he had the party just this weekend as everyone in the office is talking about it now and I can't join in as in the end I wasn't invited. I feel so embarrassed. He has the day off today. I feel rejected and left out. Am I being too sensitive? The others live nearer him (so maybe they could have made it there better than me) and one lives far away from him like I do, but he still he got invited 🤔

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DoNoTakeNo · 10/02/2025 13:40

Yeah, in your shoes I'd be pretty surprised & quite p'd off too.
However, it happened, it's over, move on.
Not worth your energy to dissect it further (& also not worth potentially disrupting relations at work & being judged negatively as a result).

Meadowfinch · 10/02/2025 13:39

You live 30 miles away. You couldn't have attended and had a drink. He's probably not set up for guests yet, so I can't see the issue.

TemporaryPosition · 10/02/2025 13:39

You're not being over sensitive, that would hurt anyone normal. It might have been oversight? But still hurtful.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 10/02/2025 13:37

So he said he was going to invite you before the party but you didn't actually get an invite with details? If that's the case it might just have been an oversight. If you don't tell them it's unlikely anyone knows you didn't get an invite. I'd feel hurt too, but it doesn't necessarily mean anything.