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For not responding to every snap of my friends baby girl?

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lalabugirl · 10/02/2025 08:50

since the day my good friend got her first litte girl i swear, ive been recieving snapchats almost daily, about milestones and baby just doing baby stuff. baby is 1 years old. Im done with comments, I have myself a daughter who is 6 years, but i have never spammed my friends with pictures or videos of her unless it was her grandparents that wanted updates. I do know myself even how much i love my own child i understand that she is not that interesting and special to everyone else besides me and her dad n family. And i honestly feel the same about other peoples child and babies, but sometimes some mums forget about that. I mean yea sure a picture or video once a while is nice. But it have reached the point where i stopped replying to baby milestones and stuff and when her child get the flu and is sick. She sends snaps about that to.

«Like yea your kid will get sick looots of time once they start in kindergarten its not that uncommon» i think to myself. I think i miss when her snaps wans’t just 99% focused on her baby. Or when she sends me a snap and then i don’t reply and then she send them on snap messages. Feels a bit overwhelming to me. Like she wants my attention trough her baby? I may be wrong, but even tough her LO is lovley i don’t want our frinedship to be based on her child. Since im a mom myself i do try to be understanding but as said, even as a mom i get tired of baby talk and daily updates and videos/pictures. Maybe because myself never over talked about my baby to my friends, then i can’t really relate besides having a child to. This may have camed a bit blunt out..

btw im from norway so my english is not the best

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lalabugirl · 10/02/2025 10:53

@hattie43 and its pretty true. You can’t even say it, even tough you think about it.

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lalabugirl · 10/02/2025 09:50

@LightDrizzle i do hope it dosn’t get to that point where she asks. Like not even my own sister spams me about her kids. I do really hope its not her way to get attention from me. Sometimes or obvious her snaps belong in the family messages. When she post them on her snap story is a dif thing, but don’t understand why i need to know that lya was a good girl and sleept the whole night, this is also been a banger snap since her baby was born😆 about night sleeps

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LightDrizzle · 10/02/2025 09:34

You’ve been incredibly patient.

Don’t feel guilty about not commenting and if she asks about it just say it’s got a bit much, lovely as little Thea/ Evie/ Lottie is.

People are so solipsistic!

Notgivenuphope · 10/02/2025 09:10

I’d have to tell her. It’s not fair to let her go on and on and you get gradually so (rightfully) pissed off you don’t want to be around her.

Big yawn and right that’s enough child talk, let’s talk about something else. And keep repeating.

Devilsmommy · 10/02/2025 09:08

hattie43 · 10/02/2025 09:02

Tedious , nothing more dull than someone else's child although clearly it's not polite to say so

I completely agree. Even if your child is an absolute legend, nobody else cares as much as you 🤣

lalabugirl · 10/02/2025 09:04

@PaintDecisions she sounds overdramatic much omg.. i feel like sooner or later i may even hear the same from my friend.

@lnks she has a partner and other friends with baby

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hattie43 · 10/02/2025 09:02

Tedious , nothing more dull than someone else's child although clearly it's not polite to say so

lnks · 10/02/2025 08:56

Is she lonely or isolated, or does she have a partner?

PaintDecisions · 10/02/2025 08:54

My mate blocked me on Facebook because I didn't like her DD's photos enough. She was spending thousands on designer outfits (no idea how she paid for them, she was on about £25k and her husband the same) and doing costume changes and photo shoots umpteen times a day... I muted her when kiddo was about 3mth old and she lost her shit with me about another 3mth later.

Some people just can't understand why we aren't obsessed with their child. And that's their problem.