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Original poster

First day back after mat leave and I’m ill

62 replies

Candle81 · 10/02/2025 08:17

WIBU to do call in sick? I’m due back at work tomorrow after 10 months off. But yesterday morning I started being ill, I think I’ve caught something from my baby who always has some sort of bug.

High fever, aches, coughing, headache, upset stomach and completely lost my voice. If I’m not better tomorrow AIBU to call in sick? I’ve worked at my company for 7 years and barely had a sick day!

OP posts:
SatinHeart · 10/02/2025 08:45

Can you log on for a bit and have a 'welcome back' chat with your manager first thing? Hopefully when they see/hear you are unwell they'll tell you to log off and go back to bed.

BabyFever246 · 10/02/2025 08:45

Honestly if you're sick you're sick. My first day back my baby was ill. Had lots of people saying I couldn't possibly be off and to just give baby neurofen and send into nursery and thats what everyone does (if that's true thats how baby got ill!). By midday I was in A&E with a floppy high temp baby. That one day of work isn't worth it.

wishIwasonholiday10 · 10/02/2025 08:44

There are a lot of martyrs on here! The OP sounds really sick and should be in bed resting. There are some nasty viruses going around at the moment. I had a similar one last week and even after a week of sick leave I’m still feeling poorly and only just managing to work.

Doggymummar · 10/02/2025 08:44

ThatsNotMyTeen · 10/02/2025 08:41

OP says:

High fever, aches, coughing, headache, upset stomach and completely lost my voice.

how is that just being “apprehensive”?

OP just call your boss, they’ll be able to tell you are unwell if you’re that bad. If you’re sick you’re sick, it can’t be helped.

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I suffer from stress PTSD and anxiety all the above are symptoms. It's a high stress situation, it's perfectly reasonable to feel this way.

Bamboopole · 10/02/2025 08:43

You sound too ill to work if you have a fever. Definitely phone in sick and get some rest. The reality is you will be taking a lot of sick days during the nursery years, it's one bug after another. You've been there a long time so they know your character. Hope you feel better soon.

TheatreTraveller · 10/02/2025 08:43

I'd log on and wfh. I really wouldn't want to ring in sick on my first day back unless completely incapacitated.

ThatsNotMyTeen · 10/02/2025 08:41

Doggymummar · 10/02/2025 08:33

I wouldn't, they will have all the arrangements made by now. You are probably just feeling a bit apprehensive. Lig on and see how you go.

OP says:

High fever, aches, coughing, headache, upset stomach and completely lost my voice.

how is that just being “apprehensive”?

OP just call your boss, they’ll be able to tell you are unwell if you’re that bad. If you’re sick you’re sick, it can’t be helped.

Motnight · 10/02/2025 08:38

Honestly it's awful timing Op but as you are WFH I think that you should log on and just try and get through it.

Spanielsaremad · 10/02/2025 08:37

I'd at least log on and show my face. They'll probably see you're ill and tell you to log off.

Doggymummar · 10/02/2025 08:33

I wouldn't, they will have all the arrangements made by now. You are probably just feeling a bit apprehensive. Lig on and see how you go.

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Candle81 · 10/02/2025 08:28

I do wfh however I don’t really feel well enough to do that! I’ll have to speak and I literally have no voice.

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Notsuchafattynow · 10/02/2025 08:23

What is your job?

WFH where you can log on and catch up with emails is different to being a nurse in ICU.