Tutor canceled lessons!

You could and should have set up a standing order.

Why are you saying a tutor should be kinder because they work with children? Why weren't you kinder to remember (having been reminded) to pay their bill? It's not the tutor's fault or their responsibility. This is all on you.

To be honest, if you talk to the tutor with anything like the tone you use when you talk about her I am not surprised she is not bending over backwards to accommodate you. You come over as expecting quite a lot but being prepared to bend yourself very little.

I'm sure it will all work out fine in the end. You will find a tutor who is so desperate for work that they won't mind being late every second or third month, and she will find clients who respect the value she adds enough to make sure she is paid on time.

If this outcome is to your DC's detriment I am afraid that is solely on you.

Pay on time, the tutor is not a charity, and has their own bills to pay.

I assume this is a reverse.

if not, you breached a material term of your contract. Twice. Tutor well within reason to terminate it.

Not this again

shame for you, not for her, she has another client now who actually pays her.

I know a music tutor who won't start lessons each term until the invoice is paid. Sounds a good idea to me. Makes people like the OP pay up.
I am also a tutor and each term I have to chase up over £1000 of late payments. It's very annoying.

Sorry, hadn't seen this subsequent post.

you must be joking! You clearly don’t value her time.
i am self employed too and chasing clients is the worst. we all have busy lives and she sent you one reminder already.

We pay our tutor one term in advance btw!

As I said before, the terms and conditions are clear in the reminder email. The tutor was under no obligation to inform her again.

Gosh Op. You sound so entitled - you expect more courtesy, someone like this shouldn’t be working with children, she’s not patient so this is why she’s no longer a class teacher. You email her over the weekend. . .

I hate to add to the obvious, but you sound hideous and maybe your tutor is delighted to see the back of you.

Also, the other family were probably embarrassed by your reaction and the thought that you hadn’t paid your bills.

You didn't pay.
You ignored the reminder.
You turned up anyway.
You were <surprised> the tutor had replaced you...

Can anyone really be so thick skinned??

It was made clear in the reminder email that failing to pay would result in the session being lost and the contract being deemed broken. Why would the tutor waste any more time on the OP?

It takes some nerve to turn up to a lesson you haven't paid for.😄

Ha! I was thinking exactly the same thing.

Are you the person who didn’t pay their childminder?

OP, if you really want your child to learn with this tutor, you could try the following:

First, a grovelling apology, in which you fully accept how disrespectful to the tutor and negligent to your child's education you have been. You can't fake this, as sincerity and tone is everything, so you will have to actually do this piece of personal work.

Two, politely ask if you can join her waiting list for a new regular slot, on the proviso that you will pay for the full term or full year in advance. Accept that you will not be refunded for any sessions you cancel. (I suspect that your 'cancelled very few lessons' in just six months was also part of the problem.)

Be graceful if she says No.

You’re still blaming the tutor? September isn’t that long. This is your second late payment and also ignored the reminder. How late were you last time? Add to this you’ve cancelled a few lessons. I assume you still paid for those but it would still be frustrating for them. Yabvu. I hope you learn from this for the next tutor.

This.

OP you lack self awareness regarding your behaviour and comments regarding the tutor.

I think you should pay on time and i think she could have given you a heads up at least to confirm she was cancelling you BUT also, you are part of the tutoring system, trying to get your child an advantage to get into grammar school. This is a dog eat dog world you have entered - you need to up your game!

This is SURELY a wind up.

You didn’t pay on time and after a reminder. Tutor absolutely within their rights to give up your space, they’re self-employed. Would you be happy with your employer “forgetting” pay day because they’ve been busy?

You are the one that’s rude OP . Not paying on time on more than one occasion.
Being busy is no excuse The tutor was right . You sound incredibly entitled .
This is your fault but your unwillingness to apologise and accept your mistakes is very telling.

Could you afford to offer to pay her let's say 3 months in advance as you really value her and don't want to forget again?

Had yu paid Feb's invoice by the time you turned up?! Because if not, yuou are even more in the wrong.