Why is it not illegal to cheat on someone

The law isn't there to prevent feelings from being hurt.

You cannot legislate against every piece of bad behaviour that people may engage in.

Sadly.

You have a point if you are married. That is a contract and you should be able to civilly sue your spouse specifically for it. If you are not married, yes it is hurtful but for illegal conduct you need a contract.
I also think that if you sleep with someone outside of your marriage and then sleep with your spouse without telling them what you did, you violate their consent. They may not have agreed to sleep with the cheat had they known.

just because you don’t feel it doesn’t mean others aren’t traumatised. Maybe you Lack empathy.

My ex cheated on me, I wouldn't want him banged up for it. After a year of pain I realised that it had never been right. There was things I needed to work on too. Doesn't mean it's okay but it's far too nuanced to created a law about where you bang up the cheater.

Wowsers

The person went on about how great of a person they were and how they weren’t like other guys. They acted like they cared about me and would be supportive of me

I wouldn't believe someone like this until I'd known them some time

It's not possible to legislate because you made a choice to believe someone , discovered you were wrong and now you want redress

That's just crazy !

Do you seriously think that a law like that would be to the advantage of overly clingy ex girlfriends?

It would be used to terrorise women. Every time they left a controlling and abusive relationship, they'd be reported to the police for adultery. If they hadn't managed to leave yet, they'd be reported to the police for adultery. If they'd made eye contact with somebody, they'd be reported to the police for adultery. If they didn't want to terminate a pregnancy, they'd be reported to the police for adultery. If they did terminate a pregnancy, they'd be reported to the police for adultery. If they intended to terminate a pregnancy they'd be reported to the police for adultery, knowing that the investigation/arrest could mean the termination not going ahead. And what would you suggest is the penalty - stoning? Compulsory sexual servitude/marriage? Taking away their ability to have sex with anybody else?

Being dumped sucks. Wanting to take away the ability for somebody in an abusive, coercive relationship to escape because you feel crappy is ridiculous - but would be the sort of thing said by a perpetrator of such abuse and coercion once the person they see as their property escapes.

It's the same path of twisted logic that covers incels, annihilators, and theocratic dictatorships.

This. It should be punishable by firing squad.

@onceuponatimelived

No it’s fine Susan, you just keep getting cheated on and the generations after you too.

Don’t encourage, celebrate or explore any concept of change. Just stay put in your cycle of exploitation. That’s really the sort of country you want to live in.

You live in the wrong country. Saudi is >>>>> that way

Vetted by whom?

What would the cost be and how long would the wait take until someone gives you the ok to date them?

Anyone who tells you how great they are and how they're not like other guys is more likely to be a narcissist than a great guy. Going round telling people how great you are is NOT normal behaviour. Definitely a red flag to watch out for in future.

Another approach would be to make it harder to get into a bad relationship in the first place

Perhaps all potential partners shoukd be vetted for compatibility. Could save a lot of heartache

It causes a lot of damage to men when women do it too. But making it a criminal offence is ridiculous.

I often thought there should be some sort of consequences when I was going through the aftermath. A lot of the times the person cheated on has been living a version of their lives that isn’t true. Feeling that all come tumbling down and having your brain try and work out what the fuck has been happening is pretty traumatic IME.

A truly great man wouldn't tell you he was great. That would turn me off him straight away.

I am NOT exaggerating when I say I just choked on my tea and inhaled some of it.
🤣🤣🤣

It has moral consequences, particularly if there are children involved. I know you don’t want to go back to some medieval framework where adulterers get stoned.

if we were to get practical one could suggest you need to get better at spotting these losers to protect yourself. Freedom programme maybe?

You can (and people do) go to prison for having one small alcoholic drink while pregnant in some parts of the US. Think again.

If the relationship was going too fast for you, you slow down. You protect yourself.

He might have felt the first flush of love/ lust, but it waned as it sometimes does and he moved on.

Someone who future fakes and has a past stream of women behind him / never had a long term relationship/ marriage is a walking red flag. A one man carnival.
Of course he's going to lie. No one would date it sleep with him otherwise.

You weren't married, engaged etc so had no evidence except words and actions suspect mostly words.
It's not a crime to think you like someone then change your mind and be crap about telling them.

I'm on the side of free will, and staying together because we both want to.

Cheating is grim but luckily we don't live under Sharia law.

You house/car getting robbed doesn't even get attention.

My family member got burgled while in the house hiding with her kids in the bedroom, she was on the phone to the police as it happened. They said they where sending emergency response but no one ever showed, luckily the guy just took some stuff and left (probably unaware they where even in the house). Took police 2 weeks to get back in touch and asked if she was still currently being robbed and still needed an officer to attend.

No the police don't have time for real crimes, people are dying (a neighbor died after police didn't attend a welfare check on a vulnerable person raised by multiple neighbors for over 48 hours) due to overstretched forces, let alone to sort 'hurt feelings' in civil matters.

While it would be tricky in practice in some situations I do think if proven cheating should completely be taken into account if it came to a divorce and the person being cheated on being able to take the cheater to the cleaners when it comes to dividing the assets.

I do think maybe it would be nice if there was also more of a social stigma to cheating and knowingly entering an affair with the cheater. Emphasis on the word knowingly. Maybe we could start with if the cheater is a public figure both parties having to publicly apologise for any disappointment, grievances and hurt caused.

They do it because they're emotionally immature, selfish and in a lot of cases narcissistic. You've dodged a bullet and learnt a hard lesson.

I suppose you should write to your MP in the first instance. If you put forward your reasons they should give this due consideration. In fact I’ll also write to my MP and together we’ll fight the good fight. Let’s sock it to the liars and dirty cheats of the world. 😂