Why is it not illegal to cheat on someone

I would have dumped them at them at them telling me me 'how great of a person they are'
Sorry you've had a shit time, but your idea of making someone breaking your heart illegal is just ridiculous and unworkable

Yes I'm not suggesting women shoukd be trapped in abusive relationsps

I'm suggesting that - ideally - it would be (1) harder for people to enter into unsuitable relationships in the first place and (2) easier to leave if unhappy

I wasn't suggesting that this is realistic, or feasible. Just idealistic. If eg you had to jump through lots of tests before you're allowed to settle down with a partner, some people woukd realise they're not compatible and heartbreak avoided. As I say, not realistic or feasible

I understand, i really do. I'm 14 years down the line since a break up, and 10 years since last final contact, with someone who emotionally, financially and mentally sexually abused me,for over 2 years, and i have PTSD i'm still in therapy for. The kind of domestic abuse i suffered, (via online messaging, texts, phonecalls etc) became against the law as part of domestic abuse in May 2015, as opposed to physical abuse like hitting, and physical sexual assault, that was already against the law. BUT it only accepts acts of abuse from the date it became law as prosecuteable, so i can't get any justice.

In your case (i'm going off first post only) it doesn't sound like there was "abuse" as such though, more you simply fell in love with someone who love bombed you, then left you several months later after promising you the world. He'd very much have the counter arguement that at the time he said those things and made those promises he 100% meant them, but then fell out of love with you and, as he and everyone else has the right to do so for any reason, ended the relationship.

I sympathise that you are hurting, that you've had the rug pulled from under you of a future you'd mentally pictured and planned and you've had your heart broken losing the person you wanted to be in a relationship with, but there is often a "loser" when relationships end who didn't want the split to happen.

How would you propose that could be made illegal? That no relationship once started can ever be ended unless both people involved agree on splitting? How could that ever be enforced? That everyone who ever proposes, has to go through with getting married even if they fall out of love with their partner, because they "promised"? That divorce is abolished because you said vows that have legally bound you forever?
Would people who cheat be sent to prison? Who would decide what the line was to define cheating? Something physical has to have happened, or emotionally getting close and expressing desire to be with someone else?

If there has been actual domestic abuse, emotionally or physically such as coercive control, threats, violence, or sexual offences etc then that can be reported and investigated as that is against the law, but simply hurting someone by ending a relationship or not being completely honest with them, couldn't ever be made a crime as theres just no way to police that, and everyone should have the free will to walk away from a relationship they no longer want to be a part of.

You are a few generations too late, OP. You could have chased the bastard for financial settlement under Breach of Promise to marry laws only a few generations ago in much of Europe.

You could always emigrate to Saudi. He'd probably have his balls crushed and be socially excluded for life but they'd also nab you, too - for having sex before marriage.

On a serious note, dating can be shitty. Sorry you had a horrible experience. Better luck in future relationships.

Another insane thread.

No sane person would sign this.

@Miratea

What I think should be made ‘illegal’ or at least - very strongly discouraged - is the notion that women should live their lives expecting a fairy tale. Expecting a handsome prince to sweep us off our feet, that we pander to them, that we make ourselves pretty for them, that we totter about in high heels and be at their beck and call.
If that’s the way men behave, then we live our lives in a way that we don’t need them.

If we are talking things that are never going to happen and would be wide open to misuse, on balance, I'd rather it be made legal to crush the lying bastard's nugget & beans with a cricket bat but I don't think the majority would consider that cricket.

In all seriousness, I don't think you can legislate over hurt feelings. We are getting quite close enough to that already. It's also too subjective. One person's oh well may be another's devastation. How can you really prove level or cause of trauma. It's he said, she said, they said on steroids.

You want the State to monitor your private relationships????

Bonkers.

There is also the huge risk to health - both physical and mental.

You could once sue for breach of legal contract if you broke an engagement etc..

You can apply for a legal separation and a split of assets aquired during the union. This you can also do if you have been in a live-in relationship for more than XXX years.
Adequate documentation as proof of a De facto relationship and a lawyer to handle the separation means that you have a chance of not losing out financially - even though your heart is broken.

Maybe you could write and sign a prenup to a relationship too and include a clause should either of you cheat. Then you break your own rules/laws and pay the agreed price.

I think this is the same person who wants WhatsApp to stop allowing locked chats.

So you only want it to be illegal for men?

That's weird

Women also cheat on men you know.

I'm sorry you've had to experience this, but really it's not realistic to make a law against it.

I understand you are devastated and rightly so. This will never happen and thank God for that. I've been cheated on myself and still think the idea is crazy. Give yourself grace and kindness. You are going thru a lot.

I too understand why you are upset, but it’s a complex issue. It’s not only men who cheat. Women do so too. Also reasons vary widely, from simply being selfish and wanting to for a bit of fun, to desperation in a difficult marriage. The idea of it being illegal is ridiculous.

No one is forced to enter into any relationship. Takes two to tango.

How on earth would this work? Would teenagers and young 20 somethings be charged with "cheating"?

I think OP is just hurting.

Yikes.

How have women uniquely (as opposed to women and men) been advantaged by being able to leave relationships (I think you mean marriages) more easily?

WTAF? Am I the only one disturbed by the OPs views and those of some of the other posters? What utter bollocks of course cheating shouldn’t be illegal! I’m actually hoping you’re a troll!

All right, keep it light

You didn’t did you 😁 it probably sounded more rational in your head.

The people on here saying dating should be regulated, it should be made more difficult to enter/leave etc, are you nuts?

I don't think so. Lots of couples can forgive lies about money, debt, gambling but can't get over infidelity. For lots of people, being rejected for another person is what is traumatic about cheating. Particularly if that person has low self-esteem, abandonment issues, attachment issues and/or narcissistic tendencies. The wound to the ego can be incredibly painful and difficult to deal with.