Why is it not illegal to cheat on someone

Oh no, let tax payers money go on building and buying bombs and weaponry to murder some of the poorest families in the world and fund the media to justify it too.

That seems a better way to spend tax payers hard earned money, doesn’t it?

Please, you’re talking like tax payers money goes to all round great places anyway, your ideology is skewed with a deeply diminished moral high ground. Do some soul searching.

It's a shame it isn't illegal - or at least some sort of wrong. The harm that it does to people is often lifechanging. And cheaters are often naively swept up in cliches so they'd benefit from giving their head a wobble.

I do understand that it's unpoliceable and the police don't even have time to do the work they have currently. Not to mention that we have no money for health and education, never mind this.

This response, I agree with.

If you’re not married what contract has he broken? Yes it’s shit but you need to develop some resilience.

Making cheating illegal wouldn't stop cheats from cheating

It doesn't really surprise me that some people would welcome this level of interference in their life and I suppose it's a logical extension from people believing they have a right to a life free from offence or unpleasantness

Yes women too.
OP it's a batshit idea, this country has enough real crimes to sort out and they don't even do that properly.

It happened to me, by my ex husband of 8 years. I understand why you would ask this as it causes permanent emotional damage and when it’s fresh it really is a physical pain you feel. Not a solution to make it illegal however I do think there should be some reflection of this in financial element of divorce proceedings. Would probably be a nightmare for agreement though.

Would obviously have to be defined beyond the heteronormative PIV...otherwise gays and lesbians could never be accused of cheating!

I don’t understand why these men do it

Women cheat almost as often as men. It's something like 1 in 5 men have admitted cheating during their marriage, compared to 1 in 7 women.

So, why is it apparently only wrong when men do it?

I have sympathy for the OP's position, but this tends to be the law in more conservative countries, and the reality is that women suffer worse under it. Even so, it feels like cheating should be punished in some way.

I think it is worth mentioning that if in the course of this short "relationship" the OP paid a significantly large sum of money to the man in question there might be a suspicion of some form of romance fraud. Which could be crime.

Afghanistan is that way >>>>>

No one wants to listen to the Bible or holy books anymore and be stoned to death for that so it can’t be illegal 🤷🏽‍♀️ you want your taxes to go to the police investigating which consenting adult's had sex with which other consenting adult? yeah ok then 🙄

@Miratea surely it is often down to gullibility and believing the shit they tell you?

The text applies to both genders.

https://www.loc.gov/item/global-legal-monitor/2009-06-22/iran-man-sentenced-to-be-stoned-to-death-for-adultery/

@Miratea
I'm sorry to be harsh, but most of us have been involved in shit relationships and suffered heartbreak and upset at one time or another. But you move on, so why on earth can't you? This can't be your first relationship surely? Get over what's happened, dust yourself down and carry on!
Your post is quite batshit, the police and prosecution services have far better things to do than fine or jail people for cheating!
You come across as trusting too soon, sensitive and far too intense!

@Miratea who the hell would you get to police that idea????

Surely YOU need to decide what you believe and don’t believe. It’s called life…

No one has forced you to be with this man. So why are you?

Please learn from this and move on.

Definitely not a good idea and I would not like to live in a country where this was enshrined in law.

I think we lay too much store by others. Humans are flawed and fallible. Maybe it’s better to withhold some trust and keep ourselves independent enough to not be blindsided when/if someone cheats on us or betrays our trust in any other way.

The courts and criminal system can barely keep up with their current load, and there's a lot they still don't get right. Even if we agree that cheating should be illegal, it's not a realistic goal. But besides that, you can't lower the threshold to that level. Some people are shitty and do shitty things. There should be (and often are) natural consequences for shitty behaviour in life, but the government doesn't need to get involved.

Imprisonment at the least. Then maybe women wouldn’t hate the patriarchy so much.

"Would your doctor nurse be afraid to do a smear test because she could be touching you illegally?"

Some peoples minds work in very mysterious ways.🙄

Agreed, some are just totally incapable specimens.

The police and prosecution service aren’t able to secure convictions against most people who commit rape and assault. How exactly would you expect this to be policed?? Being cheated on hurts but it’s not a crime for someone to not love you enough.