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Have £245 until the 27th Feb, does this sound ok?

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Cantwaitforaholiday33 · 09/02/2025 09:36

This is what's left over, all bills etc. Are paid, This is for food, toiletries, transport and anything else, for me and an adult cat, I live alone.
Not intending to buy anything else like clothes, make up etc.
Supposed to be meeting up with a group of friends next week but worried I'll have to cancel. I don't drive and the place they want to meet at will cost me around £25 return on the train, and it's a high end restaurant. Wish we could just have a coffee or something but I know they're all high earners.

I've got the credit card as a last resort but really don't want to use it. I'm sure people would manage on less but grateful for any suggestions.

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Rhaenys · 11/02/2025 11:08

It’s difficult to say without knowing your travel costs, but that’s more than I spend on groceries for an entire month and I’m not particularly careful with what I buy. It’s only 2.5 weeks. As someone else has said, it wouldn’t even occur to me to be worried with that amount.

Iceboy80 · 10/02/2025 23:05

That's more than enough, it's exactly what I have but I'm frugal and will have money left at the end of the month.

UninterestingFirstPost · 10/02/2025 20:44

I would always prioritise seeing friends. If you say there’s no flexibility on the type of place you eat, I won’t comment that you should do this or that.
Could you pick up any babysitting work in the evening? Or sell some items you no longer need?

Dogsbreath7 · 10/02/2025 20:33

If you win court case and landlord doesn’t pay up then bailiffs will step in.

Dont meet friends, hunker down and eat your way out if the kitchen cupboard tin by tin packet by packet.

walk to work if nice weather, gets some exervise(think about a bike?). Still £80/ mth. Cycle to work scheme?

Isinglass20 · 10/02/2025 20:33

Saving suggestion is to set up a standing order for payment into high interest savings account for say £20 per month or more straight out of your wage as it hits your bank account.

As it’s already taken out you won’t miss it.

oldmoaner · 10/02/2025 20:33

I think I'd cancel and spend they money buying food, stock up on tinned and frozen food plus cat food etc. do some batch cooking and freeze some meals, then next time if you've got a good stock in you could go without worrying. There's a group on Facebook feed yourself for £1/day some good tips and recipes as well.

Beautifulweeds · 10/02/2025 19:22

Cantwaitforaholiday33 · 09/02/2025 09:58

It does annoy me as I've travelled on public transport to see them where they live, I've been to all of them at least once this year.

In that case invite them to your area. Xx

Beautifulweeds · 10/02/2025 19:21

Cantwaitforaholiday33 · 09/02/2025 09:49

I think the £200 boiler repair last week has set me back, and I still have 50% of my credit card to pay which is why I cannot use it. I paid £300 on it this month and I've got about £800 to go.

My transport is only a £2 bus to work luckily, it's literally just food and cat food unless an unexpected emergency happens.

In that case absolutely doable. Just cheap bus and food, which as a single person you can buy a good amount for the next couple of weeks. Have been on far less than this, so you could also meet your friends and buy the cheaper items? Xx

starryeyed19 · 10/02/2025 18:59

I have £19 to last me till then. I think you're good.

Hummingbird445566 · 10/02/2025 18:50

Just go and spend less on meals for the next month. Make a meal plan and then bulk buy ingredients to last you. Buy the Aldi or Lidl’s super 6 to keep costs down and get creative with herbs and spices as rubs for meat. Cost of living is going to remain high for some time and your mental health with suffer if you keep sacrificing time with friends and time to actually live!

Mere1 · 10/02/2025 18:07

Cantwaitforaholiday33 · 09/02/2025 09:42

Thank you. Ive got 1 ready meal in my freezer, some rice, some butter and squash atm.

I can either walk to work or take the bus, and then take a train to visit my family.

I might have to cancel sadly, the only problem was I didn't go last time for the same reason. That's the problem with having friends who earn a lot more..

If you didn’t explain last time, I definitely would this time. Blame your unexpected boiler repair. They will understand and realise you are not a ‘flakey’ friend.

ClockingOffers · 10/02/2025 08:10

Cancel the meal out. Don’t bank on getting the money from your landlord as he’s already shown he’s a dodgy character. If you do get the money back, bung it in your emergency bills savings account.

Sounds like you need to start looking for new friends who share your interests and have a similar budget for entertaining.

It’s really no fun always being the skint pal if your friends are only interested in frittering money away on expensive meals out and there’s millions of people out there and many of them would love to be friends with you. Also, do you really want to hang out with people who are snobby about restaurant venues? I can’t stand MacDonalds but I’d willingly meet friends there if that’s what they preferred to do on a tight budget.

I’ve moved house a few times so always had to start from scratch with friendships and the easiest way is to join some hobby groups and go from there.

Gingerkittykat · 09/02/2025 21:26

Cantwaitforaholiday33 · 09/02/2025 10:34

Public transport if I need to go to work or elsewhere e.g. I need to take the cat to the vets next week.

Do you need to pay the vet fees out of the £245> What kind of transport will you use? Is the cat ok on a bus or do you need to take a taxi?

madaboutpurple · 09/02/2025 20:58

Using a chicken for 2 of us we have a roast on the first day, then a curry and then do chicken pie and some veg and there will be enough for chicken sandwiches for a lunch. Also a box of eggs is useful, fried eggs and chips, an omelette and salad, boiled for a breakfast and egg for another lunch sandwich. Many years ago I had 2 wealthy friends and their point of view was they used to pay for me as they liked meeting up and going for a meal. I would take money with me but it was lovely that they knew other people were not wealthy. They eventually moved away due to getting new jobs.

JMSA · 09/02/2025 20:45

If you cancelled last time, couldn't you invite them to yours for coffee? Just say that you're feeling the pinch after Christmas.
Friendships are a two-way street and you can't avoid them forever because of finances x

rainbowunicorn · 09/02/2025 17:25

I am failing to see how that isnt enough for 1 adult and a cat to be honest.

How many days do you know you will be travelling and is the £2 each way ?. Add this up and take it off the total

What do you normally eat? If it was me I would buy the following

3 x 500g packs of beef mince, potatoes, carrots, onions and celery 4 tins tomatoes couple tins kidney beans, 1kg pasta, rice, chilli powder etc Split the total into 3 and make a chilli, a cottage pie and a bolognese sauce each of these should do you three meals so freeze 2 portions of each so that's you got 9 nights worth of dinner with generous portions.

Pack of sausages and make a sausage casserole will do you 2 meals using some of the carrots, onion, Celery and potatoes from above.

Tray of chicken thigh and jar of curry sauce and do a curry, a chicken casserole and a traybake. Maybe get some peppers either frozen or fresh for the traybake and the curry to bulk it out. Serve with rice potato or pasta.

Get some cheese, milk, butter and flour and make macaroni cheese,

That's your evening meals pretty much accounted for.

Make a large pot of soup each week. Get some lentils or brothmix carrots, onion, potato whatever you have really. Take this to work for lunch.

Breakfasts can be eggs in various forms, but a couple of dozen and you can yes them for omlette etc for lunches or dinners as well. Buy porridge and weetabix, bread and milk.

That should leave you plenty for some fruit like apples, pears, tangerines bananas.

There will be enough left for plenty of cat food.

That wouldn't come to anywhere near your £245.

Justgorgeous · 09/02/2025 16:35

Congratulations on buying your flat. X

DesperatelySeekingDan · 09/02/2025 16:26

On a broader note, although you've had some expenses that have depleted your savings, it does come over as if you're sailing close to the wind with your finances, generally.

You've a lot on your CC that you're struggling to pay off.

Do you need some help with budgeting generally?

If you're constantly watching every penny and running short like you are now, it suggests you're not managing very well and your outgoings aren't matched by your income.

Is this a wake-up call to try to have more of a nest egg?

I know this is a tiny point, but I've never bought kitchen cleaner. All those sprays can be replaced by hot water and a bottle of washing up liquid. Or diluted bleach if necessary. Also, you can't possibly be using a whole bottle of shampoo in 2-3 weeks. I wait for half price offers and grab a Garnier one for £3 which lasts me months.
Likewise, 9 loo rolls are £5, supermarket brand.

I appreciate you're waiting for a deposit back from a LL but even so, you need to try to have more substantial savings.

MarkWithaC · 09/02/2025 15:32

Would your friends really not turn up for your housewarming?
Mine come out rain or shine at the merest sniff of an occasion. They should want to spend time with you, and it shouldn't be conditional on how much money you're able/willing to spend.
If any of my friends said they were a bit tight for money and couldn't go out to dinner, I'd suggest I cooked at mine instead, or a trip to a park and a coffee/cake.
These people really don't sound worth you scraping up the money for a meal by living like some posters suggest (inc the magic Mumsnet chicken Grin)

Goinggold · 09/02/2025 15:15

The money is plenty. I do think you need to urgently prioritise saving though. When you're a homeowner there are always emergencies you have to cover, sometimes several at once so you won't always be able to put it on a credit card. Also having money gives you choices about vet care which insurance might not cover.

HeyMuggie · 09/02/2025 15:11

£14 a day is doable. Make your own lunches, make soups that will keep you full

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 09/02/2025 15:03

Cut out the socialising until your next payday, and you’ll be absolutely fine.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 09/02/2025 14:55

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Normallynumb · 09/02/2025 14:17

I'm sorry It's tough to meet every cost on your own( I live alone too)
Your friends aren't true friends ic they don't take your circumstances into account when they book a high end restaurant.
There is a middle ground. It says it all if they think Wetherspoons beneath them
It's the company that counts not the venue.( can you tell this pisses me off?')
You are doing so well owning your own place and of course the repair costs are expensive. ( new boiler last year here too)
Don't walk to work in this weather when it's not too expensive on public transport.
You will manage on your weekly budget especially as bills are covered
I'm sure you will get the costs if you're solicitor agrees but save it when it comes after paying credit card off
Prioritise you and Cat and buy the decent food
I hope the posts help. I sympathise

MolkosTeenageAngst · 09/02/2025 13:57

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Haha, of course! I get paid on the last day of the month which is usually 31st and hadn’t really thought about the fact February is a shorter month than usual. Well that’s good news for me!

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