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To be upset that DP doesn't want to come on family trip

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Pinkdreams · 08/02/2025 20:38

My family are all getting together next month, we have a big family from england, Ireland and wales. We have rented some caravans at haven. My DD is 10 months and will be her first time away, I asked my partner to come but he is unable to take annual leave during this time, there's only two shifts he would miss out on it would be possible to find cover if he asked but he is saying he doesn't want to. It's one of them, if he wanted to, he would. I feel rather sad as it's our DD first time away and I feel like family time is important, aibu to be upset by this?

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Pinkdreams · 08/02/2025 20:43

Moonnstars · 08/02/2025 20:41

How well does he get on with your family?
Does he like doing big family get togethers?

This sounds like my idea of hell. Perhaps rather than saying this to you he is using work as a (good) excuse to avoid a difficult conversation about how he really doesn't want a holiday with your entire family.

I get that, I personally feel funny if I'm around too many people especially for too long but it's not like we'd all have to be together every minute of every day

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Pinkdreams · 08/02/2025 20:42

RandomButtons · 08/02/2025 20:41

Being in a haven with my other half’s entire extended family sounds deeply uncomfortable and awkward to me.

How long have you been together? Does he know all these people?

Yes he knows them and gets on well with them all

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Pinkdreams · 08/02/2025 20:41

PlumFairies · 08/02/2025 20:40

It’s unreasonable of him not to come but it’s also unreasonable of you to book a holiday without asking him to get his annual leave approved first.

My family booked a last minute deal and let me know I didn't book it

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Moonnstars · 08/02/2025 20:41

How well does he get on with your family?
Does he like doing big family get togethers?

This sounds like my idea of hell. Perhaps rather than saying this to you he is using work as a (good) excuse to avoid a difficult conversation about how he really doesn't want a holiday with your entire family.

RandomButtons · 08/02/2025 20:41

Being in a haven with my other half’s entire extended family sounds deeply uncomfortable and awkward to me.

How long have you been together? Does he know all these people?

PlumFairies · 08/02/2025 20:40

It’s unreasonable of him not to come but it’s also unreasonable of you to book a holiday without asking him to get his annual leave approved first.