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Boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ

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GloMum · 08/02/2025 14:55

The other day my boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ when I was surprised during a work meeting. Boss told me it’s rude towards people from different religions and asked me if I’d done my DEI training. I have, and I enjoy friendships with colleagues from varied backgrounds. I feel really stressed now in case I slip again, and embarrassed I should be told off.

YABU - This is an inappropriate exclamation at work
YANBU - It’s just an exclamation and you shouldn’t be told off for that.

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Nanny0gg · 09/02/2025 12:44

HipMax · 09/02/2025 11:55

It's not much of an insult, is it? If you're genuinely upset by the incredibly common vernacular non swearing phrase "jesus Christ", you are in fact pious (a descriptive word which is in no way an insult). And I'm.not sure "do-gooder" can be counted as offensive, given that Christians, especially the pious ones, are supposed to do good.

I don't think complaining about other people's common speech usage is doing good though. Aren't you meant to be turning the other cheek and kissing your enemies etc?

I was referring the post I specifically quoted...

LynetteScavo · 09/02/2025 12:43

Everyone who thinks it's OK to blaspheme- teach your child to say "Jesus Christ" and tell them to say it as often as they can at school. And then see what their teacher thinks. Grin

Personally I really like children's T-shirts with OMG on. It's like clothes designers for supermarkets were seeing how far they could push things.

AubernFable · 09/02/2025 12:25

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 09/02/2025 12:08

I still think it's very insensitive - and odd - to deliberately invoke the name of a God in whom you don't believe and which presumably means nothing at all to you as a throwaway expression, when you know that it will offend a great many people.

I've always though the same about Mecca bingo halls, too. I'm not a Muslim, but of all the millions of names they could have chosen, it seems crass and deliberately designed to cause offence to choose to name a large gambling company the same as the holy city of a religion that is strictly against gambling of all kinds.

It's not even just about religion; I'm an omnivore, but I would think that somebody opening a butcher's shop or steakhouse restaurant and opting to name it 'The Weeping Vegan' or similar was a nasty person who was deliberately seeking to wholly unnecessarily upset and offend a great many people with sincerely held beliefs.

I’m vegan and I see your point however ‘The Weeping Vegan’ is the coolest name for a butchers or even a vegan restaurant I have ever heard 😂

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 09/02/2025 12:13

HipMax · 09/02/2025 11:55

It's not much of an insult, is it? If you're genuinely upset by the incredibly common vernacular non swearing phrase "jesus Christ", you are in fact pious (a descriptive word which is in no way an insult). And I'm.not sure "do-gooder" can be counted as offensive, given that Christians, especially the pious ones, are supposed to do good.

I don't think complaining about other people's common speech usage is doing good though. Aren't you meant to be turning the other cheek and kissing your enemies etc?

Don't be faux disingenuous: the phrase 'do-gooder' is very much a derogatory and insulting one, as you well know.

It's never, ever used in a positive or complimentary way to describe somebody with kind, noble or genuine charitable aims.

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 09/02/2025 12:08

Drfosters · 09/02/2025 09:21

But surely that is the person saying it not the person hearing it. If the person saying it isn’t religious then they aren’t taking the lord’s name in vain as they don’t believe. Should the person hearing it have the right to say to the person saying it that they are bound by the 10 commandments?

The only analogy I can think is it is like someone coming from another country and telling you off for breaking a law that is illegal in their country but not your own and expecting you to be arrested. It makes no sense.

I still think it's very insensitive - and odd - to deliberately invoke the name of a God in whom you don't believe and which presumably means nothing at all to you as a throwaway expression, when you know that it will offend a great many people.

I've always though the same about Mecca bingo halls, too. I'm not a Muslim, but of all the millions of names they could have chosen, it seems crass and deliberately designed to cause offence to choose to name a large gambling company the same as the holy city of a religion that is strictly against gambling of all kinds.

It's not even just about religion; I'm an omnivore, but I would think that somebody opening a butcher's shop or steakhouse restaurant and opting to name it 'The Weeping Vegan' or similar was a nasty person who was deliberately seeking to wholly unnecessarily upset and offend a great many people with sincerely held beliefs.

HipMax · 09/02/2025 12:01

SerendipityJane · 09/02/2025 11:59

However England has the head of state as the head of church. It really is our official choice of Sunday sermon.

It's not our choice, is it? It was someone's choice, a few centuries ago, and it's irrelevant now.

SerendipityJane · 09/02/2025 11:59

Ilovetowander · 09/02/2025 11:41

@SerendipityJane
I agree all or nothing. What we have at the moment is rules which vary - for example the issues in the school where a teacher for example are in hiding for offending one religion whilst some will be blaspheming and that is deemed to be non offensive. Consistency is important as it is the unequal treatment of different religions that caused people to become more resentful.

However England has the head of state as the head of church. It really is our official choice of Sunday sermon.

HipMax · 09/02/2025 11:55

Nanny0gg · 09/02/2025 11:51

Always the insults...

It's not much of an insult, is it? If you're genuinely upset by the incredibly common vernacular non swearing phrase "jesus Christ", you are in fact pious (a descriptive word which is in no way an insult). And I'm.not sure "do-gooder" can be counted as offensive, given that Christians, especially the pious ones, are supposed to do good.

I don't think complaining about other people's common speech usage is doing good though. Aren't you meant to be turning the other cheek and kissing your enemies etc?

Nanny0gg · 09/02/2025 11:51

Montuaklighthouse · 08/02/2025 18:05

I had no idea MN was awash with pious do-gooders who can’t get to grips with the vernacular of the country they live in.

Always the insults...

Ilovetowander · 09/02/2025 11:41

@SerendipityJane
I agree all or nothing. What we have at the moment is rules which vary - for example the issues in the school where a teacher for example are in hiding for offending one religion whilst some will be blaspheming and that is deemed to be non offensive. Consistency is important as it is the unequal treatment of different religions that caused people to become more resentful.

SerendipityJane · 09/02/2025 11:36

Ilovetowander · 09/02/2025 11:29

I agree - if we apply the same rules and protection to religion then it must be to all religions.

Or none.

It's equality we are after here.

HipMax · 09/02/2025 11:30

Boredlass · 09/02/2025 10:54

Not to me it’s not and I’ll continue to use it. I don’t really care about offending religious people

I think you misquoted

Ilovetowander · 09/02/2025 11:29

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 09/02/2025 10:03

Yes, I was just wondering how he’d react if a Muslim said El hamdulillah! (Sp) - - thanks be to God! - which we heard so often while living in Muslim countries.

Having said that, though, I don’t think Jesus Christ! is suitable for the workplace.

How about using Boris Johnson’s Crikey!! - and see who cringes at that. 😂

I agree - if we apply the same rules and protection to religion then it must be to all religions.

mnreader · 09/02/2025 11:25

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SerendipityJane · 09/02/2025 11:15

TuesdayRubies · 08/02/2025 14:59

Imagine getting offended by blasphemy in this day and age 🤣

People can be offended by whatever they like - their choice.

People can judge people for whatever they get offended about - their choice.

For myself, there is so much more to be "offended" about in life than a series of sounds evolved over thousands of generations to convey a nebulous and arcane concept of some sort of partisan deity that somehow directs human affairs. You may as well be offended by the colour shoes your local priest wears, or what your neighbour had for dinner last night. That's the level of "offence" it deserves.

Poverty ? Homelessness ? Violence against minorities ? These things offend me far more that what Bob just said.

powershowerforanhour · 09/02/2025 11:03

"Imagine getting offended by blasphemy in this day and age"

Like a PP I'm from Northern Ireland. I started off Presbyterian but long ago lapsed into atheism. My workplace is quite good naturedly sweary (in the back, NOT in front of the clients) but I was brought up not to blaspheme and still try to refrain from doing it. There are a few proper church going staff members- including young ones in more junior positions than me - and I don't want to make them feel awkward. They wouldn't say anything but that's not the point.

Boredlass · 09/02/2025 10:54

HipMax · 09/02/2025 10:52

We do actually. Don't be so ethnocentric, it's offensive

Not to me it’s not and I’ll continue to use it. I don’t really care about offending religious people

HipMax · 09/02/2025 10:52

MajorCarolDanvers · 09/02/2025 07:16

In most professional workplaces people don’t curse, swear and utter expletives

We do actually. Don't be so ethnocentric, it's offensive

SerendipityJane · 09/02/2025 10:48

Drfosters · 09/02/2025 09:21

But surely that is the person saying it not the person hearing it. If the person saying it isn’t religious then they aren’t taking the lord’s name in vain as they don’t believe. Should the person hearing it have the right to say to the person saying it that they are bound by the 10 commandments?

The only analogy I can think is it is like someone coming from another country and telling you off for breaking a law that is illegal in their country but not your own and expecting you to be arrested. It makes no sense.

I refer you to my point upthread. I reckon that in an effort to ensure the upstart cult gained no traction, an undercover rival from another cult managed to sneak in a bit saying that your aren't a real Christian unless you go around telling everyone else that they should be a Christian - Matthew 28:19-20. (A bit like the way the modern vegan movement must have been infiltrated by carnivores).

Sadly the tactic underestimated the capacity of humans to put up with "anything for a quiet life" and a couple of millennia and countless internecine wars, here we are.

Youngheartsalittletogetherness · 09/02/2025 10:47

TuesdayRubies · 08/02/2025 14:59

Imagine getting offended by blasphemy in this day and age 🤣

Unfortunately people have been murdered because of it in this day and age.

Sharptonguedwoman · 09/02/2025 10:45

FindusMakesPancakes · 09/02/2025 10:37

Just because something is no longer illegal (it still is NI), it doesn't mean that it can't be offensive. I am an atheist but still prefer to choose language to minimise causing offence to others. Being polite costs me nothing.

Well I wouldn’t use it either, in a formal situation but the word ‘blasphemy’ seems way over the top now. CofE, very, very lapsed. Atheist probably.

FindusMakesPancakes · 09/02/2025 10:37

Sharptonguedwoman · 09/02/2025 08:44

We don't have blasphemy laws here, thank goodness.

Just because something is no longer illegal (it still is NI), it doesn't mean that it can't be offensive. I am an atheist but still prefer to choose language to minimise causing offence to others. Being polite costs me nothing.

LizzieW1969 · 09/02/2025 10:36

It does make me wince, as a Christian, as I don’t like Jesus’ name to be used in that way. But I would never pull someone up on it, as I understand that the person uttering the phrase isn’t doing it to cause offence to me. It’s become a cultural thing now.

JandamiHash · 09/02/2025 10:35

Everyone saying it’s offensive or they’re offended by certain words - I implore you to watch this video because it articulates my point better than I ever could

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 09/02/2025 10:03

Foxgloverr · 08/02/2025 15:03

It's weird how the rules are different for Christians vs other religions. You wouldn't be asking this if you'd shouted the Islamic God's name.

Yes, I was just wondering how he’d react if a Muslim said El hamdulillah! (Sp) - - thanks be to God! - which we heard so often while living in Muslim countries.

Having said that, though, I don’t think Jesus Christ! is suitable for the workplace.

How about using Boris Johnson’s Crikey!! - and see who cringes at that. 😂