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Boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ

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GloMum · 08/02/2025 14:55

The other day my boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ when I was surprised during a work meeting. Boss told me it’s rude towards people from different religions and asked me if I’d done my DEI training. I have, and I enjoy friendships with colleagues from varied backgrounds. I feel really stressed now in case I slip again, and embarrassed I should be told off.

YABU - This is an inappropriate exclamation at work
YANBU - It’s just an exclamation and you shouldn’t be told off for that.

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Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:35

"I wouldn't use the name of Allah in a way which would be offensive to Muslims so why would I think it ok to use the words Jesus Christ in a way that might be offensive to some Christians."

Because the Christian blasphemes are normal and usual parts of British English. Almost everyone uses God's name in vain, including some religious people.

Snorlaxo · 08/02/2025 15:34

We aren’t a religious family but I warned my kids that some people don’t like blasphemy so to use other swear words.
I wouldn’t swear at all in some workplaces though.

HipMax · 08/02/2025 15:34

Rizzla · 08/02/2025 15:18

It’s important whether you believe so or not, and thankfully there are many Christians who take the Bible seriously.

It's not important to me. It's not important to anyone I know. I live in one of the most Christian countries there is and Jesus Christ is used as an exclamation by everyone, from priests to toddlers. It's not swearing and nobody cares.

You find it offensive? So what? Be offended. That's not my problem.

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 08/02/2025 15:32

I personally would find it offensive.

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/02/2025 15:32

Pollyanna87 · 08/02/2025 15:05

Blasphemous language is the most offensive language you can use around colleagues.

No it isn't. By a country mile.

Redflowertable · 08/02/2025 15:32

Tell him you were praying for support with staying awake in his meeting

SquashedSquid · 08/02/2025 15:32

I say it a lot, and Christ on a bike even more.

There's nothing offensive about saying the name of a made up character.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:31

AnotherDayAnotherIdea · 08/02/2025 15:26

I am a teacher and an 8 year old exclaimed it. I asked him not to. He said he was saying it because he doesn't believe in jesus. I told him I don't go around exclaiming "the abominable snowman!"

Yabu. Find something better to say.

But he was a child. Can't you see the difference?

IntoTheArk · 08/02/2025 15:31

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 15:27

But just because one priest wilfully and habitually breaks one of the Ten Commandments, that doesn't mean that a great many Christians need to change their beliefs to fall into line with him.

A former Bishop of Durham famously said that he didn't believe in the resurrection; again, that doesn't change anything for all of the Christians with actual Christian beliefs.

It's very strange for a person to instinctively exclaim the name of somebody supposedly very precious to them like that whenever something bad happens or takes then by surprise.

You don't tend to hear people instinctively shouting the name of their own mother in an angry way - with or without an added expletive in the middle - every time they stub their toes on the bed or accidentally smash a glass.

I'm not asking Christians to change their beliefs?! I'm asking them not to impose them on others regardless of whether they share them. Like I don't. Christianity was never supposed to be about sideways management of other people it was supposed to be about your own personal relationship with Jesus and God. Imposing rules on others is frankly silly and not in the spirit of Christianity and I'd like to think we've moved on from that sort of nonsense in this day and age.

I sincerely hope you also never say "bloody" (a contraction of by Our Lady). 🤷‍♀️

BunnyLake · 08/02/2025 15:31

I’m not religious (atheist) but I wouldn't say that in front of people in a professional setting.

DrCoconut · 08/02/2025 15:31

I grew up in a very religious environment and I feel very uncomfortable hearing people say this kind of thing. I hate to hear youtubers screaming OMG every two seconds as well. I have a friend who grew up in a similar way and she doesn't like it either. I think it depends on your background, if you were always told that that language is disgusting, wrong, sinful etc you will probably never fully shake off your unease at hearing it. For anyone who can't identify think how you'd feel hearing words that you have been conditioned to find offensive eg racist or misogynistic language. Because conditioning is what it comes down to. So anyone could well be working with people who while they might not openly "take offence" could feel quite out of sorts hearing language that was traditionally considered blasphemy.

Everythingisnumbersnow · 08/02/2025 15:30

No it's a normal vernacular usage in English

Your boss doesn't sound very bright

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:30

Rizzla · 08/02/2025 15:12

Why are people saying this who claim to be Christians? It’s a commandment to not take the Lord’s name in vain. It’s a big deal for Christians.

You think no religious people ever break any of their religion's rules? You must be incredibly naive to think that. Phrases like 'Oh My God' are extremely common, including among Christians and including practising Christians.

ShowOfHands · 08/02/2025 15:29

I am atheist and have serious misgivings re organised religion but recognise that it's offensive to some and inappropriate in a workplace. I teach secondary and very politely and kindly remind my students that it's not appropriate to blaspheme.

My v good friend is a practising Christian and finds it offensive and upsetting. I know this. I understand this. I can do a small thing to ensure she is not upset. Why wouldn't I? There are a hundred exclamations I can use that won't hurt somebody.

I hate the whole be kind movement and the idea that you must never give offence. Some things need to be said. But as long as I can exclaim without offence, I choose that.

suburburban · 08/02/2025 15:29

shiningstar2 · 08/02/2025 15:26

I would not use this expression because I choose to give Christians the same level of courtesy and consideration that I give to other religions I encounter at work and elsewhere. I wouldn't use the name of Allah in a way which would be offensive to Muslims so why would I think it ok to use the words Jesus Christ in a way that might be offensive to some Christians.

Well put

Bromptotoo · 08/02/2025 15:29

Probably unprofessional.

I had a colleague who let repeatedly let those two words go after a difficult call with a client.

Other colleague is a friend confided it offended her as a church going Christian.

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 08/02/2025 15:29

I'm a Christian and it doesn't offend me. I say it quite a lot myself but never at work. I think it can be offensive to some people.

It is slightly nonsensical as I do say "for God's sake" or "oh God" at work. Which should be equally offensive but somehow isn't.

BeaAndBen · 08/02/2025 15:28

As cussing goes, it’s fairly mild. But some people really don’t like blasphemous stuff.

“Christ on a bike” is a personal favourite.

Anytimeisfine · 08/02/2025 15:28

Rizzla · 08/02/2025 15:12

Why are people saying this who claim to be Christians? It’s a commandment to not take the Lord’s name in vain. It’s a big deal for Christians.

Not to all of them. I’m one and wouldn’t find this offensive, though still inappropriate in a workplace.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:28

Gorgeousfeet · 08/02/2025 15:21

My child attended a wonderful C of E school with a strong Christian ethos

On of the year five children said this same thing very loudly whilst entering their local church for a service. Rightly so, he was scolded by his class teacher.

I think it’s appalling to use it and find it offensive. Children even more so.

When entering a church is totally different isn't it.

IsadoraQuagmire · 08/02/2025 15:28

I find it offensive, and I had to say it every night on stage are few years ago. The character I was playing was very sweary, but that was the only thing I hated saying.

ClafoutisSurprise · 08/02/2025 15:28

BiggerBoat1 · 08/02/2025 15:14

I have no religion and can imagine myself saying that, but I also think your boss was right to pull you up on it. It is not professional and could cause offence.

Pretty much where I am.

I learned this could cause offence after repeatedly saying it on holiday with some Catholic friends. Hiking through a swarm of bees caused me to swear, and after a few minutes one said they didn’t like this particular expletive and could I please stop. I avoid saying it around anyone I do not know for sure wouldn’t be offended these days. It’s not that I think there is an absolute right not to be offended or that religious belief is beyond question, but I do believe in not causing unnecessary offence. And certainly not in the workplace.

We live and learn. Just like how I’ve stopped using words like moron as an insult or how my dp, who is from another country, has found out in various ways that certain words are not work-appropriate!

Bubobubo · 08/02/2025 15:28

In a similar vain, I work with someone who says it very loudly every time he reads something that he doesn't agree with or finds surprising.

Once in a meeting I couldn't get upset about, but this is multiple times, every single day.
I think even if he was loudly exclaiming fucking hell, or what the fuck, at the same volume and frequency that would piss me off too.

I do swear, but it just feels so ... unprofessional.

He's very early 20's and I have been swinging between saying something and not because I don't want to sound like someone just having a moan.

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 15:27

IntoTheArk · 08/02/2025 15:10

When we were at church a few years back I went to the back to talk to the priest about a christening for our newborn after the service. When my other DC (2) ran to a cupboard and opened it, the priest exclaimed "JESUS CHRIST" at the top of his voice, so personally I think anyone getting offended by it is just looking for things, but I'd still try to avoid saying it because people are so easily offended these days, especially on behalf of others.

Edited

But just because one priest wilfully and habitually breaks one of the Ten Commandments, that doesn't mean that a great many Christians need to change their beliefs to fall into line with him.

A former Bishop of Durham famously said that he didn't believe in the resurrection; again, that doesn't change anything for all of the Christians with actual Christian beliefs.

It's very strange for a person to instinctively exclaim the name of somebody supposedly very precious to them like that whenever something bad happens or takes then by surprise.

You don't tend to hear people instinctively shouting the name of their own mother in an angry way - with or without an added expletive in the middle - every time they stub their toes on the bed or accidentally smash a glass.

suburburban · 08/02/2025 15:27

It's not nice or necessary