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Boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ

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GloMum · 08/02/2025 14:55

The other day my boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ when I was surprised during a work meeting. Boss told me it’s rude towards people from different religions and asked me if I’d done my DEI training. I have, and I enjoy friendships with colleagues from varied backgrounds. I feel really stressed now in case I slip again, and embarrassed I should be told off.

YABU - This is an inappropriate exclamation at work
YANBU - It’s just an exclamation and you shouldn’t be told off for that.

OP posts:
maudelovesharold · 08/02/2025 15:48

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 08/02/2025 15:46

I’m sorry if I’m being stupid, but what is the R word? Can you give me a clue?

I think there’s a clue in the post below yours!

Sapienza · 08/02/2025 15:48

OP, are you under 18 and working in a part-time job?

If not, isn't it time you grew up and acted like an adult?

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:48

"Good Heavens!’ or ‘for Heaven’s sake!’ would have sounded slightly more restrained"

Good Heavens is something my (chapel-going) grandmother would have said. She'd be over 100 years old now. It would sound very twee coming from a 40 year old. Also, it's about the religious heaven so still blasphemous isn't it?

Foxgloverr · 08/02/2025 15:48

At my work we are instructed not to say things like blindsided or blacklisted in case anyone blind or black is offended. It's a strange contrast with people here defending their right to say words that a lot of people of faith find blasphemous and offensive. Seems like two different extremes.

SwedishEdith · 08/02/2025 15:47

No one uses words from Islam in the same way because, unless you've been brought up as Muslim, those words are not part of your everyday language. So they're not there when your brain goes into exclamation mode. I'll bet Muslims do have curse words though.

OpheliaWasntMad · 08/02/2025 15:47

If he found it offensive then surely he should say so ? Most people try to avoid causing offence. I don’t think it should be a big deal. Why use phrases in the work place that cause tension?

BlueWhippetsForever · 08/02/2025 15:47

I'm really surprised by the outrage on here. I don't know anyone who is even vaguely religious, let alone goes to church. It's a fairly common saying (along with bloody hell, oh my god etc). Just part of everyday language surely? I don't think someone finding something offensive automatically means other people have to change their behaviour?

InterIgnis · 08/02/2025 15:47

Panicmode1 · 08/02/2025 15:42

I'm not imposing anything, I'm answering the OP's question as to whether her boss was right to say something. I personally wouldn't say anything to someone at work, but I don't like it because it is, to me, offensive. (I also feel the same way about audible obscenities being inappropriate in a work setting.)

As others have said, no-one would say anything about Allah, or Islam, but Christianity is seen as less worthy of respect.

“As others have said, no-one would say anything about Allah, or Islam, but Christianity is seen as less worthy of respect.“

Except they do. That the more commonly used phrases refer to Christianity reflects the fact that it was an is the majority religion in the UK/ the majority of English speakers. Other countries and speakers of other languages have our own ones that reflect our own religious heritages.

RisingSunn · 08/02/2025 15:46

I’ve never liked when people do this. And I think it’s unprofessional in the workplace.

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 15:46

Drfosters · 08/02/2025 15:40

its the year 2025 not 1025 and personally I don’t believe in policing words and whilst some people might find it offensive, it is a commonly used exclamation these days. I don’t even think people think of the religious connotations when saying it.

i understand if someone was religious and they would choose not to use it themselves. That is an absolutely fine position to take- I do object to being told myself what I can and cannot say.

But plenty of people would argue exactly the same about the N word, the P word, the C word (for Chinese people), the R word (for those with learning difficulties) and many more.

It's not about somebody else policing your language - it's just you acknowledging basic decency when you know that a word or phrase offends a great many people. Nobody is forcing you; it's just whether you respect other people's feelings and sensitivities or not.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 08/02/2025 15:46

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/02/2025 15:40

@Gwenhwyfar they are worse. But worse still would be something like the N word. Or the R word.

In my house, 'stupid' directed at someone else is worse than 'fuck'. One is meant to belittle someone and one isn't. Swearing at is worse than general swearing.

I’m sorry if I’m being stupid, but what is the R word? Can you give me a clue?

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:45

Panicmode1 · 08/02/2025 15:42

I'm not imposing anything, I'm answering the OP's question as to whether her boss was right to say something. I personally wouldn't say anything to someone at work, but I don't like it because it is, to me, offensive. (I also feel the same way about audible obscenities being inappropriate in a work setting.)

As others have said, no-one would say anything about Allah, or Islam, but Christianity is seen as less worthy of respect.

"no-one would say anything about Allah, or Islam, but Christianity is seen as less worthy of respect"

As I've said before, that's because of which expressions are part of British English.
You say you're not imposing anything, but you seem to agree with her boss, who IS imposing his values on OP.

HipMax · 08/02/2025 15:44

MaggieBsBoat · 08/02/2025 15:44

Yes it’s unprofessional and potentially offensive. Just don’t do it again. You’ve apologised so let it go.

It's not unprofessional and I'd people are offended that is there own issue to deal with. OP shouldn't have apologised at all

MaggieBsBoat · 08/02/2025 15:44

Yes it’s unprofessional and potentially offensive. Just don’t do it again. You’ve apologised so let it go.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 08/02/2025 15:44

The only people who could reasonably be a bit offended are Christians.

It’s not offensive to other religions, that’s just bonkers.

maudelovesharold · 08/02/2025 15:43

I’m not religious, although culturally Christian, and certainly no stranger to uttering profanities (mostly to myself!), but I think an exclamation of ‘JC!’ in a work context is completely inappropriate and unprofessional. Good Heavens!’ or ‘for Heaven’s sake!’ would have sounded slightly more restrained, although ‘Really??’ with raised eyebrows can convey a lot! It’s a good job you didn’t get carried away with a ‘JFC!’, op!

Dogaredabomb · 08/02/2025 15:43

Try using other phrases until it becomes ingrained

Oh gosh
Goodness me
What on earth!
Oh my goodness!

And save everything else for outside work.

SwedishEdith · 08/02/2025 15:43

I wouldn't use it myself but I wouldn't be offended by it. I'd probably find it annoying at work though because it's a dramatic exclamation (that is all it is) and dramatic people at work (if it's a regular thing) are quite tedious.

I get the feeling some PPs are even twitchy about "Oh my god". That horse has bolted and I would find someone really weird and controlling if they were objecting to that in the workplace. It's a satisfying short reaction word.

Do the objecters to "Jesus Christ" also not like "Jeeze" or "Jeeze Louise" etc?

delvan · 08/02/2025 15:43

Sooner or later AI will take care of this type of thing. No personal expression rules needed for a remote robot. That's the way it's heading. Give it 5-10 years and there'll be no need whatsoever for equality legislation, trans rules, timekeeping, sick leave, employment tribunals, redundancy payments, compensation, health and safety laws.

You get the drift.

HipMax · 08/02/2025 15:42

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/02/2025 15:41

Porca miseria!

The Italians love a good blaspheme.

Indeed. Poto di Christo is my favourite, the pofaced here would have a coronary if we used it in English ( it means Christ's cunt for the non Italian speakers)

DettolNightmares · 08/02/2025 15:42

Notgivenuphope · 08/02/2025 15:39

It’s not an offensive swear word and most Christians would say it themselves. But it’s not really appropriate in a work meeting context. Why do you need to be exclaiming? Or at worst what’s wrong with ‘oh wow’.

There are some sectors and situations where an “Oh wow” really doesn’t cover it a lot of the time. The OPs boss sounds like someone of a rather delicate nature though, so he probably won’t end up in any of those jobs though anyway.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:42

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/02/2025 15:40

@Gwenhwyfar they are worse. But worse still would be something like the N word. Or the R word.

In my house, 'stupid' directed at someone else is worse than 'fuck'. One is meant to belittle someone and one isn't. Swearing at is worse than general swearing.

I had to google what the r word. I'm really shocked it's considered as bad as the N word. It's just a bit old fashioned.

And yes, obviously insulting people is worse than swearing as an exclamation.

Bushmillsbabe · 08/02/2025 15:42

I personally wouldn't be keen on it. I wouldn't have told one of my employees off, but I would have asked them to try to not use similar comments in the future.

We ask our children to use 'oh my gosh' or 'or my goodness' rather than 'oh my god', as a key commandment in Christianity is to 'not use the Lords name in vain' - which as I understand it means to not use it unless you are directly speaking to God. Some people do not believe in God, I don't believe in many things, but I would try to not say something which could be offensive. Of course some people may be offended being asked not to say something offensive to others as they themselves do not find it offensive. .....

Panicmode1 · 08/02/2025 15:42

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:26

But so what if you don't like it? Why do you get to impose that on others?
If someone is not themselves religious, why would they be bothered about a blasphemous expression?

I'm not imposing anything, I'm answering the OP's question as to whether her boss was right to say something. I personally wouldn't say anything to someone at work, but I don't like it because it is, to me, offensive. (I also feel the same way about audible obscenities being inappropriate in a work setting.)

As others have said, no-one would say anything about Allah, or Islam, but Christianity is seen as less worthy of respect.

ApiratesaysYarrr · 08/02/2025 15:42

I think you are overthinking this. It isn't professional language (I think the phrase, and much worse, very often at work, but it wouldn't pass my lips in a meeting), and does have the potential to offend (although I suspect very few Christians would be deeply offended by it). You made a mistake, your boss pointed it out, don't do it again. It's not hard, and it's not going to ruin your rep at work.