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Boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ

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GloMum · 08/02/2025 14:55

The other day my boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ when I was surprised during a work meeting. Boss told me it’s rude towards people from different religions and asked me if I’d done my DEI training. I have, and I enjoy friendships with colleagues from varied backgrounds. I feel really stressed now in case I slip again, and embarrassed I should be told off.

YABU - This is an inappropriate exclamation at work
YANBU - It’s just an exclamation and you shouldn’t be told off for that.

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AnotherDayAnotherIdea · 08/02/2025 15:56

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:31

But he was a child. Can't you see the difference?

You don't think that teachers shouldn't advise against this sort of thing?

You think that teachers should let slide "Jesus Christ!" at 8? Because I can tell you from experience that it becomes a lot more explicit very quickly if we do.

And difference with what?

ClafoutisSurprise · 08/02/2025 15:56

Italian blaspheming is definitely NOT universally ok and merrily indulged in by all! Dp uses some of the phrases mentioned above when really riled up, but tends to use jeez-type substitutes most of the time. Swearing in English or Italian not an issue for him, btw, just the religious stuff so he sees it as worse. I can’t imagine using any of them (or expletives) around his family - or him saying them in that context - in a million years. And they aren’t religious. The phrases just aren’t ‘nice’.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 08/02/2025 15:55

OpheliaWasntMad · 08/02/2025 15:51

I do because it’s using Jesus’s name in a flippant way which is disrespectful ( in my view)
It’s also against one of the commandments.

I fully appreciate you have the right to use the phrase but I would hope you would be respectful of the feelings of Christians at your workplace

As a non-Christian, I am not subject to the commandments. Except the ones which are also actual laws. My Christian colleagues don’t get to dictate which words I use, just as I wouldn’t dream of dictating which words they use.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:55

Jellyslothbridge · 08/02/2025 15:54

I am always surprised that people who do not believe in God include it so much in their daily language.

It's been part of English for a very, very long time. It's not meant literally.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:55

AubernFable · 08/02/2025 15:54

I don’t even know any christians in this day and age to take offence! I’m sure they still exist but not around me since I was in school 😂 Wouldn’t be too worried about this personally.

I can assure you most of the Christians who still exist also blaspheme sometimes!

Jellyslothbridge · 08/02/2025 15:54

I am always surprised that people who do not believe in God include it so much in their daily language.

AubernFable · 08/02/2025 15:54

TuesdayRubies · 08/02/2025 14:59

Imagine getting offended by blasphemy in this day and age 🤣

I don’t even know any christians in this day and age to take offence! I’m sure they still exist but not around me since I was in school 😂 Wouldn’t be too worried about this personally.

Twaddlepip · 08/02/2025 15:54

“Jesus fucking Christ on a bike”.

What a load of bollocks.

Drfosters · 08/02/2025 15:53

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 15:46

But plenty of people would argue exactly the same about the N word, the P word, the C word (for Chinese people), the R word (for those with learning difficulties) and many more.

It's not about somebody else policing your language - it's just you acknowledging basic decency when you know that a word or phrase offends a great many people. Nobody is forcing you; it's just whether you respect other people's feelings and sensitivities or not.

Edited

There are certain words that are absolutely off limits I accept that. But you can’t have a list of a billion words which some people find offensive and others some don’t and you end up walking on eggshells.

‘oh my goodness’ is considered offensive to some Christians as it is another word for God. Are you suggesting that we don’t say that because a small amount of people would find that offensive .

my grandmother would never let us use the word ‘knackered’ at home to refer to being tired. She thought it was exceedingly rude and very offensive because of a certain meaning attached to it. But a lot of people use it to mean tired. Would you not use it if I said I found it offensive?

where does it stop?

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:53

OpheliaWasntMad · 08/02/2025 15:51

I do because it’s using Jesus’s name in a flippant way which is disrespectful ( in my view)
It’s also against one of the commandments.

I fully appreciate you have the right to use the phrase but I would hope you would be respectful of the feelings of Christians at your workplace

It's blasphemous, but not swearing.

Patterncarmen · 08/02/2025 15:52

You could try Zounds, the early modern expression for God’s wounds. :-)

I got told off for saying Holy Buckets once. I don’t find the use of Jesus Christ offensive, or My God and I was baptised Catholic!

Chersfrozenface · 08/02/2025 15:52

I had to train myself not to swear once I had children, so it can be done.

Though in this case I'd train myself to use the most egregiously mimsy euphemisms.

Oh snap! By jingo! Sugar! Pooey-poo-poo! (That last one's a bit borderline.)

InterIgnis · 08/02/2025 15:52

JandamiHash · 08/02/2025 15:39

I’m from an Italian family and some of these lot would probably pass out at the profanities and gesticulation used by Italians (many a family meal I’ve nearly had my eye poked out 🤣)

I’ve never been able to decide whether it’s the Italians or the Lebanese that are the most creatively and hilariously foul.

OpheliaWasntMad · 08/02/2025 15:51

MemorableTrenchcoat · 08/02/2025 15:48

You think “Jesus Christ” is a swear?

I do because it’s using Jesus’s name in a flippant way which is disrespectful ( in my view)
It’s also against one of the commandments.

I fully appreciate you have the right to use the phrase but I would hope you would be respectful of the feelings of Christians at your workplace

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 15:51

HipMax · 08/02/2025 15:40

It's so funny that it's people from a very secular country get so offended by religious exclamations. They're incredibly common and not offensive in a more religious countries.

I'm sure plenty of actually religious people in those countries find them offensive.

It may be that in a country that has a culturally religious heritage, the words/names/phrases are therefore commonly known and thus used by those who aren't especially (or at all) devout.

Scorchio84 · 08/02/2025 15:50

Pigsinblankets13 · 08/02/2025 15:04

Try 'Christ on a Bike' instead next time, but then you'll probably get told off for suggesting a bike was his preferred mode of transport

with Mary on the handlebars!

Ah no seriouly that's a bit OTT, sure it's said on the radio over here a bit & god knows (whoops!) I've said it in class.. well maybe not with the added "Christ" part in fairness but it's really not a big deal

Needmorelego · 08/02/2025 15:50

Dazzledee · 08/02/2025 15:48

Not quite the point of the thread, however they aren't all the same God. Why would the same God set out different rules and laws and ways to him for each religion? Like Jews have something like 600 odd rules they are meant to keep to make sure they get to God, where as Christians just need to believe in Jesus and repent of their sin! Weird the same God would make it so hard for some and so easy for others!

I would try and not use any God's name in vain - although we are all slip up and mistakes!

It is the same God.
Those who are Jewish, Christian or Muslim are literally worshipping the same God.
It's all down to how they decide to interpret the "rules".

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 08/02/2025 15:50

But what about;

"Jesus, Mary and Joseph and the wee donkey!"
😱

That was exclaimed by a policeman!
😱😱

on national television!
😱😱😱

Supersimkin7 · 08/02/2025 15:50

Don’t be silly. I’ve shouted ‘Christ on
a bike’ when I fell downstairs in front of the vicar.

In the grand scheme of things, it’s not a burning at the stake offence.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 15:49

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 08/02/2025 15:46

I’m sorry if I’m being stupid, but what is the R word? Can you give me a clue?

Like I said, I googled it, so you can do the same. Apparently, it's a bad word, so I suppose it's better I don't write it here.

Plggybacker · 08/02/2025 15:49

It's not something I'd intentionally say at work because it's a bit unprofessional (though I can't be certain I wouldn't blurt it out if I was startled) but outside of work is another matter. I don't care if other people are offended by it. I'm offended by many things that religious folk do so I guess that evens things up a bit.

OpheliaWasntMad · 08/02/2025 15:49

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 15:46

But plenty of people would argue exactly the same about the N word, the P word, the C word (for Chinese people), the R word (for those with learning difficulties) and many more.

It's not about somebody else policing your language - it's just you acknowledging basic decency when you know that a word or phrase offends a great many people. Nobody is forcing you; it's just whether you respect other people's feelings and sensitivities or not.

Edited

Absolutely agree with this.
Once you know a phrase offends someone then most people would avoid using it ..

Dazzledee · 08/02/2025 15:48

Needmorelego · 08/02/2025 15:37

The "Islamic" God is the same God as the Christian and Jewish one.
It's the same guy 🙄

Not quite the point of the thread, however they aren't all the same God. Why would the same God set out different rules and laws and ways to him for each religion? Like Jews have something like 600 odd rules they are meant to keep to make sure they get to God, where as Christians just need to believe in Jesus and repent of their sin! Weird the same God would make it so hard for some and so easy for others!

I would try and not use any God's name in vain - although we are all slip up and mistakes!

MemorableTrenchcoat · 08/02/2025 15:48

DutchCowgirl · 08/02/2025 15:04

I was raised in a Christian environment. And even though i don’t believe in any god anymore, i still don’t like it when people swear. It is just not a very professional reaction, it sounds aggressive and like you’re out of control. I wouldn’t like it if my colleagues would swear.

You think “Jesus Christ” is a swear?

ForPearlViper · 08/02/2025 15:48

I exclaimed 'bloody hell' in a church. There was momentary silence but when people realised that the death trap of a folding table I was clearing away had snapped shut on my finger it was generally agreed it was quite a mild response.