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Boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ

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GloMum · 08/02/2025 14:55

The other day my boss told me off for exclaiming Jesus Christ when I was surprised during a work meeting. Boss told me it’s rude towards people from different religions and asked me if I’d done my DEI training. I have, and I enjoy friendships with colleagues from varied backgrounds. I feel really stressed now in case I slip again, and embarrassed I should be told off.

YABU - This is an inappropriate exclamation at work
YANBU - It’s just an exclamation and you shouldn’t be told off for that.

OP posts:
TheWorminLabyrinth · 08/02/2025 16:32

90yomakeuproom · 08/02/2025 14:58

It is blasphemous and is offensive

Blasphemous to you, maybe. I don't believe in this particular god, or any of the others, therefore blasphemy doesn't exist to me. I can't be compelled to moderate my speech so that it complies with a made-up set of rules and to avoid "blaspheming" against something that doesn't exist to me. That's ridiculous.

TrainGame · 08/02/2025 16:31

How old are you OP? 12?

Seriously, grow up. No one needs to swear in life at all. It's a learned practice. You can unlearn it, especially for formal settings like work.

There was a time when that would have been considered very offensive in this country. I'm not a devout Christian but I don't like sweary people at work. It makes them seem shovey and aggressive. It says something about your tone and personality. I'd take your boss's advice onboard.

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 16:30

nationalsausagefund · 08/02/2025 16:22

I’m an atheist with no religious upbringing so may have missed some information along the way, but Jesus isn’t anyone’s Mum? Weird analogy.

Not at all. As I said upthread, if you've been following it, it's very strange for somebody to exclaim the name of somebody who is supposedly very precious to them in a negative or angry way.

Similarly, if another person used the name of somebody who is very dear to you in your earshot, when they bash their thumb with a hammer or drop and smash their phone.

It's immaterial whether that somebody is your God, your Mum, your Husband, your Daughter or anybody.

Patterncarmen · 08/02/2025 16:29

MemorableTrenchcoat · 08/02/2025 16:17

I’m pretty sure a real Christian would never tell someone they’re not a real Christian.

Indeed.

ClockingOffers · 08/02/2025 16:28

Porcuporpoise · 08/02/2025 16:25

Business are actually allowed to dictate standards of acceptable behaviour including language to their employees. And it's quite normal for a person's language and behaviour to be different in a work context to what they do and say amongst friends or in casual social situations.

Bollocks they can! 😂

There is no law that supports your assertion so feck off with your made-up nonsense.

Ankhmo · 08/02/2025 16:27

"Jesus fucking Christ all fucking mighty." Was my ex bosses favourite expression, say it in a thick yorkshireish accent.

When did we start treating "I'm offended" as some kind of holy status that must be capitulated to and bent over for?

I have never felt offended in my life and have no idea what the pain of offense is like. I assume it feels like trapping your nipple's in the door of a 1998 Vauxhall Nova whilst a rabid ferret chews on your piss flaps.
I can't see why else the world is so terrified of causing offense to some cunts.

larklane17 · 08/02/2025 16:26

Pigsinblankets13 · 08/02/2025 15:04

Try 'Christ on a Bike' instead next time, but then you'll probably get told off for suggesting a bike was his preferred mode of transport

It was a donkey. Please don't mis-vehicle Jesus.

SecondMrsTanqueray · 08/02/2025 16:26

Jesus Christ! Is something I say all the time. Also Jesus fucking Christ! I was raised a Catholic, convent school educated (now proud atheist), and think anyone that takes offence is an uppity twat.
I had Irish parents so taking the lord’s name in vain is very normal and something I love about dyed in the wool Catholics. I don’t associate with anyone that would take offence, mind. The uppity CofE ‘Christians’ in my village would undoubtedly think it terribly un-Christian, but they are the very worst types and their opinions count for nowt.

Drfosters · 08/02/2025 16:25

Foxgloverr · 08/02/2025 16:23

Blasphemy IS insulting someone's religion.

why ?

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 16:25

dutysuite · 08/02/2025 16:20

My black husband isn’t sensitive either.

That's nice for him, but the vast majority of black people DO find the N word extremely offensive, and wouldn't ignore it or laugh it off if a white person called them it or said it in front of them.

Porcuporpoise · 08/02/2025 16:25

ClockingOffers · 08/02/2025 16:21

Well unless your business is selling Bibles, he can feck off trying to police other people’s use of language.

I’m in Ireland so we tend to enjoy a wide variety of blasphemous expletives.

Business are actually allowed to dictate standards of acceptable behaviour including language to their employees. And it's quite normal for a person's language and behaviour to be different in a work context to what they do and say amongst friends or in casual social situations.

Foxgloverr · 08/02/2025 16:23

AubernFable · 08/02/2025 16:02

I agree with you completely, there is such a big difference, blasphemy doesn’t affect anyone else where as insulting someone’s religion or other protected characteristic does.

Blasphemy IS insulting someone's religion.

TheEllisGreyMethod · 08/02/2025 16:23

We make a conscious effort not to say it at work as one of our team is a Christian and it upsets her. What isn't a big deal to some people is to others.

nationalsausagefund · 08/02/2025 16:22

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 16:17

Do the objecters to "Jesus Christ" also not like "Jeeze" or "Jeeze Louise" etc?

They're not really that different in reality - everybody knows what you're getting at.

Supposing somebody decided to start shouting or exclaiming your Mum's name as a negative expression when something negative happened - would it make much difference to you if they changed it to (e.g.) 'Moany Joany Perkins!' or 'Joan Perkins on a bike!' ?

I’m an atheist with no religious upbringing so may have missed some information along the way, but Jesus isn’t anyone’s Mum? Weird analogy.

SiobhanSharpe · 08/02/2025 16:22

I worked in a newsroom for 25 years where pressures were intense and enotions ran high; the air was often not only blue but indigo or even violet.
As such, I'm inured to pretty much all swearing and blaspheming. There were probably people of faith among my colleagues but I don't know as no-one made any kind of fuss about it.
If a person was offended enough to complain they would probably be told it was a newsroom, in the real world, where adult people of all faiths and none were trying to do their job under often difficult circumstances yet managing to get on with it, so they should probably reflect on whether it was the right environment for them.
That said, when general swearing became a personal attack, as happened occasionally, it felt much more dangerous. But on the whole in such a highly presssured environment, sometimes it is better to let off steam. Swearing has a purpose.

ClockingOffers · 08/02/2025 16:21

Well unless your business is selling Bibles, he can feck off trying to police other people’s use of language.

I’m in Ireland so we tend to enjoy a wide variety of blasphemous expletives.

Clafoutie · 08/02/2025 16:21

mommyfinger · 08/02/2025 16:01

Can I ask why Christian's don't like it ? Like what is the issue ? I say Jesus Christ all the time, I'm a non believer btw but just genuinely interested what's so wrong with saying Jesus' name ?

Surely it isn’t so hard to imagine why this can be ‘an issue’ for Christians?

I find this (seemingly society-wide) lack of empathy and imagination about people different to ourselves quite worrying, even when sincerely expressed.

Elsvieta · 08/02/2025 16:21

It's religiously offensive to some people, and therefore a no-no. Would you invoke the name of Mohammed, for instance, as a swear word? Just accept the lesson and move on. I'm sure you'll remember in future.

SerendipityJane · 08/02/2025 16:21

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 16:19

And presumably you'd also say the same to a black or Chinese person who objected to you using words that they found very offensive?

They can't help being black or chinese.

Religion is choice.

dutysuite · 08/02/2025 16:20

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 16:19

And presumably you'd also say the same to a black or Chinese person who objected to you using words that they found very offensive?

My black husband isn’t sensitive either.

Maray1967 · 08/02/2025 16:20

Panicmode1 · 08/02/2025 15:00

I don't think it is very professional to use such an exclamation at work, and some Christians would take offence, yes.

(I am Christian and don't like it when my husband/children use it)

Yes, my view as well. I wouldn’t raise it with a colleague, but I do with my kids.

SerendipityJane · 08/02/2025 16:20

All religions should be treated with respect ,

Why ?

Zanatdy · 08/02/2025 16:20

I don’t know if i’d tell someone off but it’s not appropriate.

alwaysMakingItsofar · 08/02/2025 16:19

take my advice dear and next time you need an exclamation, slam the prophet or the the egyptian cat, or the Chinese dragon and let's see where you will end my dear. Come back and make thread about it also

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 08/02/2025 16:19

dutysuite · 08/02/2025 16:05

I would just say your sensitivity is not my problem.

And presumably you'd also say the same to a black or Chinese person who objected to you using words that they found very offensive?