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How can you be addressed as he/him she/her or they/them

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Yalta · 08/02/2025 14:30

AIBU that you cannot be addressed as he/him she/her or they/them

These are references. Surely you would use someone’s actual name to address them or just a greeting.

Or maybe I am missing something. Can someone tell me how someone uses these to address someone

“Hello He”

“Good morning She”

“Good afternoon They

How are you today”

Or writings to you

Dear He/Him They/Them She/Her

Why did no one check this and change the word address to refer. It just makes no sense otherwise

This is from a .gov website

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BloodandGlitter · 08/02/2025 14:45

MrsJHernandez · 08/02/2025 14:42

The whole thing makes no sense.

At the risk of being vilified, I think it's ridiculous to call someone "they" or whatever. It makes no sense in the English language and makes people sound like they can't speak properly. Medically, there are two sexes and Dr's will treat you as such.

Call yourself what you like, but keep the rest of us out of your "woke" gen z bullshit!

I use they to describe people all the time! How the heck is it woke? "They said" "They did" "They want" just a general description.

Big case of everything I don't like is "woke"

MrsJHernandez · 08/02/2025 14:42

The whole thing makes no sense.

At the risk of being vilified, I think it's ridiculous to call someone "they" or whatever. It makes no sense in the English language and makes people sound like they can't speak properly. Medically, there are two sexes and Dr's will treat you as such.

Call yourself what you like, but keep the rest of us out of your "woke" gen z bullshit!

Funkyslippers · 08/02/2025 14:36

It's a preference of the way someone would like to be addressed if you're talking about them within earshot of them

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Yalta · 08/02/2025 14:33

Hopefully screen shot of the form will be passed to be displayed soon

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Yalta · 08/02/2025 14:32

Screenshot of the form

How can you be addressed as he/him she/her or they/them
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