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To think they don't believe DD about sexual abuse.

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awaywiththecats · 08/02/2025 12:25

New poster need to talk to someone. My DD was sexual abused. Had first camps appt this week. The report has come in the post. I wasn't there when she was talking to them etc. the language in the report suggests they think she's lying, doesn't it? I'm so confused Sad

To think they don't believe DD about sexual abuse.
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Verlaine · 08/02/2025 12:42

The sexual part of that gave me the creeps. Assume this is a man writing. What gives him the right to decide if a young girl is ‘walking sexily’ in front of him?

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 08/02/2025 12:38

awaywiththecats · 08/02/2025 12:34

I also don't think it's appropriate to comment on sexual element of DD.

Unfortunately children who have been abused can often present with sexualised behaviour. If the therapist has seen this then they need to record it as part of their assessment.

NigelHarmansNewWife · 08/02/2025 12:36

It doesn't read like that at all to me. It reads that she needs help to understand what boundaries there should be in her relationships and what is acceptable and not acceptable.

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 08/02/2025 12:35

They cannot state as fact.
the word illustration is just about her description and what she might be conveying.
People who have been abused can often find relationships distressing and confusing due to their experiences.

Original poster
awaywiththecats · 08/02/2025 12:34

I also don't think it's appropriate to comment on sexual element of DD.

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Frydaycryday · 08/02/2025 12:33

I don't think it reads like that...
Have you considered that you are projecting your own thoughts/concerns?

Original poster
awaywiththecats · 08/02/2025 12:33

Balloonhearts · 08/02/2025 12:32

They can't refer to it as anything other than allegations until the abuser has been convicted.

He has been convicted.

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Balloonhearts · 08/02/2025 12:32

They can't refer to it as anything other than allegations until the abuser has been convicted.

SpringBunnyHopHop · 08/02/2025 12:31

I’m not reading that as I don’t think it’s fair to post online.

Just be there to support her regardless.

Balloonhearts · 08/02/2025 12:31

Not sure where you got that from. It's mostly about her struggles in therapy/assessment and not knowing how to safely relate to adults, including the therapist, as a result of her experiences. And saying that she needs a much greater amount of sessions in order to feel safe opening up, but with a very experienced therapist with strong boundaries.

PrincessPeache · 08/02/2025 12:31

They have to be really careful not stating things as fact that haven’t been proven as fact. It doesn’t mean they don’t believe her.

purpleme12 · 08/02/2025 12:31

I can see why it comes across that way OP

Original poster
awaywiththecats · 08/02/2025 12:30

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 08/02/2025 12:28

I don’t think it reads like that at all. Which but in particular leads you to think that?

The allegations are persons illustrations but.

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CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 08/02/2025 12:28

I don’t think it reads like that at all. Which but in particular leads you to think that?