Is this speech delay in a 24 months ?

It's like you want something to be wrong when there's nothing wrong! Get a grip!

I remember your previous thread. Going away now.

"delayed echolalia"? This is doing my head in, I'm hiding the thread.

OP so many people have taken time to reassure you and you just ignore it all and ping off into something else your daughter hasn't completely evidenced mastery of yet. You quoted @Laoise542 but you seem to have ignored a lot of her post in your focus on cutlery, so I'm just going to remind you of her final paragraph:

"Absolutely none of this is healthy or in the realm of normal anxiety for a parent. And I speak as someone who had anxiety. Rather than obsessively seeking reassurance snd reading articles, the best way you can support your daughter, is come offline, engage and play with your daughter without scrutinising every behaviour and seek support and help for your anxiety."

I don't think there's anything anyone can say to reassure the OP at this point . The reassurance just seems to be feeding the anxiety. OP please get help from your doctor for your own mental health and stop obsessing over normal 2 yo behaviour.

OP, the very post you were responding to pointed out how you scatter off to another thing you might be worried about...

(this particular one is your daughter reinforcing the special relationship she has with her daddy by repetition of their little in-joke - whether that's neurotypical for being aware of social mores or neurodivergent for focusing on tiny details who knows)

Anyway, if there is something Quirky going on, the best thing you can do is meet your child where she is. If she wants to have an in-joke with daddy, that's lovely. If she wants to have imaginary phone conversations, that's great! (particularly when you look at the stats on the number of young people who Can't Talk On The Phone ) If she wants to recite things over and over, teach her a plethora of nursery rhymes and songs and poems. If she'd rather play by herself than join in a game with someone else, don't force it.

At 24 months some dc have no language and many only have one word at a time speech. Please don't worry

OP it sounds as though reassurance isn’t really making any difference to how you are viewing this. I’ve noticed that whenever anyone gives you sound advice about how literally everything you’ve described is just normal, you say thank you but then list a completely unrelated (and still normal) aspects of a 2 year old.

stranger danger is good and normal, being silly and getting excited and talking gibberish is the exact description of what a 2 yo should be doing, not being able to use cutlery (especially when a parent sits and feeds them), having specific food preferences and fussy eating, copying sentences, being unable to choose when given options .. literally normal. I honestly don’t know what you are implying you think is wrong when you describe these things. If your child had a severe Learning disability you would have more indication of this by now. I wasn’t sure if you were alluding to that you thought your child had autism in your posts to begin with but actually you’re not describing anything we would be thinking about for that. No evidence of speech delay. Referrals rejected for there being no reason for the referral.. what do you think will change your mind?

Do you think it might be better to go to speak to someone about how you manage your anxiety? Because you can guarantee that putting this pressure on your child (which they will pick up on) will eventually lead to them having problems (mental health or behavioural and relational), even when there was nothing wrong in the first place. The very thing you’re so desperate to avoid is the thing that will end up happening because of the way you are approaching it.

FFS she's only 24 months!!! You sound neurotic, please go to the GP and get some help.

2 year olds rarely use cutlery. I think you are unreasonable.

Kindly OP, I’m not sure you understand what a speech delay is. Have you had a look at where a typically developing 2 year old should ideally be? In your post you’ve pretty much described it. Understanding wh questions is a major milestone that your DC has already reached.

Choosing between two things can be a very abstract thing for some children to grasp as a concept. Especially if they’re two motivators. You could try and take something completely non-motivating, such as a tea towel, and then take a doll and just place the doll further forwards as you give your DC the ‘choice’, and in theory this is errorless choice.

My 3.5 year old has an overall significant communication delay and very atypical language acquisition, so if I were in your position I wouldn’t be worried at this point in time. All children have their individual personalities and don’t go by the book. From 2-4 years language can also really explode. Just keep speaking and reading and using everyday language and she’ll pick it up.

It's not unusual at all for children of that age to prefer to play alongside other children rather than with them. I have twins and they didn't play together until they were 3 or 4 and then they could maybe go 30 minutes to an hour before a row developed.

One of my DC didn't say anything at all until they turned two and suddenly started talking in sentences. Starting with several words and gradually building is a smooth development pattern, sudden jagged development steps can be a sign of autism and indeed my DC got a late autism diagnosis as a teenager.

But you do come across this way. You don't seem to account for the fact your daughter is an individual with her own personality who will develop at her own rate. The way you describe her sounds like she's some sort of labatory rat who is having every single minute behaviour and interaction over analysed and scrutinised to meet some sort of insane expectation you have a 2 year old to think she's "normal"

All of us have been first time mums and worry about development but there would be clear red flags by now if there was anything to be concerned about and everything you post doesn't indicate this. It just simply isn't normal or healthy to watch your daughter have a pretend phone call and think "what is the GLP process meant to be here".

You have incredibly high expectations for a 2 year old. You post on historic threads constantly wanting update. Thread after thread of long lists of what a varied diet your child eats yet you seem to think this indicates a sensory eating disorder. Thinking they have adhd because they don't sit still (normal for a toddler), thinking they have autism because they don't join in an activity or are nervous around new people which is again normal toddler behaviour. Over analysing her decision making and what choices she makes.

Absolutely none of this is healthy or in the realm of normal anxiety for a parent. And I speak as someone who had anxiety. Rather than obsessively seeking reassurance snd reading articles, the best way you can support your daughter, is come offline, engage and play with your daughter without scrutinising every behaviour and seek support and help for your anxiety.

Well if you try to make your 2 year old behave like a 4 year old you are going to find her lacking.

I struggle to choose between two things that I want and I'm a grown up!

Why does she have to choose between her dolly and her bunny?

Perhaps it's not that she doesn't understand, she just can't yet tell you what a stupid question it is?!

Early years SLT and Mum of older kids here - your child sounds like she is doing really well with her communication development. Nothing you have said would cause me to be concerned. Repetition of words and phrases is often part of neurotypical language development. Enjoy this age - it is over too soon!

Honestly she sounds like she's on the right track. And I say this as a mom with 2 children that were sent for SALT assessments. DD was under then for 4 years (she had her assessment just before Covid and then didn't see anyone for 12 months - I don't think she'd have been with them for anywhere near as long otherwise). DS has just turned 3, had an assessment with them 4 months ago and was discharged there and then.
If she has a dummy I'd get rid if you have any concerns regarding speech. DD wasn't removed until after her first assessment, DS we removed last summer and his speech came on so much in those 2 months. He goes to nursery and he went from being on a daily speech plan to being removed from it altogether before the assessment. He only had it at nighttime so wouldn't have thought it would make that much difference but it clearly did.

Specialist speech and language teacher here - we would expect about 20% of 3&4 year olds to still struggle with what/where/who type questions, and making a choice is also beyond them, especially because at 2 they usually want both things. Since she can say no when she doesn’t want something then she clearly can make a choice.

You really do have nothing to worry about. She sounds like she’s making good progress.

Your daughter is TWO. Your expectations are insanely high for a two year old. All mums are first time mums at some point, but none I know of focus on GLP (i had to Google what that was), worrying about spontaneous language, learned phrases etc. All two year olds have unintelligible conversations. As I said she's two, she isn't an Oxbridge student. Over analysing everything to the degree you do is just not normal.

It seems very worrying that instead of engaging with your child in play, you seem to pick apart every behaviour such as her playing on a phone as a sign that there's something wrong with your child. Post after post and thread after thread about non existent problems, constantly seeking reassurance is damaging to yourself and your child. I'd understand if there were genuine concerns but there's none of that with your child and isn't in any of the other threads you've posted.

I really hope you get some help for your anxiety for both you and your child's sake.

Think your worrying too much when my son just turned 2 he had no speech couldn't understand him atall but now he's 2yrs n 7th months he's fully communicating with us he sings multiple songs can count to 30 with help just give her time and time really does make the difference they change so fast! Xx

Everyone's child is different and develop at there own speed

@Glamiss Thank you. I am sure he will especially if there is cake involved. 🍰

@IVFmumoftwo I hear you. I can't find the right words to say, everything just sounds like a platitude. I hope your son has a brilliant birthday xx