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Sex with a married person

33 replies

Poppyseeds79 · 08/02/2025 01:33

Have you? Would you? Very easy to say absolutely not! If your relationship is solid I think?

Possibly less easy if it's on the rocks, on the ground, dead in the water for years possibly?

Nobody wants to actively be a cheat? But if it's just no longer 'happening', and you are sick to the very back teeth! And you literally can't afford to split...

Would you cheat?

OP posts:
XenoBitch · 08/02/2025 02:03

No.
I have been cheated on, and it absolutely destroyed me.
Don't do it.

AmateurNoun · 08/02/2025 02:00

I regularly have sex with a married person and don't think there's anything wrong with it.

He is my husband 🙃

thicklysettled · 08/02/2025 01:58

To add, we have 3 children and I have no intention of blowing their lives up because of my needs.

thicklysettled · 08/02/2025 01:57

I would. My husband has no libido (and no interest in doing anything to remedy the situation) and after years of practically pleading for sex, I'm done. Actively pursuing someone.

Miratea · 08/02/2025 01:57

I get so invested in my partners and am so loyal so not for no reason. I get so obsessed with the person I’m with. But if they weren’t meeting my needs then yes because then it just becomes a label and it’s not a relationship. I can imagine enjoying flirting with someone else before I have truly mentally processed detachment from the partner in that case. Sorry if that’s not what you asked

suburberphobe · 08/02/2025 01:53

As usual, first answer nails it.

SophieGee · 08/02/2025 01:37

No and no.

i have been in a virtually sexless marriage. I left, even thought it was difficult, before finding someone new. I had opportunities, but decided that cheating would cause more hurt than the problem it would solve.

Crushed23 · 08/02/2025 01:36

The only acceptable way to have sex with a married person is if they're in a mutually agreed open marriage with their spouse, or if they are separated and waiting for their divorce to be finalised.

Otherwise no.