To think my mum over reacted. Photo attached

Get a grip - no criticism of women in my post. Ops mum was being unreasonable. Menopause makes women unreasonable and she might need help. End of story.

We can only answer on the facts the op gives us.

The problem is that we don't really know if it was the knife or the water was too hot. It looks more like a burn than a cut.

That sounds like the police when they were searching for the woman in the river. They publicised more about the menopause than anything else, giving that the reason for her missing.

I said when they are looking for a man they should - in the same vein, be saying his is missing through impotence! They never do though. They will criticise women over the menopause, but have you ever heard them describe a man as impotent?

She’s nuts. That’s one hell of an over reaction. Sorry, haven’t RTFT. Do you live with her?

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Good grief, that's your contribution? I really despair. Someone needs to tell the police/womens aid, when they get a call about DV they can do your "is it bleeding" test and, if not laugh at her and put the phone down.

Agee, do we go back and ask the snake why it bit us and sympathise or do we get away from the snake?

Late 50s. She could be going through the menopause.

I’m not defending her behaviour, but if she’s feeling bad about it, perhaps suggest she sees a Dr. I know that feeling when rage rises; it physically hurts. I’ve never thrown anything at my kids, but I’ve had to exit rooms quickly, which also hurts them because they can see my irritation. I have explained it all to them- it’s in no way anything they have done, but I had a responsibility to get treatment too.

Looks sore - she was being unreasonable. Is she menopausal? She might need some help if so? Sorry your hurt 😢

Am I right in thinking the excuse version- throwing the knife violently into the sink near ops hand- is also not OK. It doesn't matter if it was an accident or not.

She may feel ashamed but it's likely that this behaviour will worsen, given there've been at least two incidents, without her seriously taking an in depth look at -why- she's behaving like this.

I think I would tell her not to contact me again until she was ready to apologise and reassure me she would never do anything like that again.

I'm glad you don't live with her.. she should feel ashamed.
Say your not going to let her treat you like that ever again and to get help .

My thoughts too, early onset dementias such as FTD and vascular often start or show with unreasonable behaviour.
The knife thrown was extreme, but the issue with water in the sink is unreasonable in itself and concerning.
Defo something is not right.

She sounds like a bit of a psycho. I would have a stern chat and say she is right to feel ashamed and if it happens again you will report it to the police. There could be a time when she flips out completely with a child and seriously hurts them. It's not impossible and it needs addressing now.

Jesys Christ! What an appalling way to live.

Have you suggested that she go to the doctor about her obsession with cleanliness and her violent response to you getting a few drops of water on the draining board?

It's no good being ashamed but not addressing what lies behind the irrationality and violence.

That's something, I'm glad she said that.

Your mother does need help managing her anger, Lou, but may not take kindly to you suggesting it. I must say, in your place, I'd be scared to mention it. If there are others in her life, she is bound to lose it with them at times, perhaps one will say something or take action if she goes for them.

It's a sorry business. Where do you go from here in your relationship?

I’d think carefully about continuing to see her in her or your homes. She’s hurt you twice now and the second time used an object. Weapon sounds dramatic but when you use an object to hurt someone that object becomes a weapon. She’s significantly escalated.

Just see her in public places if you want to continue seeing her at all. Regardless of whether her violence is caused by a health issue, she is not safe to be around

Late 50s. Possible but unlikely. Maybe menopause but still a bit extreme for that

''The psycho bitch never dared lay a finger on me ever again. That's how you deal with the bullies. Not 'talking'.''

Violence is never good. Laying hands on someone else for whatever reason is wrong.

Are you her daughter or were you adopted?

Just thinking...what is her age...early dementia??

Has she been abusive to your Dad / her partner too? If she's slapped you and thrown things at you, I wouldn't be surprised.

Either way, she needs some help or counselling. You might consider it too.

If she's truly sorry she should seek help with her anger. Otherwise there's nothing to stop it happening again next time she's in a rage.