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Lou989 · 2025-02-07T17:30:18+00:00

I was washing my hands at my mums, a bit of water went on the stainless steel bit where the pots dry. She got annoyed saying she’d spent time doing it today. It was only a bit of water. So threw. A piece of cutlery at my hands whilst they were still under the tap and said I was selfish. Haven’t done anything wrong I don’t feel

RedSkyDelights · 07/02/2025 19:40

GermanBite · 07/02/2025 19:26

We're only hearing your side of the story

What on earth? If anything, I'd say that op is underreacting to this but of course someone has to pipe up with bullshit like this.

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Sadly, I suspect OP is under-reacting because she's used to this sort of behaviour from her mother and thinks it is "normal".

(As may well be the case for the poster who thinks it's also normal to throw cutlery at other people if you get annoyed).

LBFseBrom · 07/02/2025 19:39

Lou989 · 07/02/2025 17:34

She’s trying to play it down saying she meant to throw it in the sink but that’s not true as she threw it directly at my hand and she knew my hand was there

Hopefully you don't live with your mum and were just visiting, Lou. I am so sorry she did this to you but, honestly, I think your mother needs help. Her reaction was seriously over the top.

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/02/2025 19:38

SecondMrsTanqueray · 07/02/2025 18:05

Lovely solution. Presumably the OP is not a thug prone to brawling.

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Quite. That remark says more about @Georgyporky's behaviour than anything else.

FTHC · 07/02/2025 19:38

Huckyfell · 07/02/2025 19:02

Sounds like a moment of anger rather than an ongoing abusive relationship, I'd let the heat cool down a bit and show her what she did
We're only hearing your side of the story but both sides in fairness. No abuse is acceptable but moments of anger we are all prone too and often regret it

Wow!

DorothyStorm · 07/02/2025 19:35

If you live there, move out. If you dont, go low contact with her. I bet she is a problem beyond this

BMW6 · 07/02/2025 19:34

Walk away from the abusive bitch and have nothing more to do with her. 😡

ArtTheClown · 07/02/2025 19:31

OP I hope you're okay and I'm so sorry you got hurt. She completely overreacted, and she has assaulted you over a complete non-event.

Tourmalines · 07/02/2025 19:29

Completely overreaction from a bit of water that can be wiped off . Does she have a disorder? Such a disgusting way to treat someone . I’d move out .

Grammarnut · 07/02/2025 19:28

That's not normal behaviour. Have you been to A and E. Have you told anyone that your mother abuses you?

GermanBite · 07/02/2025 19:26

Huckyfell · 07/02/2025 19:02

Sounds like a moment of anger rather than an ongoing abusive relationship, I'd let the heat cool down a bit and show her what she did
We're only hearing your side of the story but both sides in fairness. No abuse is acceptable but moments of anger we are all prone too and often regret it

We're only hearing your side of the story

What on earth? If anything, I'd say that op is underreacting to this but of course someone has to pipe up with bullshit like this.

Booboobagins · 07/02/2025 19:21

I recently turned down seeing my mum after she went berserk in the car and started punching my arm as I was driving.

I feel a little happier tbh. Amazing how staying away from toxic people is do good for us.

Obvs I feel bad cos she's 86 in a few months, but I'm not going to call her until I'm ready to deal with her.

I hope you take time to be away from your mum too.

SheridansPortSalut · 07/02/2025 19:21

Huckyfell · 07/02/2025 19:02

Sounds like a moment of anger rather than an ongoing abusive relationship, I'd let the heat cool down a bit and show her what she did
We're only hearing your side of the story but both sides in fairness. No abuse is acceptable but moments of anger we are all prone too and often regret it

No we're not!

fetchacloth · 07/02/2025 19:15

That's awful OP - that's assault, you really shouldn't be accepting that from anyone, whoever it is.

EggFriedRiceAndChips · 07/02/2025 19:13

Omg that is completely abusive. Slapping you is horrendous too. She sounds dangerous and unhinged, with a terrible temper and zero self restraint. I wouldn’t speak to her ever again personally

Shrinkingrose · 07/02/2025 19:07

Huckyfell · 07/02/2025 19:02

Sounds like a moment of anger rather than an ongoing abusive relationship, I'd let the heat cool down a bit and show her what she did
We're only hearing your side of the story but both sides in fairness. No abuse is acceptable but moments of anger we are all prone too and often regret it

In fact I’m shocked at this answer. Are you really saying you think it is acceptable to be violent in a moment of anger and you should hear both sides??

Shrinkingrose · 07/02/2025 19:05

Huckyfell · 07/02/2025 19:02

Sounds like a moment of anger rather than an ongoing abusive relationship, I'd let the heat cool down a bit and show her what she did
We're only hearing your side of the story but both sides in fairness. No abuse is acceptable but moments of anger we are all prone too and often regret it

No, I’m sorry, she assaulted the op and she’s previously slapped her. This isn’t a moment of anger, it is abuse, there is no two sides. Not when violence enters the relationship

NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/02/2025 19:05

Huckyfell · 07/02/2025 19:02

Sounds like a moment of anger rather than an ongoing abusive relationship, I'd let the heat cool down a bit and show her what she did
We're only hearing your side of the story but both sides in fairness. No abuse is acceptable but moments of anger we are all prone too and often regret it

Attacking somebody with a weapon is open to interpretation and something we could all do?

Justalittlehandhold · 07/02/2025 19:04

That’s no way acceptable.

Huckyfell · 07/02/2025 19:02

Sounds like a moment of anger rather than an ongoing abusive relationship, I'd let the heat cool down a bit and show her what she did
We're only hearing your side of the story but both sides in fairness. No abuse is acceptable but moments of anger we are all prone too and often regret it

ForestFox44 · 07/02/2025 18:58

Wtf no not normal at all

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 07/02/2025 18:55

Im so sorry you had to go through that, it must be really upsetting.
If you are late 20s, and from what you said earlier, it doesn't sound like you live there, leave right now and stay away from her.
She is abusive.
You could go to a walk in centre and get them to look at the wound and tell them what happened. I would report this. You were simply washing your hands. It would have been easy to wipe up any water off the floor. She was looking for a reason to hurt you and that is not on.
Just because she's your mother, you don't have to put up with this nasty behaviour.

LuckyPeonies · 07/02/2025 18:14

NOT normal. I would advise her she is cut off until she seeks anger mgmt. counseling.

mathanxiety · 07/02/2025 18:12

Do you live with her?

Is there somewhere safe you can go?

Would you be willing to call the police?

BreezyScroller · 07/02/2025 18:10

That's not an over-reaction, that is abuse I am afraid.

Unless it was a genuine accident, or self-defense, it's NEVER acceptable to hurt/injure someone! Especially not your own child!

If a teacher was doing that to you, he would get into all kind of troubles. This is the same.

I wish I could help you, but at least know it's not normal or acceptable.

SecondMrsTanqueray · 07/02/2025 18:05

Georgyporky · 07/02/2025 17:56

Did you retaliate when she slapped you?

If you let her get away with it, she'll probably carry on.

(I'd have punched her lights out.)

Lovely solution. Presumably the OP is not a thug prone to brawling.