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Dryrobe W****r

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CareerChange24 · 07/02/2025 15:48

Am I being unreasonable that I’ve discovered there is a Facebook page taking non consenting photos of lone women and children in dryrobes and mocking them. Or am I a snowflake? I wear one. Whilst I know they aren’t a stylish choice. It’s the most practical thing I’ve owned in years. I would be furious if someone took a photo of me and uploaded it

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CellophaneFlower · 10/02/2025 12:30

Loveumagenta · 10/02/2025 11:56

Yes! You won’t regret it… mine’s 10years old and still like new…
despite being used as a tent, a picnic blanket, a dog blanket, emergency back seat blanket, a changing place for the kids in the rugby team, and of course 3 x a week post sea swims

I'm now imagining the whole rugby team getting changed under your coat 😂

I hope I haven't built this up too much as I'm ridiculously excited about its arrival. As will the dog be when she gets an impromptu walk the minute it turns up 🙈

The good news for everybody else is that my purchase has almost certainly guaranteed lovely warm, dry weather for the foreseeable... although I might just be a proper wanker and wear it anyway 😳

Loveumagenta · 10/02/2025 11:59

VoodooRajin · 10/02/2025 10:59

They're not cheap

If I worked out the price per wear if mine it’s by far the most economical thing I have ever bought!
Needed a jacket to go with a dress for a wedding in December - £110 for something I’m probably going to wear once a year, tops…
Cheaper brands are available… as good? It varies but a really good one will cost almost as much.

Loveumagenta · 10/02/2025 11:56

CellophaneFlower · 10/02/2025 10:36

Well I've done it... I've bought 1 😂 Managed to get the older version (only difference is a tiny squiggle next to the logo apparently) for £100 🎉

Yes! You won’t regret it… mine’s 10years old and still like new…
despite being used as a tent, a picnic blanket, a dog blanket, emergency back seat blanket, a changing place for the kids in the rugby team, and of course 3 x a week post sea swims

AlwaysTimeForWine · 10/02/2025 11:55

I am a DRW and don’t live by the sea. I don’t give two shiny shits what people think.

My whole family, me included, play a competitive winter sport - hockey. We all wear them on the bench, or for warm up or after a match, when it’s been pissing down for 70 minutes, we’re freezing and drenched.

They go on easily over sports kit, keep your legs warm - important in the skorts we wear to play in.

As far as I’m concerned they are the best thing ever and people can post photos of me on the internet in them. Don’t care!!

VoodooRajin · 10/02/2025 10:59

They're not cheap

CellophaneFlower · 10/02/2025 10:36

CellophaneFlower · 09/02/2025 11:44

All this thread has done is make me want to be a dryrobe wanker 😳 Quite annoying as I don't actually need a new coat... but hate feeling restricted, so these sound perfect to me... therefore I'm going to have to get one 😫

Well I've done it... I've bought 1 😂 Managed to get the older version (only difference is a tiny squiggle next to the logo apparently) for £100 🎉

SillyOldBucket · 10/02/2025 08:44

Ok, so having googled Dryrobe and looked at some of the Facebook pages, because I didn't have a clue what a Dryrobe was!, I really don't see what the big deal is. They look all right to me. I won't be buying one myself because I'm short and they are pretty expensive but they do look nice and cosy.

Mumofyellows · 09/02/2025 18:43

I have horses and dogs and bought an equestrian branded big coat which looks like a Dry robe but is actually an incredibly waterproof and warm coat. The looks I have had wearing it! I accept it isn't the most flattering garment but when walking dogs before work, feeding horses in the pissing rain after work, or even on playground duty with my class because they all have SEND and can't cope with wet play inside it's an absolute game changer and I really don't care! I'm sure I'm on one of those pages though, it's not even a dry robe but I have looked on there and they aren't always branded coats they are snapping, and I seem to live in a hotspot for people being photographed 😱

Loveumagenta · 09/02/2025 18:28

Bodenne · 09/02/2025 18:10

Yes

😅😅 really? If anything you’d think it’s the scrawny, boney people needing a big coat not the ones with natural padding…

jillycat72 · 09/02/2025 18:16

Well they would have had a field day in Sheffield todays loads of dry robes and other makes at the really cold swimming championships!

I love mine but had huge envy of the GB ice swimming teams Dry Robes the symbol on the back was amazing. Plenty of people had badges sewn on inside to celebrate their achievements long live the dry robes 😆

Bodenne · 09/02/2025 18:10

Loveumagenta · 09/02/2025 08:26

I’m going to have to call bullshit on that one!
What about people wearing big parkas, oversized hoodies, Oodies, big quilted winter coats - also a bunch of self conscious fatties???

Yes

Deeperthantheocean · 09/02/2025 16:54

So many stupid sites like this, too easy to take photos of anyone doing anything now and mocking. I came across a 'red trouser wankers' one.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 09/02/2025 15:44

VoodooRajin · 09/02/2025 15:41

I thought they were a middle class status symbol because of the price tag

Could be plenty of things. I imagine mainly the comfort is why most people wear them, and once a tipping point of enough people who DGAF start wearing them then other people notice them and are converted. Bit like socks and sliders which I'm not ashamed to say I love for relief of my crippling foot pain

fc123 · 09/02/2025 15:43

RavenhairedRachel · 09/02/2025 09:13

I agree it's a weird thing to do but there is a time and place for wearing them. Picking the kids up or shopping in the supermarket aren't the right places. I saw a couple in B& M the other day in matching dry robes they looked an absolute pair of tools.

Sorry, but once you've tried one you'll find it's the opposite! I'm finding fear and fewer outdoor occasions when I choose not to wear mine.
Trip up to London the other day and I really wanted the practicality and comfort of it (lots of walking and drizzly weather) but wore the nice smart Zara padded one. Gosh, the pockets were small and hood kept falling off in the wind

VoodooRajin · 09/02/2025 15:41

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 09/02/2025 14:03

I live on a council estate. Everyone wearing them for school run here. So not a middle class thing (unless our council estate is particularly middle class?! Not sure where i fit into the class system 😅)

I thought they were a middle class status symbol because of the price tag

Loveumagenta · 09/02/2025 15:37

VoodooRajin · 09/02/2025 15:31

I guess because in the 'olden days' people just took towels, and they didn't call it cold water or wild swimming, just swimming

I still calling just swimming. As does everyone I know. And if I could have had a DR back in the day I would have!
The water was 6 degrees today, so I give zero fucks if someone thinks I should have just taken a towel with me instead of my toasty DR and fleece boots.

fc123 · 09/02/2025 15:35

Loveumagenta · 07/02/2025 16:24

They can all go fuck themselves as far as I’m concern! Sad little men. I have somewhere to change on the beach without being gawped at. Let’s see them get into a choppy sea and swim all year round.
Some of them can’t bear the thought of women getting together, and doing something fun, challenging and up lifting together!

I overhead two blokes on the beach in November - all wrapped up- saying ‘loot at the state on that ‘ in the direction of a group of women. They were older, in swimsuits and wearing gloves and booties and and bobble hats and jumping into 6 degree water laughing their heads offs

yeah, I thought. Look at them, they’re amazing!

Love this post 🥰.
Could have looking at me and my sea swim group?!!
I originally bought a DR for beach use then it slowly became my almost most favourite item of practical clothing I e ever owned. But I do recall about 3 years back feeling a bit self conscious if I wore it about town on a wet windy day.
Then I bought a beautiful Sky blue one and I just started to grab it more and more often if I was going out.
The huge pockets mean I don't need to take bag for phone etc, the big hood means no umbrella and I can wear a loose fit jumper underneath that doesn't bunch up under my armpits like it would if I wore my regular coat.

Yes, you will see me in Asda, walking down the shopping street as well as on the beach.

It's the warmest most versatile waterproof coat I've ever owned.

VoodooRajin · 09/02/2025 15:33

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 09/02/2025 15:23

I thought the point of the page was to laugh at people who wear DR when they've clearly not been swimming/dog walking/standing on the touchline.

A bit like mocking people who live in the centre of a major city and have a Chelsea Tractor just to do the school run.

Quite, although Chelsea tractors are worse for the environment than dry robes

VoodooRajin · 09/02/2025 15:31

Loveumagenta · 09/02/2025 14:25

‘The mockery is because DryRobes are associated with open water swimming which is deemed to be a bit of a female middle-class cliche. ’

Who by? And also so the fuck what if it is!
I live in a beach town - sea swimming is FREE and everyone does it. It’s one of the few things you can do free with kids anywhere!
I also grew up on a coast, so again - people of all ££ backgrounds open swam or went to the beach as we called it!

I guess because in the 'olden days' people just took towels, and they didn't call it cold water or wild swimming, just swimming

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 09/02/2025 15:23

I thought the point of the page was to laugh at people who wear DR when they've clearly not been swimming/dog walking/standing on the touchline.

A bit like mocking people who live in the centre of a major city and have a Chelsea Tractor just to do the school run.

Loveumagenta · 09/02/2025 14:25

‘The mockery is because DryRobes are associated with open water swimming which is deemed to be a bit of a female middle-class cliche. ’

Who by? And also so the fuck what if it is!
I live in a beach town - sea swimming is FREE and everyone does it. It’s one of the few things you can do free with kids anywhere!
I also grew up on a coast, so again - people of all ££ backgrounds open swam or went to the beach as we called it!

Loveumagenta · 09/02/2025 14:13

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 09/02/2025 12:13

Ah, thanks for this. Sounded like they were only targeting women and children from OP's post.

Read through. It’s mostly men. And some of the comments made about women are fucking nasty.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 09/02/2025 14:10

@Fizbosshoes
I haven't dressed like that to go to the supermarket I'm simply going on the way back from somewhere else and don't want to go home and shower and change in to "supermarket-wear" (whatever that might be) first. Presumably the same is the case with DRW

Exactly!!! Like the threads whinging because people have gone shopping as a family and "why can't they leave their kids at home with dp and go alone". Because we literally pass the supermarket on way home from wherever and it makes sense to call in on way home😂

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 09/02/2025 14:08

MasterBeth · 09/02/2025 12:41

The mockery is because DryRobes are associated with open water swimming which is deemed to be a bit of a female middle-class cliche. As such, seeing someone wearing one on the school run or in the supermarket suggests a deliberate declaration of the kind of person they think they are. There's a lot of misogyny tied up in that view.

Having said that, there's also a much more established concept of the Full Kit Wanker who is a grown man wearing full football kit (shirt, shorts, socks) when they're not playing football.

Or look at the Mumsnet threads poking fun at MAMILs (middle aged man in lycra) going cycling. Same thing. A bit inappropriate, over-engineered and "look at me."

I do agree that you've got to be a dick to take a stranger's photo and post it online, though.

Nope not round here. It's basically an open secret that everyone wears them to hide the fact they have their pajamas on for the school run.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 09/02/2025 14:06

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 08/02/2025 18:22

Unfortunately this happens a lot. Try finding out your normal office colleague takes photos of women's cleavage on the tube and other public places then posts them to a site where they're ranked.

The ones he was sharing in the office was of someone standing in the middle bit of the tube, really close and he must have been pretending to be on his phone.
Another of him standing in the isle bit and the lady sitting down.

Would have never guessed he'd be that sort. They hide in plain site!

That's fucking disgusting. I had a friend of one of my relatives on my social media and my opinion lowered of her greatly when she posted mocking pics of people on public transport.