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Dryrobe W****r

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CareerChange24 · 07/02/2025 15:48

Am I being unreasonable that I’ve discovered there is a Facebook page taking non consenting photos of lone women and children in dryrobes and mocking them. Or am I a snowflake? I wear one. Whilst I know they aren’t a stylish choice. It’s the most practical thing I’ve owned in years. I would be furious if someone took a photo of me and uploaded it

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BarbadosItsCloserThanYouThink · 07/02/2025 16:49

It's a really weird thing for people to do, I honestly don't understand why you'd care enough about someone's coat to take a photo.

WayDownThere · 07/02/2025 16:49

I wasn't aware of the DRW phenomena until last year. My kids and I wore our robes to a cold and rainy community event. A rather short chap walked up to me, and in front of my kids called me a DRW. He then walked off sniggering to himself.
I joined the DRW fb page to see if he had taken a photo of me/us, but he hadn't.
I've no issue with people being part of this puerile group. But it's a step too far walking up to women/kids and calling them names. There were plenty of men wearing dry robes at the event, he wasn't brave enough to say anything to them.

Bringbackspring · 07/02/2025 16:48

I think it's a horrible FB group, really bitter and mean. I really wish it was illegal to take someone's photo without their permission, and a further offence to post it online. No one has any privacy these days. I noticed the group when it randomly appeared on my feed. I don't own a dry robe but to be honest I think they sound great and if I had one I'd wear it anywhere, by the sea or not! I love a good practical coat, especially living as far North as I do.

It's mad that people who are doing no harm at all, they are just wearing a certain piece of clothing, are subjected to such bile online. Groups dedicated to people who actually inconvenience others (bad parking, etc) are still a bit pointless (as offenders unlikely to change their behaviour based on a FB group) but they are more understandable. But a group targeting people who wear a waterproof coat, what is the actual point of that. Sad little people with nothing better to do with their time.

chelseahealyslips · 07/02/2025 16:48

Lorelaigilmore88 · 07/02/2025 16:45

But things come in and out of fashion, always have. Look at people walking around with Stanley cups or when everyone at the school run had a mulberry bag. At least dry robes keep people warm.

Of course they do. No hate to dryrobes. Or any other fashion item for that matter. I just think that's why some people mock others because it's been dubbed a cool influencer type thing.

curious79 · 07/02/2025 16:47

I’ve never seen a dry robe in use anywhere other than on the beach. And they’re brilliant for that. If anything, hearing about this Facebook group it just amuses me that people can get so riled up about something like that.

Lorelaigilmore88 · 07/02/2025 16:45

chelseahealyslips · 07/02/2025 16:42

Not condoning this group at all. I don't even use Facebook because it's always full of shite like that.

But, what I think is because dryrobes have become a thing of "fashun" rather than practicality and what they were designed for (which was cold water swimmers/surfers etc wasn't it) basically it's become "the mum coat" to own. For £160+. Even though the mums wearing them are literally just going to tesco or on the school run in their crocs and birkenstock closed toe mules with socks.

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But things come in and out of fashion, always have. Look at people walking around with Stanley cups or when everyone at the school run had a mulberry bag. At least dry robes keep people warm.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 07/02/2025 16:44

@Sickoffamilydrama
Trying to find a decent waterproof coat that goes below your knees is actually really hard.

Well exactly! And when my dc starts reception in Sept I'm planning on walking everyday so need something that's suitable for a typical northern winter!
Watch me eat my words and il be a DRW come September 😂

SecondMrsTanqueray · 07/02/2025 16:44

I really don’t think that anyone who chooses to wear a dry robe as a winter coat gives a shiny shite about either what they look like, or that people might be taking the piss. 🤷‍♀️

Lorelaigilmore88 · 07/02/2025 16:42

I once appeared on a Facebook group taking the mick out of women eating on the tube. It was about 2012 and the page has long since gone. It was called something like 'women eating on public transport' or some other unwitty title. I reported it etc.
It was misogynist bullshit, not even hiding the fact it was just mocking women and more often than not, overweight women eating.
I thought to myself at the time, who are these losers setting up these pages to be deliberately snide to women. How pathetic can you get. Same here. Why do people care if people wear a dry robe... these pages speak to a certain type of absolute moron.

chelseahealyslips · 07/02/2025 16:42

Not condoning this group at all. I don't even use Facebook because it's always full of shite like that.

But, what I think is because dryrobes have become a thing of "fashun" rather than practicality and what they were designed for (which was cold water swimmers/surfers etc wasn't it) basically it's become "the mum coat" to own. For £160+. Even though the mums wearing them are literally just going to tesco or on the school run in their crocs and birkenstock closed toe mules with socks.

Gymmum82 · 07/02/2025 16:42

Meh. I’m a dryrobe wanker and proud of it. Never been wild swimming. Never intend to. But that coat is the best thing I’ve ever bought. I wear it everywhere. Even to Asda. I’m warm and dry wherever I go. Zero fucks given

Octavia64 · 07/02/2025 16:41

Fucking love my dry robe.

I do outdoor swimming so do use it for the intended purpose but honestly it's so lovely and warm I use it as a winter coat now.

Don't care what other people think.

AzurePanda · 07/02/2025 16:40

I think this site is truly horrible and surely you have to be pathetic little
man to waste your time on it.

OffMyDahlias · 07/02/2025 16:39

I agree it’s weird and I would be quite upset if I found myself up on Facebook.

The wolf fleece appreciation society is hilarious but also rude, derogatory and classist.

Stepfordian · 07/02/2025 16:38

Well considering the cost of them I’m surprised people wear them when they’re not strictly necessary!

Fizbosshoes · 07/02/2025 16:36

Considering how snobby lots of MN are about eg B and M, Dunelm, B and Q home furnishings, live live laugh etc, then I'm not that surprised 44% of people think it's OK.

I think dry robes were originally used for after open water swimming but then lots found they were practical as a coat. I live about an hour and a half from the coast, I see people put them on after XC running races and they look a practical cosy thing to wear over kit when it's freezing cold

Sickoffamilydrama · 07/02/2025 16:36

Loveumagenta · 07/02/2025 16:27

I can get a bottle of wine in each of my Dry Robes pockets - just sayin!

OMG have to test this later when we walk to friends, I mean you never know when you might need a bottle 🍾

I have loads of coats @Wavescrashingonthebeach and it's becoming my favourite especially if it's miserable weather it is so warm. Trying to find a decent waterproof coat that goes below your knees is actually really hard.

But I don't wear socks and leggings that's not my style.

1990s · 07/02/2025 16:34

Benjibas · 07/02/2025 16:05

There’s also a page for The Wolf Fleece Appreciation Society where they upload pictures of people wearing clothes with wolves on. It shouldn’t be allowed really. It’s mean.

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< go straight to Vinted looking for Wolf fleeces>

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 07/02/2025 16:31

I wasn't aware of the group but I absolutely despise people taking mocking photos of strangers in any capacity. Personally I hate the dry robes they look like you forgot to take the gown off from the hairdressers 😂 and paid 160 quid for the privilege! But what i think of what someone else wears is irrelevant.
Everyone round here wears them for the school run, with the big trainers & socks over leggings combo.
Are they really comfy and warm or are people only wearing them because everyone else is?

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 16:30

PearlClutzsche · 07/02/2025 16:10

I'm shocked that 44% of those who've voted think it's OK to photograph people (including children) without their consent, and then plaster their pics online to be mocked.

Shocking how horrible this place has become.

It's perfectly legal in England and Wales.

Loveumagenta · 07/02/2025 16:30

Other brands are available but if you’re actually going to use the robe for sea based activities the Dry Robe is the GOAT.

Autumn1990 · 07/02/2025 16:29

Benjibas · 07/02/2025 16:05

There’s also a page for The Wolf Fleece Appreciation Society where they upload pictures of people wearing clothes with wolves on. It shouldn’t be allowed really. It’s mean.

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This one popped up randomly in my feed. Took a few goes to block it.
I was shocked people would do this to other people who were just going about their business peacefully

NooNakedJacuzziness · 07/02/2025 16:28

@PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich - I think "it's a Wolef" came from a cartoon, a lamb being chased by said Wolef. Lamb was called something like Lambkins? Or am I having a fever dream..

YouDeserveBetterSoAskForIt · 07/02/2025 16:28

TheChosenTwo · 07/02/2025 16:21

@YouDeserveBetterSoAskForIt
’We’ don’t have to do anything of the sort. I certainly don’t feel that I have to walk the line.

I was speaking of their attitudes, not that we HAVE to play along.

In their minds, that is what we should be doing, or else they label us xyz. Doing things like shaming women for what they wear is a strategy to get us to conform to what they desire of us.

It is quite effective when you look at young women today, at men in full suits at the Grammys whilst a woman is completely naked.

I couldn't care less what men think about me, but I do know that the way I dress makes a lot of them pop me into one camp or the other.

Loveumagenta · 07/02/2025 16:27

I can get a bottle of wine in each of my Dry Robes pockets - just sayin!

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