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Dryrobe W****r

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CareerChange24 · 07/02/2025 15:48

Am I being unreasonable that I’ve discovered there is a Facebook page taking non consenting photos of lone women and children in dryrobes and mocking them. Or am I a snowflake? I wear one. Whilst I know they aren’t a stylish choice. It’s the most practical thing I’ve owned in years. I would be furious if someone took a photo of me and uploaded it

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WestwardHo1 · 07/02/2025 17:15

Stepfordian · 07/02/2025 16:38

Well considering the cost of them I’m surprised people wear them when they’re not strictly necessary!

There are loads of people, especially on MN, who would pay much more than the cost of a dry robe for a warm, waterproof coat!

Personally I have a Robie Robe - just as nice, slightly cheaper price.

As for the page I think some posters are overthinking it a bit. It doesn't seem bitter and angry to be - seems like people of both sexes who have got a bit carried away by an idea and are overestimating how funny something is.

Does make me laugh a little in Cornwall though - there are obviously plenty of people who live here who own dry robes. Lots of surfers, SUPers, kiteboarders and sea swimmers etc year round. But the number of dry robes (other brands are available) does increase exponentially during the summer season.

bringmorewashing · 07/02/2025 17:15

The group sounds mean and dumb.

The dryrobe sounds great and I think I need one. I do live near a beach! (although abroad, so maybe that's why I've never seen them)

TheHeadOfTheHouse · 07/02/2025 17:13

It is a mean group, it put me off wearing mine that I felt a tit in public with it on. I only wore it 5 times and then sold it.

its not very practical for out and about I found as the arms were too short, no toggles on the hood, no cuffs on the wrists and it was tent like.

i was a size 20 and wearing a small and it was massive on me. It was too restricting to drive in, water went up my arm when it was raining as I had to hold the hood on my head and there was massive gaps in the arms at the wrists.

Clarice99 · 07/02/2025 17:12

Loveumagenta · 07/02/2025 16:16

‘Quite.
There was a trend of men taking and sharing photos to shame women for eating in public.
’

yea, was about to say that!
Tiny little angry men, they’re everywhere.

Tiny angry men, with tiny lives and tiny dicks 😁

I don't own a dryrobe, I live inland, and don't have a dog (dog walking) or any other reason to own one, but I can see the practicalities of the garment. Not all clothing has to be flattering, or pleasing to the eye of real life wankers i.e. men.

Taking photos, mainly of women and children, and spouting venom about their choice of clothing is sinister.

Loveumagenta · 07/02/2025 17:09

chelseahealyslips · 07/02/2025 16:42

Not condoning this group at all. I don't even use Facebook because it's always full of shite like that.

But, what I think is because dryrobes have become a thing of "fashun" rather than practicality and what they were designed for (which was cold water swimmers/surfers etc wasn't it) basically it's become "the mum coat" to own. For £160+. Even though the mums wearing them are literally just going to tesco or on the school run in their crocs and birkenstock closed toe mules with socks.

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Ah whatever. How DARE women wear coats of their choosing out Ad about. How fucking dare they! Why don’t you give us a handy list of brand and styles you think are suitable for the school run and we’ll all fall in line…

Bekindmyarse · 07/02/2025 17:09

Not the point of the post? But are they waterproof? I hate swimming but spend enough time outside in the pissing rain that I’d become a DRW if it meant being dry.

Ohplesandbanonos · 07/02/2025 17:08

I unapologetically love my dryrobe. I wear it on rainy school runs and pre and post exercise (field hockey - nowhere near the sea but sometimes very wet and cold!).

I just don't have enough energy to care what other people wear or what other people think of what I wear.

I think it's really sad that other people do!

MysteriousUsername · 07/02/2025 17:07

Do they do a dryrobe with a wolf print? Asking for a friend.

I think they look hideous, so I don't wear one. I'm sure people sometimes think what I wear is hideous though.

VoodooRajin · 07/02/2025 17:06

Mamils have been mocked for years, i suppose this is the same

UnctuousUnicorns · 07/02/2025 17:03

BestStoredInAFridge · 07/02/2025 16:17

Just had a look- what a boring group. Out of focus shots of people in dry robes taken from the back. At least Lookatmyfuckingredtrousers had a bit of variety and some funny comments.

That reminds me of a man I knew who used to take great delight in deliberately photobombing strangers' snaps while wearing his regular bright red trousers. This was back in the 80s and 90s, so no just taking a bunch of pics on your phone and later deleting the duds. He said it tickled him to think of them getting their pics developed and puzzling over who the fuck that twat in the red trousers was. 😅

HangingOver · 07/02/2025 17:02

God I bet I'm on there. Me and my dog have matching ones. We live in Cornwall and the winter storms here are fuckers.

Florsilvestredelcampo · 07/02/2025 17:01

Branleuse · 07/02/2025 16:19

Maybe theyre dryrobeaphobes?

Ahh a Goldie looking chain fan😂

Bringbackspring · 07/02/2025 17:00

WayDownThere · 07/02/2025 16:49

I wasn't aware of the DRW phenomena until last year. My kids and I wore our robes to a cold and rainy community event. A rather short chap walked up to me, and in front of my kids called me a DRW. He then walked off sniggering to himself.
I joined the DRW fb page to see if he had taken a photo of me/us, but he hadn't.
I've no issue with people being part of this puerile group. But it's a step too far walking up to women/kids and calling them names. There were plenty of men wearing dry robes at the event, he wasn't brave enough to say anything to them.

What you experienced is a reason why these type of FB groups are potentially harmful (not just a bit of fun). Something that started online has spilled over into real life and a man actually insulted you, completely unprovoked, in public and in front of your children. Without the FB group making him think it's acceptable to think that way, he probably would never have done that.

Also very interesting (and unsurprising) that he didn't insult any of the men in dry robes.

Whammyyammy · 07/02/2025 16:59

I think the DRW and wolf fleece page is just harmless fun.

mindutopia · 07/02/2025 16:58

It’s weird. And inappropriate. My sense is it’s mostly people who have a weird obsession with them because they can’t afford one.

Now I wear mine nearly everywhere at the moment (it’s actually not a Dry Robe but a local brand that’s about half the cost). But I literally swim in the sea and in lakes all year round. I did the school run in mine today because I literally came straight from doing laps of a lake in the snow. Dh feels anxious about it though because he thinks it’s socially unacceptable of me and he gets anxious about things like that. 😂

But mostly it’s warm and I’m off work with cancer and I can’t afford to be buying another coat, so I wear the nice warm one I have. I did see someone wearing one to a wedding though (not on the beach, in a village church) and even I did laugh at that, but I bet they were warm!

swingandtrampoline · 07/02/2025 16:58

I've never seen a wolf fleece before :/

TheCatsTongue · 07/02/2025 16:57

Have noticed a sudden trend of people wearing these all the time now.

I suppose it's better than people wearing their pyjamas and dressing gown everywhere, although I think a lot of people are wearing DryRobes over their PJs and dressing gowns.

Finallyfreenearly · 07/02/2025 16:56

I walk the dogs in a dryrobe and crocs! I don't think I've ever been snapped in them though. I know I look ridiculous but I am ridiculously comfy wearing them so don't really care. I'm not sure it makes it any better than I am actually a long distance open water swimmer 😂

DoorToNowhere · 07/02/2025 16:54

I'm a drw, they are amazing for the forest school I attend as my whole body is covered and my clothes underneath are protected. Not stylish, but very practical.

Poppychimney · 07/02/2025 16:53

Holgen · 07/02/2025 16:17

There’s also many fb groups/reddit threads about people who wear military apparel whereby a location is “marked safe”. It’s usually daysacks on backs (so little by way of identification).

but photographs can be taken in public without consent, and used without consent (if the identification of people is removed) i believe,

Generally, there are no laws against anyone taking photos of people - adults and children - in a public place. No need to make them anonymous either.

It would be a major restriction on our free press if such laws did exist.

The (civil) defamation laws give some recourse if anything's published that's defamatory - e.g. publishing a photo which potentially or actually seriously affects someone's reputation.

Cosmosforbreakfast · 07/02/2025 16:52

They're coats, why does anyone care if someone is wearing a coat? As for these FB group mocking people, it's past time they were all shut down. It must be a group for deviants, who else would get a kick from photographing women and children going about their business. Something being legal doesn't mean it's right.

FoxtonFoxton · 07/02/2025 16:50

I don't know how anyone can bring themselves to care about what someone else is wearing. It's not like wearing a dryrobe has an impact on other people. It's just a coat. It's not for me personally, but I can see the appeal. They are absolutely everywhere at horse shows and seem to be a sensible choice for the weather/keeping warm 🤷‍♀️

Flicitytricity · 07/02/2025 16:50

I have 3 dryrobes. My first I got when I first started sea swimming, a boring black. That's now my early morning dog walking coat when it's bitterly cold or raining.
So now i have a jazzy Charlie McLeod robe for winter and a lightweight Regatta Orla Kiely number for summer 😁
I give not one fuck about what anyone thinks. We regularly go for breakfast afterwards or pop into the shop for milk on the drive home, all I've had is smiles 😃

Adropintheocean1 · 07/02/2025 16:50

I don’t care if you’re wearing it after going for a sea swim or to pop to your local Tesco, people taking photos and uploading them are actual dicks. Sort of behaviour I’d be disappointed in my 7 year old for let alone adults! & tbh it only makes me respect the women I see wearing them even more. Because why shouldn’t they wear a fucking coat?

WiddlinDiddlin · 07/02/2025 16:49

There are myriad pages and even websites designed to take the piss out of people seen in public wearing all manner of things.

Dryrobes
Crocs
Red Trousers
Bums hanging out of tiny shorts
Fat people doing literally anything.

It's all horrible but taking photos of people in public isn't illegal and as long as posting them online isn't actively encouraging other crimes, thats not illegal either.

Its shit but this is the world we live in.

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