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Want my abusive violent son out!!

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Whatayear2023 · 07/02/2025 13:01

I've had enough!!!
I have not one single person helping me!
My son is 13 almost 14.
He refused school 2 years ago. I am supposed to home school him but he won't do a thing just says no.
He's very violent towards me I don't go most weeks without a bruise
He lies about the most horrid things.
Anything I say he twists
Anything I ask him to do is met with a fook off pathetic fat pig.
He breaks Anything I have tells me it's shit anyway
Xmas day I got him stuff he opened.it and said to take it all back its all a load.of.shit despite it being things he asked for or needed
I have been to Dr's twice who made referrals and apparently each time it's call the family advice... when he was in primary a referral was done due to him attacking me.unprovoked and all these referrals are parental workshops.
I'm not being funny but when do they actually sort out the child instead of just saying oh you need parental course.
I've read.and tried so many different approaches over the years.nothing works.
He's not abused witnessed violence I don't drink use drugs and I've never brought a man home.
I want to walk out but can't ...

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Wishboneswishes · 07/02/2025 13:10

Do you have a social worker? If not. Get one. Tell them how desperate you are.
Clearly your DS is at serious risk of offending so there will be things that can be done through the police.
Tell your LA that you can’t home school him as you are unable to meet his needs.
You need to kick up a big stink OP. Call SS, Police, LA until something is done to support your son (and you!) Keep calling them and make a nuisance of yourself.

NovemberMorn · 07/02/2025 13:09

I really sympathise with you OP, it must be a horrible way to live.

I think I would call the police next time he hits you, he has to learn there are consequences to his actions, it might jolt him into treating you with more respect.

PoppyRoseBucky · 07/02/2025 13:07

Oh, OP, I'm so sorry.

I don't really know what to say. I don't have any experience of this.

Are you alone with him? Is the father in the picture at all? Any other family?

Has anything happened 2 years ago to trigger his sudden refusal, or has he always been a bit like that and then just escalated at that point?

Honestly, you might not be wrong to contact Children's Services and let them deal with him. Call the police when he gets physically violent. You shouldn't have to put up with this alone.

Rawnotblended · 07/02/2025 13:05

Why are you home educating him? Not that there’s anything wrong with that but it has to be a choice rather than forced on you.

I feel like there’s info missing here.

FoxtonFoxton · 07/02/2025 13:05

That sounds incredibly difficult. Does his dad have any input in his life at all?
I think you need to contact the GP again and tell them you can't cope anymore and that you feel like walking out. You need real support from social services for both of you.

Spanglemum02 · 07/02/2025 13:04

Children's services and say you can't manage him any more? Threaten to drop him off at their offices. Police when he assaults you.

SillySeal · 07/02/2025 13:04

It sounds absolutely awful and I really feel for you.

Where is your sons dad?

Did all this start 2 years ago and were there any big changes just before this?

What do the Dr's say other than recommending a parental course?

Have you spoken to social services directly?

Is there anyone in your support system who can look after him to give you a break?

Errors · 07/02/2025 13:04

I am sorry you’re in such a terrible position. Has your son ever been diagnosed with SEN?

username299 · 07/02/2025 13:04

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