Before Christmas I organised a night out with friends for end of Jan. They all said they could go, and it was in the diary. A week before the night, I messaged them and they all said they couldn’t now go for different reasons. These reasons ranged from I’m too tired (really, it’s in a week!) and a few people said they couldn’t go as they now had a dinner out, or were going to the cinema.
Again, organised a coffee with a friend for tomorrow, and she just bailed as she’s been invited to breakfast with someone.
I’m not taking it personally as I’ve seen these people do it to others but AIBU to say that if you’ve agreed to do something, you don’t blow out of it for a better offer? You tell the other party, “sorry I’m not free that night, can we do another?”. It’s not about the activity being better, it’s about respect for other people.
On both occasions I too could’ve done something else and I’m left with a cancelled night, morning. My time is finite too.
AIBU to say it’s rude to cancel because you have a better offer.