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35 replies

charco · 06/02/2025 20:30

Getting so sick of him really it getting a joke now. Come to pick up my son and tells me he wont be able to have the kids on his Thursday he has something else planned and ecspecs me to have them funny how he wont do my weekend for me when I ask but ecspecs me to do his evening ? Saying how I owe him a day because I said I would give him an evening off when he had them for me so I could take my new daughter to hospital a she hit her head he never had them the next day which was his day because he had to take the morning off to get them to school and work late so he never picked them up which means I have give him the owed time. He saying that don’t count as he would have them like normal but my fault he had to work late that’s why he didnt have them so I still owe him just think it’s stupid and always on his terms I told him he doesn’t come get them he can stop having them during the week at all I will take him to csa as well

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rubyslippers · 07/02/2025 07:19

This sounds like an informal arrangement with no financial order in place
I would change both those things immediately so it is clear
were you married?

WhatTheFudges · 07/02/2025 07:16

Excuse Mumsnet, complete snobs here who don’t know how to show basic manners and understanding when someone is not as literate as them.

Hope someone else will be along soon who can give you better advice as I can’t help here I’m afraid, but thought the responses so far were horrible.

Overthebow · 07/02/2025 07:13

It’s really hard to follow @charco . Could you explain clearly what the problem is?

oviraptor21 · 07/02/2025 07:13

Have you got a court arranged agreement? If not it's probably time to do that and yes, get a child maintenance claim in.

drowninginsick · 07/02/2025 07:13

Sadly you can't make him have them. It's crap but it's really hard to force parents to step up Confused

charco · 07/02/2025 07:11

SussexLass87 · 06/02/2025 22:46

Did you understand anything that you just wrote?!

Well yeah I did. Few spellings mistakes don’t take from what im saying

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Blankscreen · 06/02/2025 22:49

Expects

SussexLass87 · 06/02/2025 22:46

charco · 06/02/2025 22:46

What?

Did you understand anything that you just wrote?!

charco · 06/02/2025 22:46

SussexLass87 · 06/02/2025 21:49

Wtf?

What?

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SussexLass87 · 06/02/2025 21:49

Wtf?