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Another man on TV abusing women

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Pebbles16 · 06/02/2025 18:42

Yes the wretched Italian chef - not giving his name credence. https://www.itv.com/watch/news/the-latest-headlines-multiple-claims-of-inappropriate-behaviour-against-gino-dacampo/5wr9dh3

Hiding in plain sight.

There are others, I switch over on another popular "star" because of what he did to me and others when we were young.

AIBU to find this exhausting

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Cotonsugar · 07/02/2025 19:50

There will be another one in the news very soon😐

MugsyBalonz · 07/02/2025 19:46

Trumptonagain · 07/02/2025 17:13

I dare say there are a good few more names that'll come out over time, and rightly so they should be bought to court to face charges.

My only questioning on these cases though, No I'm not putting my tin hat on is should the accused have their name dragged all over the media, whether that be a so called celebrity or.... a Joe Bloggs MNers DH/DP, yes broadcast it on the news but to name a person without a full investigation is a bit Kangeroo court like.

It's for the same reason rapists and sex offenders don't get anonymity during the legal process, because it encourages other victims to come forward. These aren't isolated accusations, it's a series of accusations over a number of years by several different people so clearly there is an issue there to be answered for.

icantgetnosheep1 · 07/02/2025 19:26

HoraceCope · 06/02/2025 18:49

but you just want us to follow your link Hmm

Yep.. 🤨

MannyTeddy · 07/02/2025 19:24

Not surprising at all 🙄🙄

Crakajak · 07/02/2025 19:08

Don't think changing values should be respectively punishable however he was a burglar so shouldn't have been on the box in the first place.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 07/02/2025 18:46

JandamiHash · 07/02/2025 18:35

If we waited for an investigation and verdict before naming men then Harvey Weinstein would still be raping women in his hotel room. The criminal justice system isn’t reliable enough

And women are still routinely not believed anyway. When the Gregg Wallace allegations first started trickling out there were lots of posters who didn't think it sounded "that bad". If we give these men carte blanche to operate under a code of silence then we are actively going to make life so much harder for all women.

JandamiHash · 07/02/2025 18:35

Trumptonagain · 07/02/2025 17:13

I dare say there are a good few more names that'll come out over time, and rightly so they should be bought to court to face charges.

My only questioning on these cases though, No I'm not putting my tin hat on is should the accused have their name dragged all over the media, whether that be a so called celebrity or.... a Joe Bloggs MNers DH/DP, yes broadcast it on the news but to name a person without a full investigation is a bit Kangeroo court like.

If we waited for an investigation and verdict before naming men then Harvey Weinstein would still be raping women in his hotel room. The criminal justice system isn’t reliable enough

Sometimesright · 07/02/2025 18:34

Porcelainpig · 06/02/2025 23:09

Not surprised. Can't wait for the axe to finally fall on Walliams, although I feel like he's so bad everyone would do their utmost to bury it all.

He creeps me out too! Always has

Sometimesright · 07/02/2025 18:25

Tomatocutwithazigzagedge · 06/02/2025 19:58

I remember him being on I'm a Celebrity.

He admitted he had ignored his wife on two occasions for 24 hours, because she burped. He said if she broke wind in front of him, he'd divorce her.

Ever since then I thought he was a pathetic, controlling twat.

If I were his wife I would be burping, farting and picking my nose every time I saw him! 😂😂

CRD67 · 07/02/2025 18:25

It's in the public domain, you're not going to be sued 🙄

Sometimesright · 07/02/2025 18:18

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 06/02/2025 18:51

This doesn't even surprise me tbh

He already has a criminal conviction, no? What's a little misogyny to boot

He's funny at times but seems like he has small man syndrome.

When I watched Gordon gino and Fred, it seemed to me that Gordon was careful around him, something in the way he'd look at him. Defo me overthinking there but, not surprised

Love Gordon & Fred though 😊

Sometimesright · 07/02/2025 18:17

HoraceCope · 06/02/2025 18:47

this is click bait
why on earth didnt you put his name

Did you not know who it is then? Italian on breakfast tv and friendly with Fred and Gordon.
Personally I always found him crude and offensive and turned over. but in his defence he has been encouraged and laughed with for his behaviour so it’s a bit rich to suddenly change the guidelines on him.

Trumptonagain · 07/02/2025 17:13

I dare say there are a good few more names that'll come out over time, and rightly so they should be bought to court to face charges.

My only questioning on these cases though, No I'm not putting my tin hat on is should the accused have their name dragged all over the media, whether that be a so called celebrity or.... a Joe Bloggs MNers DH/DP, yes broadcast it on the news but to name a person without a full investigation is a bit Kangeroo court like.

HRTQueen · 07/02/2025 17:11

StrikeAlways · 07/02/2025 15:41

Sorry you went through that. Surely the scratches were just evidence that you struggled against him?

Thank you. I would have thought that too

But it showed he was also harmed 🙄 I am small build 5'1 he is 6ft and muscular

StrikeAlways · 07/02/2025 15:41

HRTQueen · 07/02/2025 11:18

I agree the ordeal of reporting abuse is often very traumatic and stressful

I was told by a female police officer it was not worth pressing charges as my ex had scratches on his face, I was suffering from concussion at the time and bruised all over thankfully a lovely nurse asked the PO to leave me alone and then had a supportive chat with me.

Sorry you went through that. Surely the scratches were just evidence that you struggled against him?

StrikeAlways · 07/02/2025 15:38

HRTQueen · 07/02/2025 10:47

Not at all shocked by this

He has always made creepy comments and I am a Celeb he was revolting I couldn't want anything he was on after this

As for Celebrity Juice this was always the absolute pit if misogyny, utterly vile with its revolting its all a joke prat of a presenter. I am shocked so many intelligent women went on this show

Edited

I never saw this show and don’t know anything about the format. I’m glad about that now!

MarkingBad · 07/02/2025 15:37

MugsyBalonz · 07/02/2025 07:33

I've worked in hospitality in my younger days, from around age 15 to 22/23, and can confirm this is true in my experience too. It follows the same MO and power dynamics as male to female abuse and would always be a more senior woman - either by position or age, or both - towards a much young man, often a teenager. Lots of comments of the "oooh, young man!" variety, lecherous remarks about stamina/vigour of youth, having a toyboy, questions about their body, their girlfriend's/relationships, have they ever had an experienced woman, and so on. I have no doubt that there'll have been worse gone on elsewhere but these are the sort of things I witnessed. Basically all of the same pervy shit men direct towards women but all of it still based on power dynamics because abuse is never about sexual attraction, it is always all about power.

Exactly that and the groping too. I'm straight and have been groped and propositioned by women as well as men, not all in hospitality either. I learned to pull fast extreme aggression out of nowhere by the time I was 17 I'm not all that aggressive in real life, it was just a way to stop it before they go too far. I do hate it when people decide they can maul you or demand sexual favours just so you can continue to do your job.

While I would say it is mostly men committing these acts, there are some women who do this. It is about power and what people think they can make you do, the worst of it is when you are in your late teens to mid-20s because you're almost always in a lower status job but it doesn;t walways stop there.

TaylorSwish · 07/02/2025 12:31

User67556 · 06/02/2025 19:01

Have you reported them?

I understand why victims don’t report especially if it’s a celebrity.

ChessorBuckaroo · 07/02/2025 12:04

LBFseBrom · 07/02/2025 09:02

Schofield did nothing wrong for goodness sakes.

You mean he did nothing illegal.

It can still be wrong though. I know Elton John and others have suggested nothing would have been said had it been a man and a younger woman, in other words homophobia is at play, but it was the fact he knew him from when he was 15, in a position of authority got him a gig at ITV, then had sex with him when he was of legal age, and behind his wife's back. He said it wasn't grooming and we can only take his word for it. It just doesn't look right though.

HRTQueen · 07/02/2025 11:18

I agree the ordeal of reporting abuse is often very traumatic and stressful

I was told by a female police officer it was not worth pressing charges as my ex had scratches on his face, I was suffering from concussion at the time and bruised all over thankfully a lovely nurse asked the PO to leave me alone and then had a supportive chat with me.

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 07/02/2025 11:01

suki1964 · 06/02/2025 20:13

@Pebbles16

If you have been abused by anyone, you have to report it to the police

Don't be sat there hinting there's more out there, OUT them

No one has to report any offence. I admire those who do, and I thank them for taking that stand to help others. But it’s a whole new ordeal, and I don’t blame anyone who can’t face revisiting the pain they suffered.

directorofwhat · 07/02/2025 11:00

I know a Michelin star chef who has worked on tv a bit who can’t stand him, he made that clear many years ago. The chef I know is really lovely, I haven’t watched D’Acampo since he told me how much he dislikes him, I switch off or turn over.

HRTQueen · 07/02/2025 10:47

Not at all shocked by this

He has always made creepy comments and I am a Celeb he was revolting I couldn't want anything he was on after this

As for Celebrity Juice this was always the absolute pit if misogyny, utterly vile with its revolting its all a joke prat of a presenter. I am shocked so many intelligent women went on this show

TheFairyCaravan · 07/02/2025 10:36

LBFseBrom · 07/02/2025 09:02

Schofield did nothing wrong for goodness sakes.

Are you taking the piss?

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