Taxi costs split - who should pay

Taxi 50/50 and food and drink just pay for yourselves with op paying for her children.

Provided you can all sit the in the same taxi (some won't take front passengers so you wouldn't) and therefore it's the same cost, she's an arse.

I would think the taxi situation to be 50/50. But all other expenses 75/25.

But before you get into the bare bones of it all, how many taxis and at what cost do you think you will be taking?

@GreenYellowBrown

There are four passengers. OP needs to pay for three of them.

What?!

It isn't just her, or just her and the OP.

Two teenagers are taking up space in the taxi and getting the benefit of transport, which their mother should pay for.

It’s different because the under twenties aren’t paying. The only relevant people here are the two adults.

50/50 on taxis, unless you have to get an Uber XL because there’s more of you. Maybe you could pay more then to recognise that a larger car was needed. As long as you’re not expecting her to subsidise you for meals then I think she’s being a bit of a free loader. She wants to pay for 25% of a taxi! It would be 100% if it was just her and 50% if it was just you and her. You need to explain it like that (or get two separate taxis) 🤷‍♀️

What's wrong with being blunt and outspoken?

"Yeah and she’s not the kind of person you’d get on the wrong side of! Don’t get me wrong, she’s a wonderful friend of 30 years but she’s very blunt and outspoken, doesn’t suffer fools kind of gal!
OP posts: "

I haven't a single friend that I would describe as above.
I certainly wouldn't bring my children on holiday with someone described as above "wonderful" or not.

If it's that type of country taxis will be really cheap so not worth fighting over either way. Just make sure you get the proper rate, as a tourist you can end up paying hugely over if you don't keep your wits about you, that would worry me more than who pays what %.

I'd respond "hey, just a little correction to the math: I'll pay 25 percent of group costs since I'll be one of four persons on the holiday."

But your default assumption should be that you pay your share (75%). It's clear that it wasn't and your default assumption was that she would pay some of your costs by splitting the bill 50:50

Wellsaid, @mrsm43s

I still am baffled as to why anyone would think an unrelated adult should be financially disadvantaged in circumstances such as this. Why the belief that solo/childfree should pay more than their share "to be nice "???

It's unbelievable the way some people think, isn't it?
Maybe the kids could get part-time jobs as chimney sweeps so they can chip in.🙄

I have never heard of taxis charging per person. It is per journey.

Black cabs charge extra based on number of people.

How much money are we talking about over the whole holiday? £50? £100? £200?

If it's not a lot then suck it up but if > £100 then I'd agree general principles for bill splitting and list taxi as one of them.

"Hey! Just wanted to clarify how we'll handle bill splitting on holiday. For activities/meals that are priced per person, I'll cover that cost for me and my kids. For any activities with a fixed cost (e.g., boat hire), we'll split the total 50/50. Hope that works for you! Let me know if you have any questions 😊"

I agree that both could be seen as fair. What isn't fair is labelling someone as either a tightwad or entitled just because their default position is different to yours.

I think both ways could be seen as fair, if I was the one with kids I'd be fine paying more, although if I were the single person I'd probably offer to pay half especially if I knew it would help the other person out. But it's quibbles like this that put me off going on holiday with friends - we only ever go on holiday as a family, and we have joint finances so splitting costs never comes up. It sounds like an extra headache on top of all the other stresses of travelling.

Your friend.

I'm sorry but I think this holiday is going be a big strain on your friendship.

Haha yes then she will have to pay for her own cab! Serves her right

50/50 for the taxi and obviously for food and outings you will pay your share as you have the kids. Bit tight of her, are you going to raise it with her?

In a group setting like this, I would find it normal to share, not overly taking the piss.

1 adult will say lunch is on me today, another adult will say dinner is on me today etc. I would find this normal, most people would.

Then you get the types of people who order steak and wine when someone else is paying but will only order a side salad and a glass of water when they have to pay.

Someone who is already picking at taxi fares being split 4 ways when 2 passengers are teenagers strikes me as a tightwad already.

Wow, that's a lot to read into someone wanting to pay their fair share of the costs and not subsidise another family!

OP, I would go down the route of the taxi being too crammed and we might as well get our own.

I think you need to let her off on her own during this holiday.
I think this holiday is about her and not you.
You sound afraid of her.
Very bad idea going on holiday with someone you feel afaid to get on the wrong side of, much less inflict her on your children.

I would be telling her NOW that she can head off and do her own thing as you are on a tight budget and will be spending accordingly.

It’s not a big deal though is it? Essentially stressing over whether you cover an extra 25% of a taxi fare?

Some people have said 50 /50 , some have said 25 / 75

It’s a saving on 100% either way.

25% of a taxi fare is hardly enough for someone to be ‘on the make’ or enough for you to pull stunts like saying you’ll take your own taxi, as PP have suggested.

Relax and enjoy your hol

I still think you're absolutely right OP