One of my DS's school friend's mums - we started to get to know each other a few months ago and having a few play dates here and there ( our kids are in reception and of the opposite sex ).
After getting to know her a bit better, it has become very clear that I just can't be friends with her.
She's just too bossy, judgemental, arrogant and forceful for me. I can't be friends with people like her, I know, from experience.
I've been keeping a low profile and not engaging much but of course still totally polite.
I think she is the type who'll ask if something is wrong, as we don't see each other much anymore. Usually I just say stuff like ' I'm busy ' etc. I never tell people the reason for fear of causing upset etc. ( I'm not saying this happens a lot, but it's happened before that I got friendly with someone and then realised it's not a friendship for me).
Then the person has asked me what's wrong and usually I brush it off and continue to stop asking them to hang out and eventually they get it.
I'm considering just telling her that whilst I think she's a nice person, I think our personalities clash.
Has anyone ever done that ? It's just a bad idea isn't it ?