To be fuming about this work meeting?

The last one is fine but the other two aren't great.

As a woman in the workplace you should never ask a man's permission to speak.

And the second sounds like a toddler trying to snatch their toy back.

But aside from that this is a manager problem. Your manager or the person chairing the meeting should be a lot more proactive in these situations. So I'd approach them and ask for feedback.

Why on earth didn't you use some of the perfect responses in the first few posts. Stand up for yourself!

I like the idea of emailing the presentation to everyone at the meeting " Thanks for your time on Thursday. Due to constraints Steve wouldn't shut his stupid mouth I wasn't able to cover all of the key points at Thursday's session, so I attach the deck. Happy to answer any questions you may have."

I would speak to your boss. She should have had your back and stopped Steve's unnecessary yapping. You could frame it as "I found it difficult to keep the presentation on track as Steve kept diverting and adding unnecessary points. How do you recommend I handle this in future?" . If she is a decent boss, she will likely apologise.

Does Steve actually need to be in these meetings? Sounds like he is at same level as you so what was his role in the room? You could also question the size of meetings as having unnecessary people there like Steve creates cost for the company as they could be doing something else.

Have not RTFT.
OP: FGS speak up
Also tell your manager to speak up.

"Steve I am speaking, don't interrupt" every timr

@olegsyka

I would write an email to your senior boss, copying in your immediate manager (she of sympathetic face but doing nothing), with a report attached, stating something along the lines of:

I'm writing further to the team meeting last week as I have been a key leader on this project (but another colleague's enthusiasm to participate OR time constraints) meant it wasn't possible for me to set out to you everything that has been achieved. I thought it would be helpful for you to have a written report setting this out and answering the questions you raised to give some more detail and information (as some details given by a colleague weren't fully accurate or complete).

Whether you go down the colleague explanation or the "time constraints" explanation depends on whether you want to highlight your irritation with Steve or not – unless he is a very inexperienced boss I'm sure he could see what was happening to some extent, but you definitely don't want Steve getting all the credit for your hard work

Head up, shoulders back, take a deep breath and open your mouth my dear.
You're confident in your work, you're confident in your capabilities. Use that confidence and tell him, Steve this is my time

Too late to change the meeting but I would email the big boss and cc your line manager to correct the inaccurate information that Steve gave them.

I feel bad now for anyone called Steve 😂😂😂😂

First poster said it all. Go for it. I can't stand Steve's 😂

Head tilt and smile like a proud parent when Steve is steve-ing. Then patronise him: "Oh, well done Steve, you've pretty much got it." before retaking control "There's just a couple of details you haven't quite got right, if I could just summarise correctly for everyone then I'd be happy to take questions from the wider group on any of the work to help clarify..."

Do you have any other allies in the group?
This is a constant issue at my work and we tag team- if one person is interrupted by a Steve, cut across him when he is loosing steam and say 'malti you were making a good pint about xyz, can you finish explaining for us all?'
'malti I don't think you were finished- please elaborate' etc.

When interrupted, I have learnt to say 'I don't think I have finished' a bit forcefully, which makes the Steve a bit embarrassed and pause a few minutes before launching his next attack.

Sounds like my work (Public Sector, specialist area), a few ridiculously dominant female colleagues take over every conversation and discussion. The men are actually OK because they are terrified of the women 😂. Constant interruptions and people jumping in to finish my sentence trying to guess what I'm going to say etc, its bloody annoying.

I go absolutely silent, stare at them and let them spout a whole load of shite. The staring and staying quiet seems to force the other person to start waffling and they generally make a tit of themselves. I finally relax my face and body position and restart with 'going back to what i was saying earlier....' Actually never ceases to amaze me that after 25 years experience and training in a niche role people that don't even work in my field think they know better than me.

It takes a while, bit like toilet training a toddler but eventually folk start to keep their face shut.

You needed to speak up in the meeting. "I'm sorry Steve, but I was speaking just now and would appreciate if you would hold back, until I've finished."

"Steve, excuse me, but can I just point out that what you are saying is wrong (explain why is wrong). I've been working on this project for some time and I'm keen to share my findings with you which are all backed up by authentic research."

OP, you ask how to look like you’re not creating a scene. If you use the language provided “Steve, if I can just finish my sentence please” you look professional but have politely pointed out that he has spoken over you.

I am in senior management and if someone is loud and someone is quite I can only hear the loud person. You need to speak up

I volunteer and Steve sounds like me. I know I’m over bearing. I need to do better

Nailed it.

id also add
“Steve, if you can let me finish…”
”Steve, if I can just finish my train of thought…”

First answer is spot on.
Anyone who needs support with these basics is destined to remain on the bottom of any structured organisation. The doer of stuff.

I’m not saying it’s right, but I am saying it’s true.

Is Steve the male equivalent of Karen?

Steve - you're an inadequate
Steve - you've got tiny penis syndrome
Steve - you do love the sound of your own voice, don't you.

i bloody hate Steve and I've never even met him

“Just let me finish my point Steve”.
”No, that’s not what I meant Steve”
“My point was…”
”Steve, let me finish my sentence”
”As I was saying…”

”FFS Steve, just shut up for a minute will you?”

Next time speak up…..and over him if necessary! Speak to your boss and say that’s what you intend to do. He’s behaving like this because you’re allowing him to - don’t!

now that would be a good trick in a live meeting!

See if you can mute him....and watch him unmute. Then mute him again

Yes, you should have. Other posters have offered great suggestions. Others have also pointed out (correctly) a man is unlikely to get talked over like that. Advocating for yourself is not being bitchy.

further, I think you need a chat with your boss. She should have stepped in if the meeting was getting highjacked. I mean, that’s part of managing isn’t it? You could use words like "disappointed".

😂😂