To think children shouldn't be swearing in primary school

Yes, I’m mid thirties and it wasn’t common place at school when I was there. I remember coming home in year 6 having learnt a swear word for the first time and getting very told off for saying it at home.

Same. I don’t remember swearing at primary school either.

They didn't when I was young. Genuinely, when I was in primary 6 I remember seeing "fuck off" written on the wall in a leisure centre swimming pool. I had no idea what that word meant I had never encountered it. And I'm not even 40

Well neither is acceptable in my opinion. Obviously the abuse is not ok and she should have been disciplined for that but neither is the swearing, particularly if they are primary aged.

I don’t like it and don’t swear much at home so don’t expect my DC to. I raised it with school in y1!!! And I was told nothing they could do so apparently it’s acceptable behaviour.

I think it’s pretty sad that primary school children are exposed to swearing so regularly that it is becoming part of their vocabulary. I know it happens but it’s sad and I feel sorry for those children and the environment they are being brought up in.

I remember hearing lots of swearing in the playground in the 80s - and I remember a particularly effective assembly where the Headmistress bawled us out over it.

There has always been, and always will be, swearing in the playground.

But the swearing your child is experiencing is directed at him as an act of aggression and that is not acceptable.

I think saying fuck, shit or any other word is nowhere near the awful things on the list of what happens in primary school ranging from bullying, harassment, stealing, aggression.

My daughter was attacked on a school trip and assaulted, she did not fight back, the mum took zero accountability for her daughters behavior and then brought up my daughter had said "Fuck Off" to her suitcase when it tipped over 😂

So ya know, she was fine with her daughter assaulting someone but god forbid she hears the word fuck.

You are being naive if you don't realise this is everyday language at home for many children.

@Dishwashersaurous That sounds more like aggressive behaviour that absolutely needs raising with the school.

Swearing though is pretty par for the course. My son in year 1 has been taught the middle finger, and the word 'shift', because some kids (including the lovely teacher of swear words and frequent in-class hitter) in year 1 can't say shit yet. My son asked us about both. And if he was still allowed to say 'shift'.

It sounds like bullying is the issue. Kids swear from a young age, I heard lots of fucks and shits at primary school in the 80s (don't remember hearing cunt until later though). My experience was kids swore at primary school but you didn't hear teachers swear much until secondary school.

In your case the real problem is the child's aggression. You can't stop them swearing and can't prevent your child learning the words.

The context is so important, and yours is worthy of a call to the school as it sounds as if he is aggressively swearing and IMO thats not ok.

I swear, not aggressively but probably alot in general conversation, I never swear at my kids but swear infront of them so id be deluded to think they dont swear.

However, if they were randomly swearing at people aggressively then thats an absolute no in my book, i also dont condone them shouting it in the playground when younger children or anyone really could hear.

I wouldn’t be concerned if it’s done without malice. In my view, these are just words and some people get too angsty about them. Clearly, DC should be taught when it is and is not appropriate to do so. Swearing between friends went on when my DC were at primary school in the 2000s.

However, like any other form of bullying or aggression, the incidents involving your DS need to be dealt with.

What you're describing seems to be some form of bullying, which I would want dealt with by the school.

Anyone who thinks primary aged kids don't swear is deluded though.

I would have any specific issue with swearing in the playground. However, if it’s being done aggressively towards an individual, it should be dealt with like any other nasty or aggressive behaviour.