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Gentle reminder

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Burnout50 · 06/02/2025 11:31

Can f*&k off.

Gives me the absolute rage

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Benjibas · 06/02/2025 22:28

Who thinks “I look forward to hearing from you” is aggressive?

ShittyTitty · 06/02/2025 22:24

What about a cheeky reminder?

PlainJaneSuperbrainthe2nd · 06/02/2025 22:07

YADNBU - one of my pet hates too! Invariably received when I've either already done something but it's sent out to everyone, or when it's something I have no intention of doing

carkerpartridge · 06/02/2025 17:01

My dentist sends the "gentle reminder" email too, it's completely unnecessary annoying.
Also "polite notices" which are usually asking people not to park somewhere.

TwinklyFawn · 06/02/2025 16:53

I hate the phrase gentle reminder. My dentist will send an email that says this is a gentle reminder of your appointment on x date.

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Burnout50 · 06/02/2025 16:41

northernballer · 06/02/2025 16:36

I had one 'softly reminding' me about a meeting the other week, I almost didn't go on purpose.

Softly??? 😂😂

I've heard it all now... 😬

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Coconuthotchocolate · 06/02/2025 16:38

Omg. Our division does this all the time. There’s nothing gentle about it and it makes my head spin off my shoulders! Why not be direct and say
‘just a quick reminder of…’?

northernballer · 06/02/2025 16:36

I had one 'softly reminding' me about a meeting the other week, I almost didn't go on purpose.

Redfred00 · 06/02/2025 16:33

With all due respect 😆

SofaSpuds · 06/02/2025 16:31

Can't help but laugh OP - Gentle reminder, my arse!! It's invariably a passive aggressive bitchy reminder 🤣

whoevenknowsanymore · 06/02/2025 16:24

Disagree - I work with people who can get very defensive when given feedback. They respond better when I frame things with 'polite reminder' or 'quick' or 'gentle'

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 06/02/2025 16:15

DUsername · 06/02/2025 11:38

Agree but it's not as annoying as the people on here who say 'kindly/gently op' at the start of a reply to a post and then go on to be absolute bitches.

Yes what’s the point of saying Gently or Kindly? The rest of the post will show how kind or gentle it is.

JudgeBread · 06/02/2025 16:06

Eightdayz · 06/02/2025 15:49

I didn't assume anything. I guessed correctly that you haven't responded to something. And you haven't. The fact it's something minor is irrelevant isn't it.

Pull up your big girl pants and respond. Then you won't be chased for not responding.

Simples.

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Admit it, you're the webinar host and you're pissy because no one has signed up to your webinar?

ThighsYouCantControl · 06/02/2025 16:04

Ooh I hate this too. It’s weirdly patronising? I also hate on AIBU when someone asks how to “gently tell someone they’re being unreasonable because I fundamentally disagree with what they believe?” Or something. Just tell them. Politely. Or not. But accept that you might not change their mind and move on.

RobertaFirmino · 06/02/2025 16:01

There's no need is there? Reminders, like all communication, should be polite as default. As for 'gentle', how bloody gentle can you be about 'Please take your mugs back to the kitchen at the end of the day. Thanks.'?

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Burnout50 · 06/02/2025 15:57

Skandar · 06/02/2025 15:55

And yes, I agree - regardless of whether the reminder is needed or not, it never needs to be 'gentle'. Its just a reminder.

💯

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Skandar · 06/02/2025 15:55

And yes, I agree - regardless of whether the reminder is needed or not, it never needs to be 'gentle'. Its just a reminder.

Skandar · 06/02/2025 15:54

Eightdayz · 06/02/2025 15:49

I didn't assume anything. I guessed correctly that you haven't responded to something. And you haven't. The fact it's something minor is irrelevant isn't it.

Pull up your big girl pants and respond. Then you won't be chased for not responding.

Simples.

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I would guess, because we get it a lot at my place, that it is more a company wide 'gentle reminder that if you haven't yet signed up to this dull webinar, there are still spaces' rather than chasing people to say yes or no.

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Burnout50 · 06/02/2025 15:54

No. You did not guess correctly.

There was no expectation that i answer the email.

And also from a noreply email address, so I couldn't, even if i wanted to.

And like, it's clearly a rant. Get with the program. 🙄

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JudgeBread · 06/02/2025 15:52

I always think of Umbridge whenever anyone starts a sentence or email with "gentle reminder", it's so appallingly saccharin and patronising

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Eightdayz · 06/02/2025 15:49

Burnout50 · 06/02/2025 13:14

Here's another novel idea... don't assume i forgot, or 'didn't do' anything...

The latest one was from work about a non compulsory webinar that hasn't happened yet.

I totally understand sending out emails reminding people that something is happening or needs to be done. But f*king gentle can f*k off as already stated.

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I didn't assume anything. I guessed correctly that you haven't responded to something. And you haven't. The fact it's something minor is irrelevant isn't it.

Pull up your big girl pants and respond. Then you won't be chased for not responding.

Simples.

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Burnout50 · 06/02/2025 13:14

Eightdayz · 06/02/2025 12:15

Heres a novel idea.... Maybe if you did what was being asked there wouldn't be any need for reminders!

I'd need to know what's being asked of you to know if it's unreasonable to avoid it.

Here's another novel idea... don't assume i forgot, or 'didn't do' anything...

The latest one was from work about a non compulsory webinar that hasn't happened yet.

I totally understand sending out emails reminding people that something is happening or needs to be done. But f*king gentle can f*k off as already stated.

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Bbq1 · 06/02/2025 12:18

As bad as a notice for something that actually begins with the words, "Polite Notice". What's the alternative? "Rude Notice"?!

Eightdayz · 06/02/2025 12:15

Heres a novel idea.... Maybe if you did what was being asked there wouldn't be any need for reminders!

I'd need to know what's being asked of you to know if it's unreasonable to avoid it.

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Burnout50 · 06/02/2025 11:50

Acceptable (in my world)...
A reminder
A final reminder

I could live with...
A quick reminder

Bad...
A gentle reminder
A friendly reminder
A polite reminder (actually probably worse than gentle, but don't see it as much)

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