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How the term 'poverty' has changed

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Deeperthantheocean · 05/02/2025 23:35

Just this really.

Poverty in my grandparents' age was 'be rich, a gangster, work hard or you die'.

This was so true, whole different era and real poverty from their times being born in the 1910s and the aftermath. Sadly my GF died so GM was alone bringing up 2 children and then adopting another as that's what what you did when members of the family were being abused. No benefits, only a council where you to practically beg for help and it was so looked down upon and gossip then was brutal.

So, a little 2 bedroom house, outhouse toilet, coal fire, no electricity. My GM worked all day and night... cleaning, making clothes and took in 2 male lodgers in the downstairs 'parlour', made breakfast and evening meals for them.

The 3 girls shared a double bed, GM got up at 4am every morning to bring in coal and make the fire before everyone else got up to go to work/ school. Then she went to work, physical cleaning work to the rich and snooty. The sad thing is she was she was so intelligent, gifted at creativity and music (she played the church organ with music she learnt from heart voluntarily) and sowed the most beautiful dresses. Also cakes.

Having rambled on a bit because this is deep to my heart hearing the stories, poverty was a case of just being able to survive, eat and have a roof. The DC were incredibly intelligent but had to to go to work aged 15 cand over all their wages for the family fund.

Poverty now has a different criteria, which of course it should as society has progressed. However aibu to compare the claim to poverty now to then? There is help, UC, recognition of SEN with DLa etc.

Sorry, but now those claiming poverty now wouldn't consider letting out a room, working all day and night, making clothes and baking just to survive.

Am I right? I wouldn't either as there has been so much to eradicate these hard times but I truly respect the hardship and feel so grateful for what we have now. Xx

OP posts:
WeylandYutani · 08/02/2025 01:56

PetuniaT · 07/02/2025 18:17

Precisely! Priorities are completely wrong these days. A smartphone is not an "essential item"

No, a smartphone is an essential item. Yes, there are people out there that cope without one... but if you actually know them, they are relying on people around them that do have smartphones for their life admin.
My dad does not have a smartphone. He keeps being sent links from his GP that he can't access. So, my mum has to do his life admin for him.

JoyousGreyOrca · 08/02/2025 01:50

@BettyBardMacDonald It is degrading if you had to constantly ask friends if you could use their phone or computer to do essential things. I can guarantee if you put a post on MN saying something like - my friend is poor, so she does not have a phone. But she keeps asking to use mine to update her Universal Credit journal, buy things, contact the council, and other admin. AIBU to think this is cheeky and she should just get her own phone?
Nearly everyone would say the friend was cheeky

BettyBardMacDonald · 08/02/2025 01:47

"People like the person you’ve replied to would argue that people should just go to the library, or use someone else’s phone/computer, even though the former has limited opening hours, or may no longer be open at all, and the latter is just degrading."

What bollocks. There's nothing degrading about sharing resources. Talk about snobbery.

shehasglasses48 · 07/02/2025 22:23

OP, for your sake I really hope your circumstances don’t change and you and your children, if you have any, don’t have to confront the reality you clearly feel has been consigned to the undeserving

Greenkindness · 07/02/2025 21:10

PetuniaT · 07/02/2025 18:17

Precisely! Priorities are completely wrong these days. A smartphone is not an "essential item"

Internet access is pretty essential. You might not get it through work (we’re not allowed to use our work computers for personal internet use) and you might not have eg a library. How do people apply for benefits or jobs, look for cheap energy prices etc without internet? Some places don’t have a bank branch they can access. You might be working long hours and these things might not be open when you’re not working. Secondary Schools expect internet access at home. So so much of life is online. You will probably tell me you can exist without the internet but it’s harder.

HaddyAbrams · 07/02/2025 20:39

LakieLady · 07/02/2025 20:19

Because UC has to be managed online, even the street homeless have smartphones now.

Did you mean this reply for someone else?

Crikeyalmighty · 07/02/2025 20:26

I also think what we consider now as normal has changed a lot- I remember in the 70s visiting my great aunt and uncle a lot - they had quite a decent house in a good area but still plugged irons etc into light fittings- weird or what - they also had an outside loo - thing was my uncle had a section manager job in a supermarket so not amazingly well paid, but my great aunt did zero work wise after getting married and they had no kids- she wasn't ill or anything - just did zero paid work - to me they seemed quite poor but not suprisingly if only one ever worked and not in a high earning job- no top ups then etc!

Times have changed

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 20:21

Orangelight23 · 07/02/2025 19:52

Am I missing something? Isn't this a good thing?

Yes. OP does sound a bit nostalgic. Maybe she should move to India or something.

LakieLady · 07/02/2025 20:19

HaddyAbrams · 07/02/2025 18:34

It really really is. If not a smart phone then a laptop or other way to get online. A smartphone is the most convenient of all the options.

Because UC has to be managed online, even the street homeless have smartphones now.

watchuswreckthemic · 07/02/2025 20:08

This recent report from the Joseph Rowntree Foundation might be a helpful read for those posters asking questions

www.jrf.org.uk/uk-poverty-2025-the-essential-guide-to-understanding-poverty-in-the-uk

Kindofembarrasing · 07/02/2025 20:03

ElizabethTaylorsEyebrow · 07/02/2025 19:58

Most on MN think having kids should be only for the rich anyway. So yes I’m sure selling them to a nice affluent family would kill two birds with one stone in their view.

They probably wouldn't even think it necessary for it to be a nice affluent family, seeing as they already constantly recommend broke families take in a random lodger into their child's personal space. Why not sell them to the dodgy man down the road? How dare anyone have the temerity to complain about their financial situation if they haven't tried that first!!

ElizabethTaylorsEyebrow · 07/02/2025 19:58

Kindofembarrasing · 07/02/2025 19:53

Yup no broke person has a spare room to rent out a lot of broke families all live in one small room together.
That aside what kind of advice is it to tell someone with kids to take a random stranger into their personal space?
That's exactly how kids get sexually abused.

Your average potential lodger willing to live in the corner of a broke families home is probably that down on their luck for a reason drugs, alcohol or just being a general scumbag. But sure people like op keep making these threads asking why broke people don't just take in lodgers 🙄 I'm sure the next big step will be asking why broke people don't just sell their kids because that's where this is going.

Most on MN think having kids should be only for the rich anyway. So yes I’m sure selling them to a nice affluent family would kill two birds with one stone in their view.

Kindofembarrasing · 07/02/2025 19:53

Angrymum22 · 07/02/2025 18:51

I think there is some misunderstanding over lodgers in the past. In the 19th century a lodger would be given a corner of a room with a sheet or blanket strung up to separate the space. There were no spare rooms to rent out. Just board and lodging and maybe you could pay extra for laundry. They basically were just another body in the living space that paid rent. The traditional boarding houses that my DF stayed in the mid 20th century were normal houses where the grown up family had mainly left leaving spare rooms to rent out. DF shared a small room with a friend but felt they had fallen on their feet because the landlady was a brilliant cook. Apparently she had a legendary temper though and often threatened her DH with an axe. She was always very friendly with her lodgers though.

Yup no broke person has a spare room to rent out a lot of broke families all live in one small room together.
That aside what kind of advice is it to tell someone with kids to take a random stranger into their personal space?
That's exactly how kids get sexually abused.

Your average potential lodger willing to live in the corner of a broke families home is probably that down on their luck for a reason drugs, alcohol or just being a general scumbag. But sure people like op keep making these threads asking why broke people don't just take in lodgers 🙄 I'm sure the next big step will be asking why broke people don't just sell their kids because that's where this is going.

Orangelight23 · 07/02/2025 19:52

Am I missing something? Isn't this a good thing?

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/02/2025 19:50

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 19:46

Because they don't want to be tempted themselves because they're former addicts, isn't that right?
Or is it because of the behaviour?

Not necessarily former addicts. Some start using drugs because they're sleeping outside not vice versa. I'm going mainly by what I've been told by people coming to a foodbank.

ElizabethTaylorsEyebrow · 07/02/2025 19:46

Sawcootstoday · 07/02/2025 19:21

I don't think capitalism "works" more or less than many other ways. The idea is to keep adjusting and trying new things. (That or revolution, which most of us want to avoid, even if the outcome is successful.)

Yes how do we judge “working?” I’d say the current state of the UK economy suggests the model could certainly be improved, at least.

And not all versions of capitalism are the same. For example both the US and Sweden are capitalist countries. But the US is at the extreme end of the capitalist spectrum, being a very low tax, low public services/support, low regulation economy. Whereas Sweden has high taxes but also better and more widely available public services and heavier regulation of industry.

The Swedish model results in a higher quality of life for the general population, but the US model arguably has more advantages for enterprise, innovation, individual freedoms etc (at least that’s what its supporters might say).

There are plenty of tweaks you can make even within capitalism to significantly change things for the better.

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 19:46

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/02/2025 19:45

Some avoid the B &Bs even when its snowing, because of the other people there using drugs.

Because they don't want to be tempted themselves because they're former addicts, isn't that right?
Or is it because of the behaviour?

Ketzele · 07/02/2025 19:45

GutsyShark realistically, no alternative to capitalism at this time. But given that creating poverty is a feature not a bug, we need to manage this to reduce the level of human misery, not pretend we all have equal agency or opportunity.

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/02/2025 19:45

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 19:43

Are there really people sleeping rough without any of these problems being refused by the hostels? For what reason? I knew the street homeless people where I used to live and they all had problems.

Some avoid the B &Bs even when its snowing, because of the other people there using drugs.

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 19:43

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/02/2025 19:30

Not all though.

Are there really people sleeping rough without any of these problems being refused by the hostels? For what reason? I knew the street homeless people where I used to live and they all had problems.

Rhaenys · 07/02/2025 19:39

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/02/2025 19:26

It absolutely is essential as explained several times already.

People like the person you’ve replied to would argue that people should just go to the library, or use someone else’s phone/computer, even though the former has limited opening hours, or may no longer be open at all, and the latter is just degrading.

GutsyShark · 07/02/2025 19:36

Sawcootstoday · 07/02/2025 19:21

I don't think capitalism "works" more or less than many other ways. The idea is to keep adjusting and trying new things. (That or revolution, which most of us want to avoid, even if the outcome is successful.)

I agree. It was a genuine question, no other system has ever lasted (as far as I’m aware). I was not suggesting it’s perfect at all.

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/02/2025 19:30

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 19:29

I think rough sleeping has more to do with mental illness and addictions. These can be consequences of poverty, of course.

Not all though.

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 19:29

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/02/2025 00:08

No you're not right.

Some people are still hungry and malnourished. Unable to sleep due to the cold. Some don't have a roof over their heads, living on the streets. Desperate.

Bugger all to do with gangsters.

Edited

I think rough sleeping has more to do with mental illness and addictions. These can be consequences of poverty, of course.

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 19:28

Yes, there's absolute and relative poverty. Absolute poverty still exists in some countries. Relative poverty is shit too, not being able to take a proper part in the your own society. Some might say it's easier when everyone is poor than being the poor person surrounded by others who have things.

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