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How the term 'poverty' has changed

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Deeperthantheocean · 05/02/2025 23:35

Just this really.

Poverty in my grandparents' age was 'be rich, a gangster, work hard or you die'.

This was so true, whole different era and real poverty from their times being born in the 1910s and the aftermath. Sadly my GF died so GM was alone bringing up 2 children and then adopting another as that's what what you did when members of the family were being abused. No benefits, only a council where you to practically beg for help and it was so looked down upon and gossip then was brutal.

So, a little 2 bedroom house, outhouse toilet, coal fire, no electricity. My GM worked all day and night... cleaning, making clothes and took in 2 male lodgers in the downstairs 'parlour', made breakfast and evening meals for them.

The 3 girls shared a double bed, GM got up at 4am every morning to bring in coal and make the fire before everyone else got up to go to work/ school. Then she went to work, physical cleaning work to the rich and snooty. The sad thing is she was she was so intelligent, gifted at creativity and music (she played the church organ with music she learnt from heart voluntarily) and sowed the most beautiful dresses. Also cakes.

Having rambled on a bit because this is deep to my heart hearing the stories, poverty was a case of just being able to survive, eat and have a roof. The DC were incredibly intelligent but had to to go to work aged 15 cand over all their wages for the family fund.

Poverty now has a different criteria, which of course it should as society has progressed. However aibu to compare the claim to poverty now to then? There is help, UC, recognition of SEN with DLa etc.

Sorry, but now those claiming poverty now wouldn't consider letting out a room, working all day and night, making clothes and baking just to survive.

Am I right? I wouldn't either as there has been so much to eradicate these hard times but I truly respect the hardship and feel so grateful for what we have now. Xx

OP posts:
Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 12:04

"I remember visiting my grandparents and, even until the 1980s, there was still only an outside toilet and no central heating."

I mentioned the outside toilet in my own family, but neither set of grandparents ever had central heating. That wasn't necessarily a terrible thing as long as you had electricity and/or a coal fire. The coal fire heated the room people sat in and heaters elsewhere as needed and it was fine. I also wouldn't say it was a sign of poverty for any of my grandparents as I presume they could have installed it if they wanted to, but had never been used to it.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 12:01

"This is true to an extent, but people forget that standards can go backwards as well as forwards. "

When you go a historial site and discover they had running water or a heating system thousands of years ago and yet in the 1960s people didn't have that.

Is the West as a whole really in decline though? The UK is bad because of inflation, rising cost of living and 15 years of Tory government leading to an increase in equality and a running down of public services.

MidnightMeltdown · 08/02/2025 11:58

Another2Cats · 06/02/2025 08:02

Yes, the idea of "poverty" has indeed changed over time; and I, for one, think that is a good thing.

My mum grew up in a house with only an outside toilet and no central heating. I remember visiting my grandparents and, even until the 1980s, there was still only an outside toilet and no central heating.

I am very glad that our ideas of poverty have moved forward.

This idea of what a concept (eg "poverty") means changes over time in many different areas, not just poverty, to take account of changes in social standards and attitudes.

To take an extreme example, the concept of "cruelty" is the same today as it was when the Bill of Rights 1688 forbade the infliction of "cruel and unusual punishments". But changes in social standards mean that punishments which would not have been regarded as cruel in 1688 will be so regarded today.

Or how about the concept of a child's "welfare"? That word was used in section 1 of the Guardianship of Infants Act 1925, now section 1 of the Children Act 1989. The concept of "welfare" is, no doubt, the same today as it was in 1925 but the content of that concept has changed and continues to change.

A child's welfare is to be judged today by the standards of reasonable men and women in 2025 – not by the standards of their grandparents (or maybe now, great grandparents) in 1925 or their parents in the 1980s.

The concept of "poverty" is no different.

Edited

This is true to an extent, but people forget that standards can go backwards as well as forwards. The UK (or in fact the West as a whole) has peaked and is now in decline.

People often say things like, 'this shouldn't happen in 2025', as if they think that standards can only move forwards, but this simply isn't true. Countries rise and fall.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 11:58

MidnightMeltdown · 08/02/2025 11:41

*If your partner works for the emergency services then surely he must be on at least the national average?

Unless he's a new starter, police men, ambulance staff, firefighters etc get at least that. Not really poverty.*

It's like Keir Starmer trying to make out that he grew up in poverty despite both his parents having decent professions! They were just an average family.

An average family decades ago had a lower standard of living than we do now though.
My own father was brought up with an outside toilet, didn't have a bath until he was 18, cardboard in their shoes, etc. His father had a public sector job, but had to sleep away for it sometimes so just being 'ordinary' in those days could mean poor compared to now.

Having said that, Starmer is not my dad's age so maybe I'm talking rubbish.

Talipesmum · 08/02/2025 11:57

MidnightMeltdown · 08/02/2025 11:35

If your partner works for the emergency services then surely he must be on at least the national average?

Unless he's a new starter, police men, ambulance staff, firefighters etc get at least that. Not really poverty.

The poster was saying that despite all the work she does, and despite her partner working in the emergency services, they still struggle to afford enough for nutritious meals for all, and sanitary products for her. And they can’t let out a room. I think her point is that even with all they do, it is hard. She said she wouldn’t quite describe herself as in poverty (though it clearly feels hard). But if that’s what two earning people working v hard can end up with, with good “at least the national average” wage, how much worse would it be for those with less? It’s not a big leap to see how the cost of housing traps people and can easily send many into poverty.

MidnightMeltdown · 08/02/2025 11:49

ClaredeBear · 06/02/2025 07:55

It's about relative poverty within the UK and the comparison is the gap between the current haves and the have nots, not necessarily between poverty now and poverty then.

It's called inequality.

I don't think that it's useful to use the term poverty in lot of circumstances as people don't see it as poverty.

MidnightMeltdown · 08/02/2025 11:41

*If your partner works for the emergency services then surely he must be on at least the national average?

Unless he's a new starter, police men, ambulance staff, firefighters etc get at least that. Not really poverty.*

It's like Keir Starmer trying to make out that he grew up in poverty despite both his parents having decent professions! They were just an average family.

CaptainMyCaptain · 08/02/2025 11:36

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 11:34

I wasn't talking about homelessness itself, but rough sleeping and I made that clear so don't mis-quote me.

But some choose to sleep outside because they see hostel or B&B accommodation as more dangerous and they are not drug addicts. This is a fact.

MidnightMeltdown · 08/02/2025 11:35

simplythezest · 06/02/2025 01:24

I would almost describe myself as 'in poverty' now. I work three jobs, one full time, one night shifts and one cleaning job in the early mornings- I still can't afford to provide myself with three (home cooked, from scratch) meals a day- I go without so my family don't have to.

I rent, so therefore can't sublet a room, my rent is over a grand a month, my council tax is £200pm. That's without bills, basic necessities such as a phone bill and transport (transport of which I have cut down to the bare minimum, I take two trains and a 20 minute walk to work- there are no jobs closer to home that wouldn't mean taking a pay cut).

My partner works for the emergency services and earns less than I do. He saves lives and puts his life at risk each day, to earn pennies.

This past month, I couldn't afford to purchase sanitary products for myself- doing so would mean taking money out of the food pot.

I wouldn't blatantly describe myself as in poverty, as there are many thousands of people worse off than me, and although I go without, I manage just fine; however I find your comments outdated, and frankly blind to the current financial climate.

If your partner works for the emergency services then surely he must be on at least the national average?

Unless he's a new starter, police men, ambulance staff, firefighters etc get at least that. Not really poverty.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/02/2025 11:34

MibsXX · 08/02/2025 03:48

Because they prefer not to have the crap beaten out of them, their scant possessions stolen, or assaulted. Please don't assume that all homeless folks got there because of addictions or fecklessness, and I really hope you're never ever put in that position yourself.

I wasn't talking about homelessness itself, but rough sleeping and I made that clear so don't mis-quote me.

Flozle · 08/02/2025 11:26

What you should be upset about is that we live in the 21st century and those holding power and obscene wealth are allowing poverty to continue. It's not a competition to see who had it harder.

Tumbleweed101 · 08/02/2025 09:26

People fought to change that level of poverty. It was through the suffering of those eras we have developed support for our poorer or more vulnerable people.

It may not look the same but modern day poverty is just as hard for those experiencing it. We are in a different age, you would struggle to survive without the internet or a device that connects to it. You can’t even pay a car park fee without a phone in some places.

Kindofembarrasing · 08/02/2025 08:52

Angrymum22 · 08/02/2025 07:27

I think if you read the post it explains that taking in lodgers historically was a very normal and common thing to do and probably solved the housing problems at that time. It is no longer seen as normal practice for some of the reasons you state but also because of the welfare state it no longer was necessary.
We often comment on women who never worked, letting out rooms to lodgers in the middle of the 20th century was a side hustle for many women. They were already looking after one man for nothing, why not take in paying lodgers and make a bit of money yourself. In fact in slightly better off households they were referred to as “paying guest”.Being a landlady was a career for many women.
I don’t think that OP is suggesting that we all rent out space in our houses, but it was incredibly common in all levels of society in the past.
It’s quite interesting that many pp find it so shocking and it puts them firmly in the younger generations who have no memories of the practice.
I remember Coronation Street in the 60s and 70s several of the fictitious households had lodgers. No one questioned it or thought it weird since it reflected real life in the working classes. There are still plenty of people who rent out rooms to other working people but maybe you don’t move in those circles.

My DS’s friend is buying a house to do up where they are students, he works for his dad in construction when not at uni so it’s a joint enterprise to get him on the property ladder. They will spend the summer renovating and move in next academic year. DS will be his lodger along with several others. Their rent will pay the mortgage. DS will probably spend his 20s either lodging with friends or renting off landlords. Or if lucky buying a property but letting out rooms. It’s just what young professionals do.

We live rurally where many people have annexes that they rent out on a commercial basis to earn extra income. I think that with the social mobility that lead to house ownership the working classes are very snobby about sharing their homes, since a generation or two ago it would have indicated that they needed extra money.

There are plenty of threads on Mn where people have suggested taking in a lodger to solve a financial problem. No one bats an eyelid if that person is a middle class divorcee who is struggling to pay the mortgage, but god forbid we suggest useful ways to ease the burden of poverty to the unfortunate. It’s almost like you don’t want them to climb out of the poverty trap.

Edited

I am aware of what happened in the past and do not find the idea of lodgers shocking. But like I said a lot of broke families just live in one room mum dad and all the kids in one room where do you see a lodger fitting in there? Plus like I said the risk of said lodger sexually abusing the kids, no responsible parent lets a stranger live in their child's personal space. It being common in the past is meaningless, loads of kids got sexually abused in the past it just wasn't talked about.

No one bats an eyelid if it's a middle class divorcee because she presumably has a bigger house with a spare room and the kids have flown the nest. That makes a pretty big difference.

Coffeeteasugar · 08/02/2025 08:26

I work in primary schools across a county and poverty is very real and sometimes sounds like something from Victorian era stories. We have children with no winter coat, ill-fitting shoes, no tights and just a summer dress and cardigan. There are children we know who eat a school dinner on a Friday lunchtime and are not eating again until Monday lunchtime. I have had a child tell me that their mum wants to move out of their house of multiple occupancy because the child rolled off the landing, which was acting as their bedroom, and rolled down the stairs in the middle of the night. Another child was living with her parents in one room where they had one bed. Both parents had started working night shift and she was left alone all night with a downstairs neighbour (who the child didn’t know the name of) the only person in the house from 7pm - 5am. I was one of the ‘poor ones’ in my incredibly middle class school and had no idea what children were suffering on a daily basis - I thought all that was left in the past.
Not sure if anyone else has posted this but this is a good insight into poverty and what schools are coping with in some areas https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cr7e09471lyo

A class of infant-age kids are sat down with their backs to the camera as a teacher stands in front of a screen teaching an English class.

Nearly half of schools give families financial help, teachers say

A survey of teachers in England suggests lots of schools are having to provide extra help for families.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cr7e09471lyo

CaptainMyCaptain · 08/02/2025 08:23

Frowningprovidence · 08/02/2025 07:52

I don't think you both are talking about the same things as each other maybe.

In living memory it was common to have a lodger. It is still fairly common to have a lodger. I know lots of people with lodgers. It is maybe less common with young children in the house due to awareness of safeguarding risks. The thing is they are all renting out an entire room.

We have to go back a long time ago to find it was common for a family living in one room, to rent out a corner of that room and section it off with a curtain. It's not a useful way out of poverty. I very much doubt most landlords would allow a sublet of this nature. I know the people living in temporary accommodation like a hotel room would not be allowed to do this.

The modern equivalent is probably 'sofa surfing' and there is still plenty of that whether or not money changes hands and that includes families with children hosting friends or relatives just out of prison or psychiatric wards.

Coffeeteasugar · 08/02/2025 08:12

romatheroamer · 06/02/2025 07:37

I don't agree that a smartphone is a necessity. There must be a lot of older people who have an older mobile or a landline which suffices to contact people and can't be bothered with the internet.
In fact till roundabout the 70s there were whole rows of houses in some areas where nobody had a phone.

My uncle has just had to get a smartphone (he has a landline and a mobile bought in circa 2006) because his hospital appts for his cancer are sent through by text and he has to click a link to see the letters. He was having to get the hospital to send them to his sister and he wanted his independence back - that is essential.

Familysquabbles23 · 08/02/2025 08:11

JandamiHash · 06/02/2025 00:06

Also the moaning around “people wouldnt let out a room these days” - how many times did people let our rooms to creeps weirdos and people who’d prey on and abuse their children? Let’s not be dicks and say people in poverty should compromise safeguarding of children

Yes, and those in housing poverty are often housed near dubious people in unsafe environments.
It's not a good reflection on our soceity.

Adelstrop · 08/02/2025 08:09

Poverty is relative. You can compare poverty now with poverty in the past. Equally, poverty in the UK is not the same as poverty in some parts of the world. In terms of social justice, though, I think we need to see poverty as a lack of the basics for a comfortable life as it is defined within a particular society or st a particular time, and by that standard, sadly, many people are in poverty in this rich country.

Lambington · 08/02/2025 08:00

YABU. How do you "let out a room" if you don't own the house?

Frowningprovidence · 08/02/2025 07:52

Angrymum22 · 08/02/2025 07:27

I think if you read the post it explains that taking in lodgers historically was a very normal and common thing to do and probably solved the housing problems at that time. It is no longer seen as normal practice for some of the reasons you state but also because of the welfare state it no longer was necessary.
We often comment on women who never worked, letting out rooms to lodgers in the middle of the 20th century was a side hustle for many women. They were already looking after one man for nothing, why not take in paying lodgers and make a bit of money yourself. In fact in slightly better off households they were referred to as “paying guest”.Being a landlady was a career for many women.
I don’t think that OP is suggesting that we all rent out space in our houses, but it was incredibly common in all levels of society in the past.
It’s quite interesting that many pp find it so shocking and it puts them firmly in the younger generations who have no memories of the practice.
I remember Coronation Street in the 60s and 70s several of the fictitious households had lodgers. No one questioned it or thought it weird since it reflected real life in the working classes. There are still plenty of people who rent out rooms to other working people but maybe you don’t move in those circles.

My DS’s friend is buying a house to do up where they are students, he works for his dad in construction when not at uni so it’s a joint enterprise to get him on the property ladder. They will spend the summer renovating and move in next academic year. DS will be his lodger along with several others. Their rent will pay the mortgage. DS will probably spend his 20s either lodging with friends or renting off landlords. Or if lucky buying a property but letting out rooms. It’s just what young professionals do.

We live rurally where many people have annexes that they rent out on a commercial basis to earn extra income. I think that with the social mobility that lead to house ownership the working classes are very snobby about sharing their homes, since a generation or two ago it would have indicated that they needed extra money.

There are plenty of threads on Mn where people have suggested taking in a lodger to solve a financial problem. No one bats an eyelid if that person is a middle class divorcee who is struggling to pay the mortgage, but god forbid we suggest useful ways to ease the burden of poverty to the unfortunate. It’s almost like you don’t want them to climb out of the poverty trap.

Edited

I don't think you both are talking about the same things as each other maybe.

In living memory it was common to have a lodger. It is still fairly common to have a lodger. I know lots of people with lodgers. It is maybe less common with young children in the house due to awareness of safeguarding risks. The thing is they are all renting out an entire room.

We have to go back a long time ago to find it was common for a family living in one room, to rent out a corner of that room and section it off with a curtain. It's not a useful way out of poverty. I very much doubt most landlords would allow a sublet of this nature. I know the people living in temporary accommodation like a hotel room would not be allowed to do this.

CaptainMyCaptain · 08/02/2025 07:32

MibsXX · 08/02/2025 03:48

Because they prefer not to have the crap beaten out of them, their scant possessions stolen, or assaulted. Please don't assume that all homeless folks got there because of addictions or fecklessness, and I really hope you're never ever put in that position yourself.

This.

Angrymum22 · 08/02/2025 07:27

Kindofembarrasing · 07/02/2025 19:53

Yup no broke person has a spare room to rent out a lot of broke families all live in one small room together.
That aside what kind of advice is it to tell someone with kids to take a random stranger into their personal space?
That's exactly how kids get sexually abused.

Your average potential lodger willing to live in the corner of a broke families home is probably that down on their luck for a reason drugs, alcohol or just being a general scumbag. But sure people like op keep making these threads asking why broke people don't just take in lodgers 🙄 I'm sure the next big step will be asking why broke people don't just sell their kids because that's where this is going.

I think if you read the post it explains that taking in lodgers historically was a very normal and common thing to do and probably solved the housing problems at that time. It is no longer seen as normal practice for some of the reasons you state but also because of the welfare state it no longer was necessary.
We often comment on women who never worked, letting out rooms to lodgers in the middle of the 20th century was a side hustle for many women. They were already looking after one man for nothing, why not take in paying lodgers and make a bit of money yourself. In fact in slightly better off households they were referred to as “paying guest”.Being a landlady was a career for many women.
I don’t think that OP is suggesting that we all rent out space in our houses, but it was incredibly common in all levels of society in the past.
It’s quite interesting that many pp find it so shocking and it puts them firmly in the younger generations who have no memories of the practice.
I remember Coronation Street in the 60s and 70s several of the fictitious households had lodgers. No one questioned it or thought it weird since it reflected real life in the working classes. There are still plenty of people who rent out rooms to other working people but maybe you don’t move in those circles.

My DS’s friend is buying a house to do up where they are students, he works for his dad in construction when not at uni so it’s a joint enterprise to get him on the property ladder. They will spend the summer renovating and move in next academic year. DS will be his lodger along with several others. Their rent will pay the mortgage. DS will probably spend his 20s either lodging with friends or renting off landlords. Or if lucky buying a property but letting out rooms. It’s just what young professionals do.

We live rurally where many people have annexes that they rent out on a commercial basis to earn extra income. I think that with the social mobility that lead to house ownership the working classes are very snobby about sharing their homes, since a generation or two ago it would have indicated that they needed extra money.

There are plenty of threads on Mn where people have suggested taking in a lodger to solve a financial problem. No one bats an eyelid if that person is a middle class divorcee who is struggling to pay the mortgage, but god forbid we suggest useful ways to ease the burden of poverty to the unfortunate. It’s almost like you don’t want them to climb out of the poverty trap.

MibsXX · 08/02/2025 04:15

Lovebirdslovetea · 07/02/2025 02:10

I keep forgetting that it costs money to turn the cooker on. Does it really cost that much? How do you know how much it costs?

Lol, so-called stress, oops smart meters show exactly how fast the credit disappears, for me to run my oven for an hour costs 2.70 the hob is slightly more.

MibsXX · 08/02/2025 03:48

Gwenhwyfar · 07/02/2025 19:46

Because they don't want to be tempted themselves because they're former addicts, isn't that right?
Or is it because of the behaviour?

Because they prefer not to have the crap beaten out of them, their scant possessions stolen, or assaulted. Please don't assume that all homeless folks got there because of addictions or fecklessness, and I really hope you're never ever put in that position yourself.

MibsXX · 08/02/2025 03:13

Lovebirdslovetea · 06/02/2025 00:10

The person who said it’s cheaper to buy bread than make it I disagree. It’s a false economy. Shop bought bread is mostly air but if you make it yourself you can get a nice thick loaf that’s filling

But it costs a lot in ingredients, and the fuel energy to cook and does not last as long....

Flour, yeast and the electricity to run the oven would cost around 7 pounds, that bag of flour would make 2 and a half loaves, I can get 3 loaves from co-op for 3 that are half decent and edible, keep for the week and leaving me with enough to get a few cans of beans so basic packed lunches and 4 nights dinners sorted for the same

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